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Hope, how are you today? I don't think we should call not being able to do things "failure". We WANT to do them. It's not our fault! Sometimes, or maybe usually, we have to push ourselves, but don't be so hard on yourself if you have to cancel something. We have to keep trying, and have "hope".
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Much like the sound tactic you use for checking your blood sugar...CBT can be similarly used to check your thoughts/sensations/beliefs. When anxiety grabs a hold of me I try to be curious about it just like low blood pressure. Like, "Hmm. I'm anxious. What could this be about?" CBT can be a good way to identify whether what we're sensing is a right now thing, a yesterday thing or a tomorrow thing. And then to talk ourselves through that thing, based upon what's happening right now. "This is an old thing. I think I got triggered by X. That makes sense. Ok self, you are safe, I'll take some deep breaths to let you know." The breath is our tool that forms a bridge between the outside of us and inside of us. So how cool is that? Breath, the thing that we sometimes find ourselves holding when anxious, can also be the very tool to bring us back to a more calm baseline. FearLess47 |
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I am not doing well. That is why I said - fail - I do know that cancel that appointment it is not a failure but feel like it was ... I have something called "chemo brain" a side effect for strong chemotherapy treatments. When it hit me badly, I can't put my thoughts together. This is part of my new normal. I can live with it, I am a survivor, that is all that matter. I did and still practice CBT. To be honest Cognitive behavioral therapy help me so much in my daily life. Does all the good things you mentioned. I keep track of my behavior with a Journal for CBT by an excellent Psychologist. I am just don't do it every day. Part of my lack of focus. You are right, I am not kind to myself. I am being negative and my thoughts are catastrophic ones. The sad part is that I know all that and still can't get up of this hole. I do have hope, just having a very difficult time right now. But hope is always there in my mind. How are you? This post is for every one that passed by, you are not alone. __________________ A smile is an inexpensive way to change your looks. – Charles Gord |
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We are in the same boat, but we are fighting this illness. Anxiety can not take our lives away from us. There are many tools to cope with, I should be using them right now, because I am very down, depressed because of anxiety and vice versa. We can keep learning about CBT and breathe as Fearless said so well, so we can keep moving forward for life with our anxiety under control. Meantime I am here, you are not alone. __________________ A smile is an inexpensive way to change your looks. – Charles Gord |
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I am walking with you, I know how it is to drive in a hellish highway, you did it! The power of two people facing the same problem should never be underestimated. We are more than two here, and between the here and the then we can do this, cope with our anxieties, help each other. Being there for one another. I wasn't feeling well earlier, I am in peace right now. I did all that I have to do, that made me feel so good about myself. I took a deep breath and went outside for a walk. I did all my house chores. I talked with a dear friend on the phone, we laugh and comfort each other. Then, I come here and read all these wonderful posts. How can I not feel blessed and content? Little gestures, big accomplished. For everything that you do thank you Fearless Today, I was out of my house! Let's all keep walking! Hugs and Love __________________ A smile is an inexpensive way to change your looks. – Charles Gord |
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Acceptance of all the pieces of the roller coaster.
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I'm so glad to have "met" you two: Hope and FearLess. 😄. I want to share my little success today. I drove to the hospital to get an x-ray of my foot, then went to the grocery store for just a few things, and went to Walmart for some socks. I don't like Walmart but I did it! All 3 places, and was home in about 1 1/2 hours.
I felt lightheaded, kind of dizzy, and foggy but I did it! I came home and am lying in bed with an ice pack for my sciatica. I think my x-ray will be normal but the doctor thought I should check it out just to be sure. Whew! Yes, let's keep walking, cheering each other on, and sharing. |
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Today was a little bit of a rough one. Had a doctor's appointment and was already feeling kind of...anxious...then she ordered an ultrasound so now I have one more appointment to add to the list. I am not (yet??) very good at knowing what I am feeling, and while I was driving home I felt...I think it's called, anger! ahhahaha I say I think because anger is not something I have really allowed myself to feel. My husband got home early and we went for a walk outside. That helped. It also helped just to know I am not alone. So thank you... FearLess47 |
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Great accomplished!!! I would like to do that myself. At the moment I can only go to one place at the time. I agree with FL Wal-mart is a big one! I am so proud of you. I hope you don't have anything in your foot We are here for each other. Let's keep walking together because no matter what the outcome we are not alone! __________________ A smile is an inexpensive way to change your looks. – Charles Gord |
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I am having about 4 of them to schedule, so Hi5! You know, I have a very hard time dealing with anger too. I don't allow myself to be angry. When I am angry, that is not often, I stop, think, breath and then really calm down. I will do anything to stop it. I can't make it with anxiety but I can with anger. It is something that upset me so much, I will rather be alone that turn my anger against anyone. We should talk about it because as far as I know, we should allow ourselves to all the emotion in the big spectrum of life. Something to talk about it in therapy. Tomorrow I will like to go to the gym. I am only going to drive over there and do a 30 minutes exercise in a gentle machine. I am getting anxious just writing about it, but I am doing exposure therapy and I will try to make it! Hugs __________________ A smile is an inexpensive way to change your looks. – Charles Gord |
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I didn't go to the gym. I did go out to the supermarket. I drove over there without any problem. That is an improvement!
I am having pain in my lower back and right hip. I will have to see my primary doctor before the adventure to the gym. I can't walk after doing many things like going up and down or standing for more than half an hour. So, that makes me sad and anxious because I will have to go to many appointments for my primary care doctor to figure it all out. Right now, I am so tired of feeling sick and tired. The good news is that I am cooking a new recipe. I find a good book to read and life goes on. I know therapist sessions are long due. I have to make an appointment and just go no matter what. It is so difficult to see that I am a reason for frustration to my husband. He understands, supports me more than anyone. But he is only human. he got tired of carrying on with most of the responsibilities around the house and doctors visits from the last five months. I was not only unable to go out of the house because of depression and anxiety. I also have a very bad side effect from a hormone inhibitor to prevent another cancer. That medication stops me from walking normally. I literally couldn't walk more than half a blook. My oncologist stopped the medication after 3 months of me being that way. She did well. I needed to try as much as I can to tolerate it. Anyways, I am telling all of you what is going on with me, because I believe in sharing, we are not alone. I still have goals, one day at the time. One breath in and out and keep walking. Hugs __________________ A smile is an inexpensive way to change your looks. – Charles Gord |
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My doctor suggested I may have agoraphobia. Duh! Told him that a few months ago. I'm more anxious in the mornings. Are you? But it depends on where I have to go and what I have to do. I have to be positive but it's hard! I'm in a CBT group and see an individual therapist for CBT too. I'm off the antidepressant because it didn't help and my Dr. isn't rushing to put me on another yet. Every day is challenging because I'm trying to do things even though I don't feel well. How are you, Hope?
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I am stuck rainbow8 I mean to write to you sooner but I had so many physical complications. Long story short I was in so much pain from a back injury that I couldn't even type. I am fine now. After a week or so of being inside of my house, I can't go out now. I will have to do a lot of CBT exercises to see if I can pass over this situation. It is really hard. Let's have hope that we will get better. The sooner the better though. __________________ A smile is an inexpensive way to change your looks. – Charles Gord |
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But my depression is under control. I will be working hard in making appointments because once I make them I have to go no matter what. Worries me that times pass and I still trapped in this situation. I have hope that soon I will be going to see my therapist again. Then we can make a plan for me to cope in a better way with Agoraphobia. Hugs __________________ A smile is an inexpensive way to change your looks. – Charles Gord |
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ok! So now I am really trapped. It is a beautiful Spring day and I can't make myself to go outside.
Maybe I will do what many suggested here, just go out for 5 minutes and come back inside. Then try 10 minutes. Sighs My biggest problem today is that yesterday I found a painful lump in my breast, the same side I had breast cancer before. That is an alert I can't ignore. I got an Appointment this Friday the 17 for a mamogram and ultrasound. I am under risk to get another cancer according to my Oncologist. So, it is time to be very pragmatic. I will pass these two days thinking that "I got this!" I am very worried but I seriously got this! I can't do anything until I know the result of the test. But I can keep myself very busy doing my best to cope with the infamous "What If ... ". I am here, Hugs __________________ A smile is an inexpensive way to change your looks. – Charles Gord |
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Offering this other set of goggles: of COURSE you are anxious and it is totally natural to not want to go "out" right now... Can you possibly step outside for even just one minute? 10 seconds? And then consider that a giant victory? One of the things I say about FEAR is it is a reminder to: Face Everything And Roar. You are already victorious...because you are sharing about this. Acceptance and Awareness. **will be thinking about you Friday.** FearLess47 __________________ alone in a crowded room |
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