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Default Aug 28, 2020 at 01:38 AM
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What it says on the tin - unless someone is having problems walking or staying upright (and even then I might put it down to something else first), I don’t generally recognise when they’re drunk.
I used to go out very occasionally with colleagues or friends on the odd evening, which usually would be clubs or pubs (I’m virtually teetotal. I don’t even dance lol), so, basically places where other people would be drinking.
It just seems to me that other people can recognise drunkenness a lot better than I can. To the point where sometimes the penny didn’t drop for me that someone was drunk until someone literally pointed it out or mentioned drinking too much.
Does anyone else relate to this?
I’ve spent more time than I realise around drunks - my dad’s ‘friends’ when I was a preteen, my dad himself and the whole family got dragged to live in several pubs while me and brother were children - though there were only maybe a couple where we had any regular contact with the customers.
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Being adult children, we often have to guess as to what "normal" is.

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Default Sep 12, 2020 at 05:31 PM
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I definitely relate. I've never liked alcohol myself and am not in the drinking culture at all. I have almost never recognized when someone is drunk. Many is the time when I question someone's behavior and my husband will point out that the person is drunk. Always comes as a surprise to me.

It took me many years to look back at my childhood and realize that when my stepfather was violent and abusive he had been drinking. At the time, I had no clue at all.

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I’m an alcoholic in recovery (8 years) and towards the end I knew how to hide how drunk I was. You wouldn’t have been able to tell if you didn’t know me well.

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I’m an alcoholic in recovery (8 years) and towards the end I knew how to hide how drunk I was. You wouldn’t have been able to tell if you didn’t know me well.
I wonder if this is why I thought my dad wasn't an alcoholic when I was young- only when he became abusive when I was 12 or 13.

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Thanks for the responses, everyone. I’ve always felt embarrassed when it’s happened, because I just used to assume I ought to be able to recognise it.
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I can relate to this so much. It took me years before I realized that someone's bad driving and passing out at the dinner table was related to alcohol abuse. I thought they had a serious health problem and never understood why no one else was as worried they were having a stroke or heart attack or something. I still feel dumb about it!
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I’m sorry to hear you feel dumb about it, it is humiliating so I do relate 😳 I remember my dad driving me home from college once and it was hair raising. I knew he was a drunk but even then it didn’t register that he was actually drunk driving with me. Apparently it was legal when he was younger - why, I have no idea.
He keeled over drunk at Christmas dinner last year and my sister in law thought he was dying. He was ok but man, there’s been so much unnecessary worry for us all over the years.
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I’m sorry to hear you feel dumb about it, it is humiliating so I do relate 😳 I remember my dad driving me home from college once and it was hair raising. I knew he was a drunk but even then it didn’t register that he was actually drunk driving with me. Apparently it was legal when he was younger - why, I have no idea.
He keeled over drunk at Christmas dinner last year and my sister in law thought he was dying. He was ok but man, there’s been so much unnecessary worry for us all over the years.
Speaking of worrying, my sister and I have had our fair share of worrying about our dad.
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It’s so frustrating, too, that you can’t do anything about it. I’m sorry your dad is like mine, too, Moose72. It really does suck!
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It’s so frustrating, too, that you can’t do anything about it. I’m sorry your dad is like mine, too, Moose72. It really does suck!
Exactly- you can't do anything about it.

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