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Confused Mar 26, 2019 at 11:06 PM
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This post sucks. I don’t usually post in this part of the forum. My anxiety is keeping me awake This is a very boring post. Maybe if I put myself down enough ....... (thud)...... Bad paws (rain3)

I almost feel like a “new member” posting this. My inner snake says don’t be so ridiculous fuzzy paws (rain3)

I’ve read through this post and feel like deleting it. I’m not supposed to speak I usually avoid this part of the board because of my anxiety I was the hated cub when I was little. I try to give my inner cub love but it’s hard sometimes (rain3)

I have anxiety and social anxiety. I posted on a support board for anxiety, not pc, where the people don’t know me at all. I was brought up by Narcissists - I’m certain the family of origin are Narcissists because of their relentless criticism of me, telling me there is nothing good about me, gaslighting me and abandonment. I genuinely try to be kind and not to lash out at people, or reject them because I know how much it hurts. Sometimes I have made
mistakes though. I was also hurt in therapy where the therapist turned mean. Even a relative was disappointed in what happened in this therapy, which I won’t go into here. I’m sure that to some people there my post was ... I don’t know. I was just speaking my truth and saying I try not to buy into the judgments of bullies. Somebody replied saying that the people who think they are kind are usually awful people. I’m not sure what to think or what was going on in that person’s mind replying to me with that post. I was a new member, but I wouldn’t say that to anyone. I’m also usually forgiving of people, I
don’t bear a grudge against this person. They may have been having a bad day.

Or maybe they had had someone in their life who thought they were a good person but actually weren’t. I’ve worked hard to try to break free from being told how bad I am throughout my cubhood
I’m confused.

I was also judged at a social event recently where I didn’t know the people at all. This event was very hard for me to go to, my anxiety was very high.... I was in no way feeling negative towards anyone there. And somebody very meanly judged me. I won’t go into details. I guess these
incidents feed my “inner critic”. Why are people mean without cause. I didn’t
know these people.

I thought I had done a good job of shaving off my fur.

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I thought I had done a good job of shaving off my fur.
I gather from this you either felt compelled or were compelled to be and/or appear as something you are not - a human being unaffected by depression-anxiety. What did it "cost" you to "comply"?

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I gather from this you either felt compelled or were compelled to be and/or appear as something you are not - a human being unaffected by depression-anxiety. What did it "cost" you to "comply"?

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I know how much anxiety sucks Fuzzy And what you went through as a cub is awful. Now you're here at PC and people here love you and care about you! Don't forget it

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I'm so sorry you've been through all of this, Fuzzybear I'm so sorry you're hurting so much. You didn't deserve to be treated this way at all. You're a strong, wonderful bear who deserves nothing but affection, compassion, love and kindness, just as you show to all the other people in your life, including many people here on PC! I'm so sorry people aren't being kind to you IRL. Unfortunately some people can be just mean. But that doesn't mean that they are right about you, in fact it's the opposite! You're strong and wonderful! Please keep feeding your inner cub and try not to listen to your inner snake. He's wrong about you. You deserve to be loved and to be happy and to feel good about yourself! You're awesome! You're strong! You're a warrior! Please try to be as much kind to yourself as you can! You absolutely deserve it, no matter what other people say about you! Please don't give up. Try to hang on. We all care about you here! We all love you here! You know we won't judge you! I promise that I won't judge you! Keep fighting and keep roaring! Sending many hugs to you, Fuzzybear! You don't deserve to suffer at all! Nobody deserves to suffer at all in this world!
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I'm so sorry you've been through all of this, Fuzzybear I'm so sorry you're hurting so much. You didn't deserve to be treated this way at all. You're a strong, wonderful bear who deserves nothing but affection, compassion, love and kindness, just as you show to all the other people in your life, including many people here on PC! I'm so sorry people aren't being kind to you IRL. Unfortunately some people can be just mean. But that doesn't mean that they are right about you, in fact it's the opposite! You're strong and wonderful! Please keep feeding your inner cub and try not to listen to your inner snake. He's wrong about you. You deserve to be loved and to be happy and to feel good about yourself! You're awesome! You're strong! You're a warrior! Please try to be as much kind to yourself as you can! You absolutely deserve it, no matter what other people say about you! Please don't give up. Try to hang on. We all care about you here! We all love you here! You know we won't judge you! I promise that I won't judge you! Keep fighting and keep roaring! Sending many hugs to you, Fuzzybear! You don't deserve to suffer at all! Nobody deserves to suffer at all in this world!

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