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It seems like everything that can go wrong is going wrong right now. I am a disabled person who is not allowed to drive due to my disability. I am very physically limited (can’t cook, clean, mow, shovel- most days I am only out of bed for a few hours). It bothers me a lot that I can no longer work, or drive, or so many other things. I don’t feel like I live, just exist.
One of my sisters and her husband and kids moved in with me under the guise that he would take care of the maintenance of house and land and she would take care of cooking/cleaning and taking me to medical appts. In exchange they get a place to live for next to nothing. My sister has held up to her end of the bargain, but her husband rarely holds up to his end. In addition he is extremely hard to live with. He is mentally, emotionally and verbally abusive. When he pulls in the driveway my anxiety and stress levels go through the roof! I think he triggers my PTSD from when I have been in abusive scenarios in my past. Along with all the rest of my daily stressors, my dad is in critical care right now on life support due to complications from brain cancer. I am the youngest child and daddy’s lil girl, so it’s an extremely hard time for me and of course my sister as well. Naturally he chooses this time of grief to be a complete @hole! He was yelling and screaming and demeaning the entire way home from the hospital (which is 25 minutes away), I felt so trapped and just wanted to get out, even if it was on the interstate. They live in my house with me and I feel like have taken over my entire house. I am constantly stressed and having anxiety problems now. I would have told him to get out on several occasions but I don’t necessarily want to do that to my sister & nephews/niece. Also, then what do I do? I have no one else that will help me. I live off disability and don’t qualify for help through social services. I have no one to get me food, mow my lawn, take me to appts. I feel like I have no options and my mental health is getting progressively worse. My own cancer has destroyed my life in every way and I feel like I am just trapped. All I do is think of my situation and how I could possibly improve it and can’t come up with anything. |
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I am so sorry you have to go through all these ozzyluvshockey21
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I would talk to your sister and let her know how you feel. Tell her how uncomfortable that her husband is making you feel.Since he's not doing what he said he was gonna do he shouldn't be living there.Its also other ways that u can get to your doctors appointments like Medicaid or Medicare will pay for transportation to your doctors appointments.some insurance pay for rides to and from doctors appointments.Look into it.
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This is terrible and you have a right to say something about it. I understand you need your sister but there are some options you may look into to see if you can get some help and not have an abusive asshole be a part of the package. I found this:
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I did speak with her tonight after him being simply impossible again. Now they are moving out. She will always always always side with his mental @ss even though we are her blood and he is in the wrong. I’ll have to figure stuff out and not sure how I will, but it has got to be better than living like this! |
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