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Default Apr 28, 2019 at 01:22 AM
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It seems like everything that can go wrong is going wrong right now. I am a disabled person who is not allowed to drive due to my disability. I am very physically limited (can’t cook, clean, mow, shovel- most days I am only out of bed for a few hours). It bothers me a lot that I can no longer work, or drive, or so many other things. I don’t feel like I live, just exist.

One of my sisters and her husband and kids moved in with me under the guise that he would take care of the maintenance of house and land and she would take care of cooking/cleaning and taking me to medical appts. In exchange they get a place to live for next to nothing. My sister has held up to her end of the bargain, but her husband rarely holds up to his end.

In addition he is extremely hard to live with. He is mentally, emotionally and verbally abusive. When he pulls in the driveway my anxiety and stress levels go through the roof! I think he triggers my PTSD from when I have been in abusive scenarios in my past.

Along with all the rest of my daily stressors, my dad is in critical care right now on life support due to complications from brain cancer. I am the youngest child and daddy’s lil girl, so it’s an extremely hard time for me and of course my sister as well. Naturally he chooses this time of grief to be a complete @hole! He was yelling and screaming and demeaning the entire way home from the hospital (which is 25 minutes away), I felt so trapped and just wanted to get out, even if it was on the interstate.

They live in my house with me and I feel like have taken over my entire house. I am constantly stressed and having anxiety problems now. I would have told him to get out on several occasions but I don’t necessarily want to do that to my sister & nephews/niece. Also, then what do I do? I have no one else that will help me. I live off disability and don’t qualify for help through social services. I have no one to get me food, mow my lawn, take me to appts. I feel like I have no options and my mental health is getting progressively worse. My own cancer has destroyed my life in every way and I feel like I am just trapped.

All I do is think of my situation and how I could possibly improve it and can’t come up with anything.
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Default Apr 28, 2019 at 04:01 PM
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I am so sorry you have to go through all these ozzyluvshockey21

I don't know how you can improve your living situation but I can tell you that you are not alone.

I am sorry about your father too.

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Default Apr 30, 2019 at 06:08 AM
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I would talk to your sister and let her know how you feel. Tell her how uncomfortable that her husband is making you feel.Since he's not doing what he said he was gonna do he shouldn't be living there.Its also other ways that u can get to your doctors appointments like Medicaid or Medicare will pay for transportation to your doctors appointments.some insurance pay for rides to and from doctors appointments.Look into it.
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It seems like everything that can go wrong is going wrong right now. I am a disabled person who is not allowed to drive due to my disability. I am very physically limited (can’t cook, clean, mow, shovel- most days I am only out of bed for a few hours). It bothers me a lot that I can no longer work, or drive, or so many other things. I don’t feel like I live, just exist.

One of my sisters and her husband and kids moved in with me under the guise that he would take care of the maintenance of house and land and she would take care of cooking/cleaning and taking me to medical appts. In exchange they get a place to live for next to nothing. My sister has held up to her end of the bargain, but her husband rarely holds up to his end.

In addition he is extremely hard to live with. He is mentally, emotionally and verbally abusive. When he pulls in the driveway my anxiety and stress levels go through the roof! I think he triggers my PTSD from when I have been in abusive scenarios in my past.

Along with all the rest of my daily stressors, my dad is in critical care right now on life support due to complications from brain cancer. I am the youngest child and daddy’s lil girl, so it’s an extremely hard time for me and of course my sister as well. Naturally he chooses this time of grief to be a complete @hole! He was yelling and screaming and demeaning the entire way home from the hospital (which is 25 minutes away), I felt so trapped and just wanted to get out, even if it was on the interstate.

They live in my house with me and I feel like have taken over my entire house. I am constantly stressed and having anxiety problems now. I would have told him to get out on several occasions but I don’t necessarily want to do that to my sister & nephews/niece. Also, then what do I do? I have no one else that will help me. I live off disability and don’t qualify for help through social services. I have no one to get me food, mow my lawn, take me to appts. I feel like I have no options and my mental health is getting progressively worse. My own cancer has destroyed my life in every way and I feel like I am just trapped.

All I do is think of my situation and how I could possibly improve it and can’t come up with anything.
I am so sorry that you have to live like this.I hate it when people make promises and they dont keep them.Can u sit down and talk to him about it?I hope you get this resolve but if you need to talk I am always here to listen,
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Default Apr 30, 2019 at 12:03 PM
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This is terrible and you have a right to say something about it. I understand you need your sister but there are some options you may look into to see if you can get some help and not have an abusive asshole be a part of the package. I found this:
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Home health care includes a wide range of health and social services delivered in your home to treat illness or injury. Services covered by Medicare’s home health benefit include intermittent skilled nursing care, therapy, and care provided by a home health aide. Depending on the circumstances, home health care will be covered by either Part A or Part B.

Medicare covers your home health care if:

You are homebound, meaning it is extremely difficult for you to leave your home and you need help doing so.
You need skilled nursing services and/or skilled therapy care on an intermittent basis.
Intermittent means you need care at least once every 60 days and at most once a day for up to three weeks. This period can be longer if you need more care, but your care needs must be predictable and finite.
Medicare defines skilled care as care that must be performed by a skilled professional, or under their supervision.
Skilled therapy services refer to physical, speech, and occupational therapy.
You have a face-to-face meeting with a doctor within the 90 days before you start home health care, or the 30 days after the first day you receive care. This can be an office visit, hospital visit, or in certain circumstances a face-to-face visit facilitated by technology (such as video conferencing).
Your doctor signs a home health certification confirming that you are homebound and need intermittent skilled care. The certification must also state that your doctor has approved a plan of care for you and that the face-to-face meeting requirement was met.
Your doctor should review and certify your home health plan every 60 days. A face-to-face meeting is not required for recertification.
And, you receive care from a Medicare-certified home health agency (HHA).
Note: You cannot qualify for Medicare home health coverage if you only need occupational therapy. However, if you qualify for home health care on another basis, you can also get occupational therapy. When your other home health needs end, you can continue receiving Medicare-covered occupational therapy under the home health benefit if you need it.

If you meet all the requirements, Medicare should pay for skilled care in your home and/or home health aide services. If you have questions or experience billing issues, call 1-800-MEDICARE.
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You can receive home health care coverage under either Medicare Part A or Part B. Under Part B, you are eligible for home health care if you are homebound and need skilled care. There is no prior hospital stay requirement for Part B coverage of home health care. There is also no deductible or coinsurance for Part B-covered home health care.

While home health care is normally covered by Part B, Part A provides coverage in certain circumstances after you are in a hospital or skilled nursing facility (SNF). Specifically, if you spend at least three consecutive days as a hospital inpatient or have a Medicare-covered SNF stay, Part A covers your first 100 days of home health care. You still must meet other home health care eligibility requirements, such as being homebound and needing skilled care. You also must receive home health services within 14 days of your hospital or SNF discharge to be covered under Part A. Any additional days past 100 are covered by Part B. Regardless of whether your care is covered by Part A or Part B, Medicare pays the full cost.
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Home health covered services

If you qualify for the home health benefit, Medicare covers the following:

Skilled nursing services: Services performed by or under the supervision of a licensed or certified nurse to treat your injury or illness.
Services you may receive include injections (and teaching you to self-inject), tube feedings, catheter changes, observation and assessment of your condition, management and evaluation of your care plan, and wound care.
Provided up to seven days per week for generally no more than eight hours per day and 28 hours per week. In some circumstances, Medicare can cover up to 35 hours per week.
Skilled therapy services: Physical, speech, and occupational therapy services that are reasonable and necessary for treating your illness or injury, and performed by or under the supervision of a licensed therapist.
Physical therapy includes gait training and supervision of and training for exercises to regain movement and strength in a body area.
Speech-language pathology services include exercises to regain and strengthen speech and language skills.
Occupational therapy helps you regain the ability to do usual daily activities by yourself, such as eating and putting on clothes.
Home health aide: Medicare pays in full for an aide if you require skilled care (skilled nursing or therapy services). A home health aide provides personal care services, including help with bathing, toileting, and dressing. Medicare will not pay for an aide if you only require personal care and do not need skilled care.
Medical social services: Medicare pays in full for services ordered by your doctor to help you with social and emotional concerns you have related to your illness. This may include counseling or help finding resources in your community.
Medical supplies: Medicare pays in full for certain medical supplies, such as wound dressings and catheters, when provided by a Medicare-certified home health agency (HHA).
Durable medical equipment (DME): Medicare pays 80% of its approved amount for certain pieces of medical equipment, such as a wheelchair or walker. You pay 20% coinsurance (plus up to 15% more if your home health agency does not take assignment).
Medicare should pay for these services regardless of whether your condition is temporary or chronic.

Note: You cannot qualify for Medicare home health coverage if you only need occupational therapy. However, if you qualify for home health care on another basis, you can also get occupational therapy. When your other home health needs end, you can continue receiving Medicare-covered occupational therapy under the home health benefit if you need it.
I do not know about qualifiying for any of this but it was just something I thought you could consider since you are on disability.

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I would talk to your sister and let her know how you feel. Tell her how uncomfortable that her husband is making you feel.Since he's not doing what he said he was gonna do he shouldn't be living there.Its also other ways that u can get to your doctors appointments like Medicaid or Medicare will pay for transportation to your doctors appointments.some insurance pay for rides to and from doctors appointments.Look into it.


I did speak with her tonight after him being simply impossible again. Now they are moving out. She will always always always side with his mental @ss even though we are her blood and he is in the wrong. I’ll have to figure stuff out and not sure how I will, but it has got to be better than living like this!
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