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Hugs, I understand. Iím sorry, as Iíve no advice, but I more than relate n wanted to let you know.

Btw, I have zero social skills, but, can honestly say, Iíve witnessed people with so called skills, and they have shown less awareness towards this issue. Hugs n light!
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This is a very interesting topic. I don't have trouble ending a conversation since I use the "It was nice to see you" technique or some version thereof. But I have a neighbor who is notoriously difficult to talk to. I bumped into him yesterday and it was awkward as usual but I just realized that he is very efficient in his verbal responses, quick and to the point. That isn't necessarily a bad trait but if I want more from him then asking a question that has a "yes" or "no" response won't work. I need to ask something open-ended, like "Tell me about your golf tournament last weekend, your wife said you played well". And even then, I don't think I'll get much of a reply. It just isn't his style.

Just giving this consideration will make it easier next time I see him because I can understand/accept how he is a little better and be grateful he isn't one of those hanger-ons who keeps you tied up for hours if you let them :-)) Thank you for bringing this up.

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Ah. I just re-read what you wrote here and saw that you wrote about rejection. My heart goes out to you. It sounds like you donít want to reject people because you know how hurtful it feels to be rejected. I can completely relate. But it does feel better to set boundaries. Social skills: How to quit a conversation
I sort of think it maybe a combination of lack of social skills, a fear to take a lead in the conversation and projecting onto others my own fears.
I always felt in a second place, to say the least. :-) Itís very rare for me to take the lead of a conversation. The few times I tried it, I saw how people struggle to keep their attention to what Iím saying.
On the other side, I feel bad and unfair to give them a wrong impression. Bc Iím not a person who likes sharing with whoever. I became pretty selective. And only time and knowing the other person little by little, could make me feel comfortable and want to share.
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((((AzulOscuro)))) I'm sorry you're struggling. I agree to just say some phrase of circumstance, like "It was nice to talk to you" or "I have to go now".
Even this takes me a great effort.
I still remember when I was a tutor of a group of kids and we have one of these appointments with the parents.
Thanks my coworker who I came back in the car with and came to my classroom to finish the meeting for me. I could be still there, in the meeting. Lol!
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Hugs, I understand. Iím sorry, as Iíve no advice, but I more than relate n wanted to let you know.

Btw, I have zero social skills, but, can honestly say, Iíve witnessed people with so called skills, and they have shown less awareness towards this issue. Hugs n light!
I understand what you mean. Anyway, itís important to have social skills, at least, the most important ones to avoid misunderstandings. You know.
Donít take me wrong. Heart is much more important to me, but social skills can help.
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This is a very interesting topic. I don't have trouble ending a conversation since I use the "It was nice to see you" technique or some version thereof. But I have a neighbor who is notoriously difficult to talk to. I bumped into him yesterday and it was awkward as usual but I just realized that he is very efficient in his verbal responses, quick and to the point. That isn't necessarily a bad trait but if I want more from him then asking a question that has a "yes" or "no" response won't work. I need to ask something open-ended, like "Tell me about your golf tournament last weekend, your wife said you played well". And even then, I don't think I'll get much of a reply. It just isn't his style.

Just giving this consideration will make it easier next time I see him because I can understand/accept how he is a little better and be grateful he isn't one of those hanger-ons who keeps you tied up for hours if you let them :-)) Thank you for bringing this up.

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I see. I normally donít have the patience to deal with a person like the one you describes. Itís very difficult for me to break the ice, over and over again but itís bc of my own skills.

Youíre very welcome!
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