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No. That's unrealistic.
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I can feel 'love' for a very select few people in my life, from discussions with other people, my perception of love and what it means or is is very different to someone who doesn't have aspd. So I would say you could argue it is possible, just not quite in the way you're maybe assuming.
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I can feel 'love' for a very select few people in my life, from discussions with other people, my perception of love and what it means or is is very different to someone who doesn't have aspd. So I would say you could argue it is possible, just not quite in the way you're maybe assuming.
Well said, I completely agree. As to how to specifically articulate the difference, now that is the challenge.
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I was never officially diagnosed, but I feel as though I have this. I have a very VERY hard time relating to others and when people show emotions around me I become very uncomfortable. I can "love" a select few in my life, but I often find that I have periods of disassociation from them. Like I could just pick my stuff up, quit my job, and move to where no one knows me and not even care or look back.

Though my "love" and another's love is completely different. I have grown to a level with my fiance that we are constantly in communication, and I "love" him but with others I am suppose to love I sometimes get annoyed with what is suppose to be "normal" love. My mother could text me "I miss you terribly" and I would just be plain annoyed with it. My aunt could text me "I love you" and I would just completely ignore it.
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I have a brother who described his younger self as being without feeling and he was in trouble a lot as a kid, a teen and a young man.
Now, according to him he didn't have the capacity for the soft side of emotion until God finally got through to him and as a result he gave his heart to Christ and had an interesting experience but, I only brought that up because this is how it was told to me.
Even so, he still is aflicted with obvious mental disorders and conditions from the way he grew up.
He can seem like a cool dude and a friendly guy but, underneath it all he is still mad dog crazy and loves to talk about violence when the subject comes up. It's really kind of weird too because he can be real expressive in his emotions but, he can be mean as a snake too.
We both like to get on the subject of torture sometimes and what we would like to do to those who would be foolish enough to victimize family members.
He has some cool ideas - Oh! Sorry. Didn't mean to get sidetracked.
But, he was like this even as a child. He was very disobedient, misogynistic and fascinated with darkness. Sometimes he still acts like this and grins happily when talking about violence but, he actually does seem to love his wife and children although they have all had an extremely rocky relationship at times mainly because of how mean he can be.
So yes, I do believe that a person like this is capable of love but, may not know how to unlock it or learning to do that may be extremely difficult. Extremely difficult.
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Is this disorder the same thing as being a sociopath?
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Interesting responses. For myself I don't know that I experience love. There are people I enjoy, but if they disappeared tomorrow life would go on. I realize that's not what most people want to hear, but it's my reality. I will think of ex lovers and such, but I will not pine away or anything like that.
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I think generally no. it may possibly depend upon how severe where they fall on the spectrum ASPD. I know someone I think has severe NPD. That was prior to the tragic accident that killed his girlfriend he loved dearly. He later became a monster to his family and has the other symptoms of NPD. Perhaps his ability to love can be awakened again.
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It depends on your definition of love. I have aspd and I been trying to figure this out for a while now. The question it keeps leading me to is what is the difference between being obsessed with something or someone and being in love with something or someone. I have been in alot of relationships. They always end up toxic. At first they start great but then I become aware that the other person lies about something. Weather it's a small lie or a big lie it still sets me into a mindset that they do not respect my intelligence and that they are lying for a reason and that they are trying to hide something. Then the feeling of control takes over and I feel that in order to be in control then I need to be in control of the truth. So after the first lie that's caught I analyze any answer given to a queston or any situations relativity to the normal. When this happens it's like a monster inside me controlling the other person. Going through there phones. Questioning who they are with or what they are doing ect. And after that point there is no going back. It becomes and obsession. When I am with someone and they are with me it is a matter of pride of ownership and nothing comes between me and what is mine. If I feel like th4 person I am in a relationship with is violating that then it becomes an anger issue because if you are mine and I am yours no one gets to have what's mine and if you think that you are smarter than me and you can sneak around without me knowing you have underestimated me. And by doing so you have insulted my intelligence. With this being said I think that a sociopath can "love" but only in the right circumstances and right relationship. Now with family I'm not sure. That's where it gets confusing. I pair pair sex and love together. So when it comes to family it is a completely different idea of love to me. I guess what it all comes down to when your asking the question in the terms of can a sociopath love family and friends the answer is yes if that "love" is beneficial to them in one way or another. We have a way of comparmentising things. If you or someone doesn't have anything to offer me. Nothing that benefits me and we have nothing in common then I have nothing for you and I see no point In a relationship between us. I hope this helps answer your question.
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