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Default Nov 17, 2018 at 09:30 AM
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My supervisor will marry this Sunday. He hosts the wedding party at a very far place. I actually don't want to go because it's damn far and the bus to get there stops to operate after 8 PM. Taking uber car is so costly. I will get home at the midnight because of the distance. It makes me anxious because it is night. I fear my safety. I wish I have and could drive a car.

I hate this, but unfortunately I've got to come since he is my supervisor. It would damage my assessment if I don't. I hate it.
Unfortunate that this would be considered a career limiting decision if you did not go. I am sorry to hear you are in such a situation. It is a shame your supervisor was not more supportive or understanding. Are you able to make a little white lie and say something important and critical has come up?

I definitely understand the worry about personal safety. Yep. This too would make me terribly anxious - especially having to use Uber or a cab. I wonder though if you could not car pool with a coworker. I am assuming they are aware of your transportation difficulties. Yes, I hate being dependent on people but I think this is a situation where I would have to put that aside.

Whatever you choose to do, ensure that it is right for you and not for someone else please.
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Anxiety is skyrocketing again. I don't remember what it was like was like before I went back to work three months ago. I still had it but it definitely reached nowhere near these proportions. Part of the anxiety is on account of the fact I have no choice but to work. I worry that if something happens to this job that I am pretty much screwed. This in turn adds to the anxiety regarding my performance at work.

ANXIETY part 1 - The worry and panic has peaked again. This evening I will do a new duty I have not been trained for or had opportunity to job shadow. I resent this as I feel I am only set up to fail. I was thrown into this on account of a coworker having a family crisis. Not a single other coworker who IS trained for and experienced doing this particular role stepped forward to help her out by taking her shift. I did so because this is what coworkers do - they help one another when emergencies arise. The management is aware I have not been trained for this and have agreed out of their being no choice; despite the fact these duties are pretty critical. Hence my worry about screwing it all up. At least the woman wrote down for me the list of duties and procedures. I feel a little bit better about that. Still, I am being thrown into a pack of wolves. As a former manager myself this seems so very wrong. The store leadership should have made an effort to resolve this on their own instead of forcing this poor woman to come up with a solution. I am very disappointed in them - yet again. This is not an example of good and fair leadership. At the very least they should be more supportive of the position I have been placed in and come forward with a plan of action taking into account I am unexperienced. At the very lease, they should acknowledge this and validate my concerns.

ANXIETY part 2 - Dental worry. I am sure there are many here who hold their hands up high, "Me too!" I lost part of a tooth on Thursday night. Apparently I cracked it ages ago and it finally came loose. Gee it hurts and the dentist can't extract it until Wednesday on account it requires surgery and I have demanded sedation. I can't afford to do such but my anxiety is just too bloody high to sit in a chair awake during the procedure. Worry, worry, worry, panic, panic, panic.

Jeepers. When am I going to finally going to get a win in this battle.
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It isn't as bad as yesterday. Yesterday I was in tears over my little chihuahua. I was so stressed that I would end up losing him. His health isn't good, but it is still manageable.
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Default Nov 17, 2018 at 05:05 PM
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My anxiety today was mostly just from work. But It wasn’t affecting my performance or quantity of work. so it didn’t really matter I guess.

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My anxiety wasn’t bad today. I did take 3 Xanax yesterday. Including one at 8PM. So that might have had something to do with it.

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((((Everyone)))) Hugs to everyone who's feeling anxious.
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Default Nov 21, 2018 at 08:46 PM
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Yesterday I dismissed stomach pains and stomach discomfort as just anxiety and all in my head. I ended up throwing up a lot tonight. I never throw up. Not since January 2013 when I had a stomach bug. That just goes to show that not everything is all in your head, and it’s not that easy to just say everything is anxiety.

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I have a hard time sometimes differentiating physical symptoms from anxiety. I had to stop googling side effects from my medications, because I would convince myself I was having them. The side effect for one medication was a sore throat and I actually convinced myself I had one. So I stopped taking it. But when I tried it again a few years later, I had no side effects.
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I have a bad habit of dismissing everything as anxiety and then most of the time I don’t give it much thought after that. Then when it turns out that I do have a stomach bug or a cold or something I have to remind myself the whole -not everything is anxiety thing-

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Still don't know what hours daughter's boyfriend will be working Christmas Eve. I'm rather nervous about this, because I want to be able to plan that day and know what we're doing. It makes me anxious that he waits until the last minute to do things. It reminds me of my last abuser, who did the same thing and bragged about it.

On the plus side, everyone liked the apple pie so I will do hat Friday. My daughter is still making cookies on Saturday for her boyfriend's family's holiday dinner.

Try to work on new software to stay busy. So, yeah, that kind of day.
I'm sorry! I had a friend who did that to me.
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I feel anxious and restless all the time.
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Feeling really tired and depressed, with physical aches and pains to match. Still anxious but this has sunk me to a new low.
I feel like this all the time. I thought I was the only one who feel this way.
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Does anyone with social anxiety just dislike talking, especially if it’s more than 1 or 2 people it’s like I just don’t want to talk at all in a group of more than 3 or 4 people.
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I took 3 Xanax yesterday and one this afternoon and I still feel awful and my stomach hurts so bad and I can barely eat anything. This is definitely physical and not anxiety. But is it true or just a myth that a lot of stress and anxiety can cause ulcers? Because what I am feeling seems like maybe it’s an ulcer and my stress has been through the roof from all the pressure from work.

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I took 3 Xanax yesterday and one this afternoon and I still feel awful and my stomach hurts so bad and I can barely eat anything. This is definitely physical and not anxiety. But is it true or just a myth that a lot of stress and anxiety can cause ulcers? Because what I am feeling seems like maybe it’s an ulcer and my stress has been through the roof from all the pressure from work.
In my experience, it is true that anxiety and stress can cause physical ailments. I have stress-induced pancreatitis. I've been tested for every physical cause with no result, it only happens when I'm very stressed or anxious. I'd definitely suggest getting checked out by a doctor. Hugs.
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In my experience, it is true that anxiety and stress can cause physical ailments. I have stress-induced pancreatitis. I've been tested for every physical cause with no result, it only happens when I'm very stressed or anxious. I'd definitely suggest getting checked out by a doctor. Hugs.
Yeah usually all my test results come out negative. So I don’t even bother going to the doctor anymore. But I haven’t thrown up in years and I can barely eat anything. So I’m wondering if I have something legit going on this time. If I’m not better by the end of the weekend I’ll go in.

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Had a mini panic attack for no reason midday and later got random dizziness which I suspect was from anxiety. I took some Xanax and it went away. Feeling okay right now.
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Does anyone with social anxiety just dislike talking, especially if it’s more than 1 or 2 people it’s like I just don’t want to talk at all in a group of more than 3 or 4 people.
That sounds pretty normal for social anxiety.
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That sounds pretty normal for social anxiety.
True and some days I would just prefer to communicate by texting and not talk at all, I’m just weird or something, I don’t know. Was new in school a lot and was really shy and still shy and dislike all the meetings at work when used to be a manager at work and expected to present all the time and be this entertaining speaker and it just wasn’t me. Now in a much better job for an introvert.

Wish I was good at talking and look at other people and they talk to others so easily and crack jokes and don’t think twice about it.

But I have learning disorder, non verbal learning disorder and extremely shy with likely social anxiety, ok was given this diagnosis, but really I’m just shy. Give diagnosis of Avoidance Personality traits, I’m just shy.

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