FAQ/Help |
Calendar |
Search |
Grand Member
Member Since Jul 2018
Location: United States
Posts: 755
5 9 hugs
given |
#1
I live in elderly housing and believe me this place is no palace.Some of the busy bodies around her have to go and report everything to the land lady which gets me mad and anxious.How do you cope with busy bodies?It is none of there business what I do but they seem to think it is.I think some of them are just so bored they dont know what to do with themselves.I know what keep your traps shut.I could never file a complaint on anyone except for once because one of my neighbors had a gun he waved it right in front of me in my apt.He had his own mental illness's Can you belive this one ,one time my land lady actually wanted me to spy on one of my neighbors I did nothing of the sorts.I keep to myself I know when not to open my mouth but this is getting to be ridiculous you cannot even breathe without someone knowing about it ,which causes me to have anxieties.No I cannot move,moving makes me more anxious.A friend just recently tried to help me out by bringing my trash to the dumpster I cannot walk that far some busy body went and called our land lady to complain about it.I can onlyb imagine the look on our land ladies face when she got that call now my friend cant bring my trash out anymore.Are these people so bad off they have to make it miserable for everyone else?I wish they would mind there own business and yes I was in trouble for coughing ya someone actually called her because I was coughing in the middle of the night,
|
Reply With Quote |
Anonymous43949, Goforward, MickeyCheeky, Open Eyes, Skeezyks, unaluna
|
Disreputable Old Troll
Member Since Oct 2015
Location: The Star of the North
Posts: 32,762
(SuperPoster!)
8 17.4k hugs
given |
#2
I live in an area where there are a lot of older folks. So all of this is familiar to me. I don't speak, or in any other way, have anything to do with anyone beyond saying hello if someone says hello to me when I'm out walking our dog. And, over time, I think people have gotten the message & they leave me alone.
__________________ "I may be older but I am not wise / I'm still a child's grown-up disguise / and I never can tell you what you want to know / You will find out as you go." (from: "A Nightengale's Lullaby" - Julie Last) |
Reply With Quote |
MickeyCheeky
|
MickeyCheeky
|
Grand Member
Member Since Jul 2018
Location: United States
Posts: 755
5 9 hugs
given |
#3
Quote:
|
|
Reply With Quote |
MickeyCheeky
|
MickeyCheeky
|
Guest
Posts: n/a
|
#4
fortunately I've never had to deal with this.
I've lived in a few areas in my life- some with really noisy/ annoying naybors, but not like that I'd say i've been quite lucky because I don't tend to get involved in what they're doing, I guess they don't with me |
Reply With Quote |
MickeyCheeky
|
MickeyCheeky
|
Legendary
Member Since Jun 2016
Location: Italy
Posts: 11,817
(SuperPoster!)
7 38.4k hugs
given |
#5
Neighbours can be really annoying, xmascarol. I'm so sorry you have to put up with them. They sound really obsessive. I'd suggest to just tell them that you want to be left alone, since they don't seem to understand this is bothering you. It may create more conflict, perhaps. But I think you have every right to stand up for yourself. Feel free to PM me anytime. Let me know if I can do something to help you. Wish you good luck! Let us know how it goes. Sending many hugs to you
|
Reply With Quote |
Member
Member Since Jan 2019
Location: CA
Posts: 273
5 838 hugs
given |
#6
Sounds like your neighbors there are very bored xmascarol. I can relate to this. Every apartment complex I have lived in has had at least one busybody causing me grief and others as well. The last place I lived in had a bored person who would cross the parking lot to make conversation that was passive agressive. I decided i couldn't change him. I just kept my head down and avoided encountering him. He did catch on. If there is any comfort in this I think it is really common.
|
Reply With Quote |
MickeyCheeky
|
MickeyCheeky
|
Member
Member Since Jan 2019
Location: CA
Posts: 273
5 838 hugs
given |
#7
You are being a good neighbor but people who make others uncomfortable or gossip are not. Remember you are an appropriate, good neighbor when you start to feel anxious.
|
Reply With Quote |
Magnate
Member Since Jun 2018
Location: Canada
Posts: 2,285
5 117 hugs
given |
#8
I have not encountered this being done to me to my knowledge, but I admit I am one to stand and observe things through my own window. But, I don't live in the best of neighbourhoods and feel a need to be hypervigilant and this includes observing what my less than savoury neighbours do. Yep, I have informed my property management on those things that concerned me most - like domestic disturbances and situations. I also have the police communications line and 911 on speed dial. I have this need on account of my anxiety to be a step ahead of what is going on. I have even invited police to sit and enjoy a coffee with me while surveiling the drug house across the street. They didn't appreciate my humour but I was half completely serious.
|
Reply With Quote |
Open Eyes
|
Legendary Wise Elder
Member Since Mar 2011
Location: Northeast USA
Posts: 23,107
(SuperPoster!)
13 21.3k hugs
given |
#9
This reminds me of a movie I actually like to watch called "Doc Holladay", it takes place in a small town and one of the charectors said, "Everyone knows your business in this town, heck you can't even poop without everyone knowing what color it is".
|
Reply With Quote |
Grand Member
Member Since Jul 2018
Location: United States
Posts: 755
5 9 hugs
given |
#10
Quote:
|
|
Reply With Quote |
Goforward
|
Grand Member
Member Since Jul 2018
Location: United States
Posts: 755
5 9 hugs
given |
#11
Lol on the poop that is what I always say you cant even fart without someone knowing it,lets see if they complain about that....
|
Reply With Quote |
Member
Member Since Oct 2014
Location: -
Posts: 217
9 127 hugs
given |
#12
I have busybody neighbors who keep our house(especially me) under their monitoring almost all the time. So when i walked in to an area that can be seen by them, they will start to mention my name and do "commentary", sometimes even resort to mocking, ridiculing. I've alr had enough of that and decided to move out.
|
Reply With Quote |
Goforward
|
Grand Member
Member Since Jul 2018
Location: United States
Posts: 755
5 9 hugs
given |
#13
Quote:
|
|
Reply With Quote |
Goforward
|
Reply |
Thread Tools | |
Display Modes | |
|