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Grand Poohbah
Member Since Nov 2012
Location: Italy - but living in my head
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#1
What are the comments / things that were said or done by your Ts/docs or family members or friends that you have found helpful in your healing/recovery?
What HELPS you the most? |
LucyD
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their's a song, courage by superchick
you shouldl ook it up. it says it all I think (this is coming from someone without anorexia.) |
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Location: New Mexico
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#3
I keep a picture of my nephews on my desk to remind me of how I don't want to disappoint them by relapsing.
School is helpful and a good motivator for me to stay in recovery. I found this semester that one simply cannot study physical chemistry without a properly fed brain. I have created a playlist of encouraging songs to listen to when I'm really struggling. Some days I ask a friend text me to keep me accountable to whether I have eaten enough for the day or not. I write constant reminders everywhere in my apartment - especially on my mirrors. Somtimes I have to put my full length mirror in timeout and brush my teeth not in the bathroom so that I won't stare in the mirror at myself the whole time. If you have a scale, I reccommend taking it out back and shooting it with a gun, beating it with a hammer, or running over it with a car. Sound violent? That's what it's been doing to you. I ask for support on facebook when I need it. I've been using a wonderful app specifically for EDs called Recovery Record for a few years now and it's linked with my dietitian, so she can see if I'm following my meal plan or not. I have a therapist who is trained to work with eating disorders (it makes a HUGE difference, trust me). And my dietitan and t talk to each other about how I'm doing. Are you in treatment by chance? When I'm in a good place, I make meals that follow my meal plan and freeze them so that I don't have an excuse when I'm not in a good place. Sorry, this reply ended up being kind of an unorganized brain dump.. Above all, keep fighting because progress seems invisible, but it is there when you persevere. Recovery seems endless, and it's never linear. But once you make up your mind to keep pushing towards recovery, and start taking the right steps, there is another side to the torment and time sucking of the ED. You can do this, my friend. I believe in you. I'm here if you need support. Feel free to pm me. __________________ Yes. Jesus is the reason I am still alive today. Diagnoses: MDD, BPD, PTSD, OCD, AN-BP (I don't define myself by my personal alphabet up there, but I put it there so that maybe somebody won't feel so alone ) |
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#4
I do not have a history of experiencing an eating disorder...
However, I had a long history of being consciously identified with my physical body - and there was something I didn't like about my appearance that could not be changed/altered, and my fixation on this perceived 'flaw' resulted in years and years of self-rejection and crushed my sense of self-worth... It resulted in a lot of suffering... My solution and eventual liberation was not found in learning to love/accept my physical body - it was found only through cultivating the awareness that "I am not my body".... I had to consciously discover that I had a nature/identity/sense of self that transcended the physical form/body. It took a lot of inner work, and it took time - but once this awareness was sufficiently cultivated/established within me, my suffering became a thing in the past, and this issue no longer has any influence in my life. So while I haven't experienced an eating disorder per se - I have experienced a fixation with my physical appearance which resulted in a lot of pain and suffering. So my advice to individuals who are experiencing eating disorders is to work on expanding your state of Awareness until you eventually arrive at the life-altering realization that you are NOT that temporary physical vessel that you see when you look in the mirror. Whether a person's body is in 'perfect' shape, or a person's body is in terrible shape - that is not who you/they are... The physical body is like a rental car - you only get to use it for a limited period of time, then you have to give it back and part ways with it. So there's no sense in maintaining this rigid attachment to it - and no sense in seeking our 'sense of self' in it... Something which really helped me was exploring the phenomenon of Near-Death Experiences and most importantly - spending time contemplating the implications of these accounts & experiences. This was a significant driving force behind my expanding my state of awareness and eventually breaking my conscious identification with my body as a source of identity. This is not an overnight change - but something you need to work at over an extended duration... The results will be there - as long as you stay committed to seeking out a greater understanding of who/what you really are... The process of Self-Discovery (Self-Realization) will eventually transform your entire life! __________________ "Life is ten percent what happens to you and ninety percent how you respond to it" |
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Magnate
Member Since Oct 2017
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It wasn't a comment or one particular thing, per se for me. For awhile, I worked with an awesome group of dieticians (they even used a sliding scale for payment), most of whom had recovered from eating disorders. It was like getting both nutrition and counselling advice, and you knew they really understood what they were talking about because they had been in your same shoes. My dietician got me to a healthy weight and to stop labeling foods "good" and "bad", pushed me to try eating foods on my "bad" list, got me to the point that I realized I was no longer just the girl with anorexia. She deserves a halo for all her patience.
Of course, then I had to figure out who I was because it felt like I'd lost my identity, though in truth being a good wife, good mother, good friend, good daughter, good aunt and not the family member no one approaches because she has an eating disorder is a MUCH better person to be. I want people to remember ME as a person and NOT me as an eating disorder. I always ask myself, "What do I want people to remember about me?" It turns out I never want to just be remembered for having anorexia. Last edited by Blueberrybook; Mar 18, 2018 at 04:36 PM.. |
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#6
For me, it was having a baby. My little girl wasn't afraid of food. She wasn't afraid to eat. She didn't look at food and have an issue with it. She just ate. I would watch her and think, "She isn't afraid of food. She feeds herself when she feels the need. Why can't I do that, too? Why can't I be unafraid of food, too?" I knew I had to take care of myself for her. She needed a healthy mother.
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