Phobias of being alone in public

Does anyone ever feel this way?? Like if I’m with a friend going to the mall or something, I’m okay, but if i have to go to a store alone or something im sweating.. self conscious of how I walk, avoid eye contact etc.... if i meet someone for lunch i make sure im there before them because i dont want to feel embarrassed or lost looking for someone in front of other people.. i dread going into large groups of people especially in a place im unfamiliar with like a party, or whatever... i get an upset stomach..sweat.. tremble.. idk how to overcome this

I'm so sorry you're hurting so much, pandabear0927 I understand how you feel. Perhaps you're suffering from social anxiety. Perhaps you just don't like large crowds of people. Do you see a therapist? Maybe that could help. You could learn new ways to cope with your feelings. Hopefully he/she will be able to help you. He/she's there to help you after all. I'm so sorry. It must be very hard for you. Please don't give up. You're definitely not alone in this. I'm sure you'll be able to get through this. You just need to believe in yourself a bit. Just try to do your best. That's all you can do after all. I'd sugges to buy some self-help books on anxiety if you can. Maybe that could help. I'd also suggest to try yoga or other relaxation exercises if you can. Maybe that could help. I'd suggest to think about something else and try to find yourself some distractions when you're outside and you feel anxious if you can. Anything that may help you reduce your anxiety and stress. I'm so sorry, I know it's hard. Please don't give up. I hope you'll be able to get the help you need and deserve. You deserve to get better and to feel good. You deserve to live a good life like everyone else. I'm so sorry you're going through all of this Do you have a support system IRL? Any friend or family members that you can reach out to? Either way, we're here for you if you need it. We're here for you if you need to talk about it. We all care about you here. We all love you here. Feel free to vent here as much as you need or want. You know we won't judge you. You're a wonderful person. You're definitely a strong bear I'm so sorry you're hurting so much Remember that you're stronger than you think. You've got this. Try to hang on. You can do this! You're strong, I know that. I believe in you. Stay strong, pandabear0927. Stay safe and take care of yourself. You're a wonderful person. You're awesome! You're strong! You're a warrior! Remember that we're here for you if you need it. Feel free to PM me anytime. Let me know if I can do something to help you. Wish you good luck! Let us know how it goes. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this

[QUOTE=MickeyCheeky;6452537]I'm so sorry you're hurting so much, pandabear0927 I understand how you feel. Perhaps you're suffering from social anxiety. Perhaps you just don't like large crowds of people. Do you see a therapist? Maybe that could help. You could learn new ways to cope with your feelings. Hopefully he/she will be able to help you. He/she's there to help you after all. I'm so sorry. It must be very hard for you. Please don't give up. You're definitely not alone in this. I'm sure you'll be able to get through this. You just need to believe in yourself a bit. Just try to do your best. That's all you can do after all. I'd sugges to buy some self-help books on anxiety if you can. Maybe that could help. I'd also suggest to try yoga or other relaxation exercises if you can. Maybe that could help. I'd suggest to think about something else and try to find yourself some distractions when you're outside and you feel anxious if you can. Anything that may help you reduce your anxiety and stress. I'm so sorry, I know it's hard. Please don't give up. I hope you'll be able to get the help you need and deserve. You deserve to get better and to feel good. You deserve to live a good life like everyone else. I'm so sorry you're going through all of this Do you have a support system IRL? Any friend or family members that you can reach out to? Either way, we're here for you if you need it. We're here for you if you need to talk about it. We all care about you here. We all love you here. Feel free to vent here as much as you need or want. You know we won't judge you. You're a wonderful person. You're definitely a strong bear I'm so sorry you're hurting so much Remember that you're stronger than you think. You've got this. Try to hang on. You can do this! You're strong, I know that. I believe in you. Stay strong, pandabear0927. Stay safe and take care of yourself. You're a wonderful person. You're awesome! You're strong! You're a warrior! Remember that we're here for you if you need it. Feel free to PM me anytime.
Thank you so much! And yes i have a couple people to talk to ( friends and such ) but sometimes i also feel like a burden:/... i can actuay stress myself out to the point that my vision fluctuates it sucks. Im currently worried about some parties/weddings im invited to at the mid/end of the yr and it already freaks me out so bad that my mind and my heart races and i feel nauseous... i have to tell myself theres time and to take a deep breath but i still feel panicky:/... i just hate being alone where i dont know people.. i feel out of place.. idk judged..? Embarrassed?

(((Pandabear))) many hugs.
Anxiety can come in many forms, and many ways to deal and cope; we all find what works best for us.

MickeyCheeky has a lot of great suggestions with selfhelp and positive thinking, and exercises. If you have issues with searching, if I may suggest a few things- also, some times seeing someone, being in a group, etc. can be helpful and that is ok.

I do not think you are alone with this fear of being alone' after all, humans are social creatures. .. but there is a power and freedom doing things on your own... I also think there is a power with connecting with others, in a safe way. ((Course I am the weirdo that if I am a good mood, will say hi and smile with strangers to see how many will pass around the good vibes.. but was not always like that)).

I believe it is very helpful to acknowledge our thoughts and feelings as you have touched on here; while I am not great with CBT or DBT I do believe there is a lot of power of acknowledging "I feel out of place, judged, embarrassed" ... may be ask "why" some day?

You mention taking deep breaths, but yet still feel panicky.

My last T noticed with me that while I took deep breaths they were not complete, they were not calming in a way. I never noticed this myself.

Also T suggested to practice breathing even when not in panic state, this so- it was easier for me to do when in panic states. (I still need to continue to practice myself, but has found it helps for me).
A quick look on breathing- not sure if you like quick or detailed?
A breathing exercise that calms panic attacks.
Anxieties.com | STEP 4: Practice Your Breathing Skills
I like guided meditation apps too - but that is me.

Also, some times One may need more assistance with more than just breath. Using all five senses can help greatly with grounding.
I can't remember it perfectly but it is something like 5 Thinks I can SEE, 4 Things I can FEEL, 3 Things i can HEAR, 2 things I Can SMELL and 1 Think I can Taste.
Some times counting too- like things. some times I can't stay with counting and I will just say/think what I see.

It is great that you have friends to go out with and that I hope always continues; but it is nice sometimes to go out on your own, it also can be empowering... a freedom

I hope you the best

I did not want to talk too much, had a story but deleted it. Just noticed one day, people usually are going about their day and business -as I should be - and I was getting over worked up with things that were distorted thoughts in my head. And still can-- but try to remind myself to keep trying out what I can.

"A laugh is worth a hundred groans in any market." Charles Lamb
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