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Default Mar 21, 2019 at 03:27 AM
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Do you ever get the feeling like you are lost?I do especially if I am depressed.Like last night I went to bed before it was even 9.I was just to depressed felt like I didnt belong here.I just felt so strange inside.Do you ever feel like you are in a different place or just plan lost? First I was thinking about my moms house .It was built in 1957 which means I was five years old when I moved into it.I maybe dont feel right because since her passing having other people living in it.Hasnt actually happened yet but it will soon.I mean that is where I grew up .I am recently in touch with a friend who I grew up with and that makes me so happy.JUst why do I feel so strange like this apt is not my home. I know that sometimes when I am really anxious I get like this,strange feelings.Well in a matter of speaking my apt is not my home.You have to watch every little thing that you do.Which cause many anxieties.JUst curious if anyone feels this way.
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I think some of what you are describing is that you are still at unease with your mom's passing though, I know, you also have anxiety issues as well.

I feel like because of the cumulative effects of life's traumas, my relationships and decisions I have made--my anxiety and depression will always be with me. I sometimes long for the carefree days of my youth when my disorder did not interfere/require constant management. I can relate to feeling lost for sure....
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Default Mar 21, 2019 at 06:18 AM
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You’ve hit on an important point regarding your emotions.

It sounds like you are saying you don’t feel a sense of belonging, to yourself, by yourself. When you refer to the homey thoughts about your childhood home vs. your empty feelings about your own home now, you are feeling like you lack something within yourself to make your own homey living and comfort for yourself.

I suggest you ‘find’ yourself. I’m not sure what resources there are for that.

I once read a book which narrows down your interests to point you toward a career. Maybe there are books like that for knowing one’s self?

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I was just doing some reading over the weekend about the value of allowing ourselves to feel and accept uncomfortable emotions. Society is very "positive pushy". It's seems that we're almost programmed into thinking if we aren't feeling happy and content, there is something wrong with us. I believe sometimes we should allow ourselves to be comfortable with discontent. By pushing it away or thinking something is wrong with it, we're pushing away the things and events that caused us to feel those things.
Maybe your strange feelings should just be allowed for a bit. Accept them. Know that they aren't strange because they do have meaning and represent part of your life.
If there are senior social or recreation centers in your area, maybe you could check them out.
Maybe going to sit at the park would feel nice.
If I were nearby, I would come pick you up and go to the park with you.
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I was just doing some reading over the weekend about the value of allowing ourselves to feel and accept uncomfortable emotions. Society is very "positive pushy". It's seems that we're almost programmed into thinking if we aren't feeling happy and content, there is something wrong with us. I believe sometimes we should allow ourselves to be comfortable with discontent. By pushing it away or thinking something is wrong with it, we're pushing away the things and events that caused us to feel those things.
Maybe your strange feelings should just be allowed for a bit. Accept them. Know that they aren't strange because they do have meaning and represent part of your life.
If there are senior social or recreation centers in your area, maybe you could check them out.
Maybe going to sit at the park would feel nice.
If I were nearby, I would come pick you up and go to the park with you.
I cant leave my house I have very bad agoraphobia,I can sit outside and knit during the spring and summer .Staying inside really gets to me,The only time I can go out is to my doctors even then I have a hard time with it.Thanks for the offer though.I love to watch the trains go by noisy but that is okay,people here are very nosy and complain about everything,
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You’ve hit on an important point regarding your emotions.

It sounds like you are saying you don’t feel a sense of belonging, to yourself, by yourself. When you refer to the homey thoughts about your childhood home vs. your empty feelings about your own home now, you are feeling like you lack something within yourself to make your own homey living and comfort for yourself.

I suggest you ‘find’ yourself. I’m not sure what resources there are for that.

I once read a book which narrows down your interests to point you toward a career. Maybe there are books like that for knowing one’s self?
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I think some of what you are describing is that you are still at unease with your mom's passing though, I know, you also have anxiety issues as well.

I feel like because of the cumulative effects of life's traumas, my relationships and decisions I have made--my anxiety and depression will always be with me. I sometimes long for the carefree days of my youth when my disorder did not interfere/require constant management. I can relate to feeling lost for sure....
I am missing my mom and dad a lot.I cannot believe she would have been gone on June 9th. I often think about my childhood.MY mom and dad were abusive verbally and physically . I had some good times though ;One of my favorite things to do was go swimming ,cannot do that now .Cant walk to well.I already had one bad fall. Which messed me up
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I am missing my mom and dad a lot.I cannot believe she would have been gone on June 9th. I often think about my childhood.MY mom and dad were abusive verbally and physically . I had some good times though ;One of my favorite things to do was go swimming ,cannot do that now .Cant walk to well.I already had one bad fall. Which messed me up
How long ago was the fall? It takes so much longer to heal the older we are.
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I think it’s normal to go through these types of feelings at times. You’re going through a time of transition. Maybe you’re reminiscing a lot. I think it’s ok to just accept how you feel and give yourself a little time to work through it.
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How long ago was the fall? It takes so much longer to heal the older we are.
I believe it was 2010.Oh ya I fell on a Tuesday night and get this I can remember the exact time 3am.I didnt know it at the time but I had hit the entertainment center it was glass the back of my head was all bloody so was my t shirt.I was wearing a t shirt given to me because of my husband passing they had a walk for him at ocean beach he had parkensons.I even had a piece of glass in my head so they had to put staples in there I never knew that they did it.However I did develop bad tremors from that server fall but I do take inderol for that . So I had a bad head injury. Ended up in a lousy nursing home.Believe me you would never want to end up in a home.If I had to I would just hire someone to come to my home.For now I dont need anyone,just friends.I only have one friend who comes to see me,she is a doll. I am 66 and I have to use a walker because I can get seriously injured.I already fell here twice one time I hit my head on the desk but I was okay.I hit my head so many times it is no wonder I am damaged goods like some people would say.
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I think it’s normal to go through these types of feelings at times. You’re going through a time of transition. Maybe you’re reminiscing a lot. I think it’s ok to just accept how you feel and give yourself a little time to work through it.
Only yesterday I was feeling this way.Like who am I or where am I? It just feels so weird I mean I know who I am and where I am at,but still feel lost like I just dont belong here Such strange feelings.I also have intrusive thoughts to ugh
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I have been feeling foggy head & dizzy
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