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Default Nov 03, 2019 at 11:14 AM
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AsPD is the diagnosis and has it's criteria. Psychopathy and sociopathy are sub categories, not official diagnosis. There are additional criteria.

The terms psychopath and sociopath are often synonymous with eachother and the differences, if any, are debated in the psych community.

A psychopath always has AsPD. Someone with AsPD is not necessarily a psychopath.

The movies and media are in general a misrepresentation of these conditions. There is a range in psychopathy from low functioning to high functioning. Some can exist and mask well in society and some can not.

True psychopaths can be hard to identify in real life. They generally wear a solid mask that they have built by watching others. Most are not killers and walk among us undetected.

Of course different personalities are intriguing, but let's nor treat these people like zoo animals. They are simply people dealing with issues like all of us.

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I agree with your statment about not treating anyone as "zoo animals." I often felt like a "zoo animal" when treated by some who were "fascinated" with DID, which is my diagnosis. Those with ASPD, psychopathy, and/or sociopathy shouldn't be treated like they are "fascinating subjects."

The media gets a lot of things wrong, and I being an ignorant one of what ASPD is, am guilty of believing in the hype that the media represents.

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I agree with your statment about not treating anyone as "zoo animals." I often felt like a "zoo animal" when treated by some who were "fascinated" with DID, which is my diagnosis. Those with ASPD, psychopathy, and/or sociopathy shouldn't be treated like they are "fascinating subjects."

The media gets a lot of things wrong, and I being an ignorant one of what ASPD is, am guilty of believing in the hype that the media represents.

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All psychological conditions are interesting. Even so called neurotypicals interest me because my brain does not work that way. I think it is simply important to be open minded and get to know people.
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I think every human, no matter their limitations, struggles with reading, receiving, and or responding to certain emotions. But to *not* minimize your struggles, I cannot imagine what it must be like to not feel or understand emotions.
Of course. It's a skill. No one is going to be perfect at it, and we all **** up at times. However, the way psychopaths process emotional information is entirely different from non-psychopaths. MRI scans have shown that, when presented with people who are emotional, psychopaths use areas of the brain that deal with logic, and the emotion centers remain dark. Normal people's brains do the opposite. In certain situations, psychopaths actually outperformed normals in identifying emotions. So it isn't really a limitation, but a different way of learning entirely.

Now, when it comes to forming bonds with those emotional people and not only understanding their emotions on a deeper level, but also relating to them in real time, psychopaths are terrible. You might as well be asking a blind person to paint a tree.

I do have emotions, just not many, and I don't think I experience them the same way most people do. I can also, to some degree, kinda sorta empathize with other people, but it takes a lot of deliberate effort. For example, if I want to understand someone who's afraid, I have to deliberately stop and try to remind myself of a time when I was similarly afraid. It rarely leads to compassionate action, however.

Overall, it has its ups and downs.

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Nope. It helps to be able to talk openly about it, but it's never really helped beyond that point, and I'm not paying that much money just to talk about myself.

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Also, I think your wanting a relationship with another person with psychopathy sounds great, but I think there have been success stories with those who claim to be primary psychopaths (born with it) and are married, holding down great jobs (I think as researchers, professors, government employees, etc.), and are doing great things for the community.
There are such stories, and kudos to them for making it work. I'm not sure I could. The willing mate would have to be very patient and understanding, because home is my space, and I have no intention of placating their emotions when I'm home.

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I know a few with aspd and some paths. They are easier to get along with because they are rational thinkers. Companionship is great provided you understand the disorders. Romantically it can be complicated.
Yeah, I lack the emotional capacity for romantic involvement. Y'all mother****ers so needy!
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A psychopath always has AsPD.
Usually, but not always. You can be high enough on affective and interpersonal traits to qualify as a psychopath without being criminally deviant enough to qualify for ASPD. Considering the nature of psychopathy, the vast majority of psychopaths will at some point engage in criminal activity, which is why nearly all will also qualify for ASPD. But not all.

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Usually, but not always. You can be high enough on affective and interpersonal traits to qualify as a psychopath without being criminally deviant enough to qualify for ASPD. Considering the nature of psychopathy, the vast majority of psychopaths will at some point engage in criminal activity, which is why nearly all will also qualify for ASPD. But not all.


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Police do not have ASPD, but some do have psychopathic traits:
The Surprising Benefits of Some Psychopathic Traits | Psychology Today
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I’d be fascinated to meet someone who’s genuinely not needy/clingy instead of thinking they can hide how desperate they are for my time/attention.
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In psychology they state that psychopathy is a subdivide of AsPD, so no according to experts you can not be a psychopath without having aspd.

Psychopathic traits are not the same as psychopathy. There are always people who have traits but don't meet full criteria.

Also to anyone refering to me as "ya'll" perhaps you should consider that there is a reason I know a fair amount about this.
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I’d be fascinated to meet someone who’s genuinely not needy/clingy instead of thinking they can hide how desperate they are for my time/attention.
Well, I've got a boatload of indifference for you!

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In psychology they state that psychopathy is a subdivide of AsPD, so no according to experts you can not be a psychopath without having aspd.

Psychopathic traits are not the same as psychopathy. There are always people who have traits but don't meet full criteria.

Also to anyone refering to me as "ya'll" perhaps you should consider that there is a reason I know a fair amount about this.
Psychopathy and Antisocial Personality Disorder: A Case of Diagnostic Confusion | Psychiatric Times

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Most psychopaths (with the exception of those who somehow manage to plow their way through life without coming into formal or prolonged contact with the criminal justice system) meet the criteria for ASPD, but most individuals with ASPD are not psychopaths.
By "ya'll," I meant non-psychopaths.

What are your credentials?

ETA: I didn't even realize Hare wrote that article until after I posted it. I thought that "plow their way through life" remark sounded kinda catty.

Love you, Bob! Keep up the fine work.

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Forgive me for being naive, but what is this fascination with sociopaths?

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Hello,

Forgive me for being naive, but what is this fascination with sociopaths?
What's not to love?

For real though, it's probably just novelty, rarity, and the fact that most people are only familiar with the media's melodramatic portrayal of psychopaths, which real psychopaths, elusive and secretive as they are, do little to correct.

Also, I've noticed that a lot of people will remark on how calm and/or unemotional I am. They don't suspect me of being a psychopath (I don't think), but they seem to find my lack of emotional reaction amusing.
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We will all eventually be skeletons. Isn't that cool? The same. So we must either love, or do things. Trip trip. And to the 5th dimension or infinite we'll go. Life is but a dream.

A really cool dream.

You can be hurt or manipulated by someone but it doesn't matter. We live we learn. It's all amazing stuff.
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Here I am again. 😂 I have known a psychopath and hence did a LOT of research into it. How can I be sure this person was one? Formally diagnosed with aspd and before that conduct disorder. There is a history with the law and mental health professionals. They are sadistic with violent tendencies and urges. This person has zero capabilities of forming attachment to anyone, including family or romantic partners. So forth and so on.

Not all psychopaths present exactly the same, but this person has been acknowledged as psychopathic by professionals even though it is not an official diagnosis.

People can argue the aspd/psychopathy relationship to no end, but the consensus is that psychopaths all have aspd and will get diagnosed with aspd because psychopathy is not recognized as a diagnosis.

If you are not diagnosed aspd, you are likely not a psychopath. Disorders by definition must have traits strong enough to cause disruption in your life which usually leads to the conduct disorder or aspd diagnosis depending on age.

Can you be an undiagnosed person with aspd or psychopathy? Sure, but again given criteria is that is impacts your life and wellbeing, it is unlikely. Further more I reiterate that having traits does not automatically equate to being a psychopath. This is why disorders have multiple criteria and psychiatrists look at the whole picture to make a diagnosis.

A lot of people like to self diagnose and for whatever reason identifying as a psychopath seems to be the cool thing to do. I can not claim to understand that mindset.

Finally the few I know who are diagnosed aspd and classify as psychopaths rarely go around telling people and wearing it like a badge of honor. It isn't. Like any other mental illness it causes a lot of issues in daily life. Aspd is highly stigmatized in the mental health community with many professionals not willing to touch it. Medication doesn't fix it. Therapy doesn't fix it. There is no cure. While there is no shame in who people are, it certainly isn't something to be proud of in my opinion. It is still a mental illness, period.

It would be refreshing to see real discussions about living with aspd, with or without psychopathy, without falling into the trap of what the media says it is.

This is not specific to anyone here. It is my general frustrations about a very misunderstood condition. Too many people think it's cool and never talk about how much it really sucks.

My two cents.
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Ah there must be a cure.. somewhere.. Never give up hope on the psychopaths.. If not, make it comfortable to live the best life possible instead of putting people in jail!

Except people that screw babies and stuff
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In an advanced society where there's like a hundred billion rich people, it should be legal to kill cuz they'll just go to another dimension (In a simulation).

But first we have to find proof that we're in a simulation.

So don't kill people cuz that's not cool to kill people yknow.. People need to find a better hobby...
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Ah there must be a cure.. somewhere.. Never give up hope on the psychopaths..
"Cure." Cure me how, exactly? So that I can become like one of you people? All ******* mopey and ****.

No.

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It seems that this might degenerate into an argument so I would like to offer a quote from this website
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A sociopath can be defined as a person who has Antisocial Personality Disorder. This disorder is characterized by a disregard for the feelings of others, a lack of remorse or shame, manipulative behavior, unchecked egocentricity, and the ability to lie in order to achieve one's goals. Sociopaths can be dangerous at worst or simply very difficult to deal with, and it's important to know if you have found yourself with a sociopath, whether it's someone you're dating or an impossible coworker. If you want to know how to spot a sociopath, then you have to pay careful attention to what the person says or does.[1]
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a person with a psychopathic personality whose behavior is antisocial, often criminal, and who lacks a sense of moral responsibility or social conscience.
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