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Crazy May 08, 2019 at 10:29 AM
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I have had a couple of weeks now where I am feeling better, but as a result I feel bad for not working, and I have been out of work for like 7 years now. All of a sudden I feel ready and able to work again and I look back and wonder why I was ever really out of work for so long. Was my anxiety really that bad? And if so, wouldn't unemployment just make it worse? Sometimes it was really bad and I was in bed for days because of it, but on the other hand I am sure I felt reasonably ok at other times too.

But this is probably the most relief I've felt from anxiety in a while. Now a new anxiety emerges, feeling anxious for not working and suddenly having to get back into the work force somehow. I still have some anxiety, probably general anxiety, and my social phobia is very bad, so that makes it all very daunting, but not impossible at the moment.

I'll probably just have to find A job, whatever it is. Maybe through a disability work agency that caters for people with mental health problems.
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I have had a couple of weeks now where I am feeling better, but as a result I feel bad for not working, and I have been out of work for like 7 years now. All of a sudden I feel ready and able to work again and I look back and wonder why I was ever really out of work for so long. Was my anxiety really that bad? And if so, wouldn't unemployment just make it worse? Sometimes it was really bad and I was in bed for days because of it, but on the other hand I am sure I felt reasonably ok at other times too.

But this is probably the most relief I've felt from anxiety in a while. Now a new anxiety emerges, feeling anxious for not working and suddenly having to get back into the work force somehow. I still have some anxiety, probably general anxiety, and my social phobia is very bad, so that makes it all very daunting, but not impossible at the moment.

I'll probably just have to find A job, whatever it is. Maybe through a disability work agency that caters for people with mental health problems.
I wish you well
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Default May 10, 2019 at 07:39 PM
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I don't know how old you are, but I'm in a very similar position. I'm in my late 40s and starting all over from scratch.

Firstly, I'd remind you not beat yourself up over lost time. We all know it isn't helpful and actually holds you back. I have a lot of grief over the lost years and isolation, but it helps to tell myself I did the best I could with what I was dealing with. Even though it may not seem like it now, it evidently was then.

The disability employment agencies are excellent idea if you can find a good one. It's helped me.

Terrible self-esteem problems and social anxiety have been with me all my life. And many years ago, I had awful experiences and no results from various regular employment agencies.

Over the last while, in conjunction with seeing a therapist for check-ins/support/counseling, I finally applied for a program that offers support for people with disabilities seeking employment. It really hurt having to fill out the forms. I felt so ashamed. But with the help of my therapist and some people making phone calls for me, I finally got it done. This allowed me to get to a private/public partnership agency that's actually been helpful.

It's taken a long time. I started with volunteer work. I'm still only doing casual labour for minimum wage. But I got there and it's honest work. I'm slowly building up. I'd say that getting any kind of job to get started will be hugely beneficial towards your anxiety issues.

All in all, I'm saying use the support. The anxiety will doubtless come back when it comes to crunch time. The check-ins, re-assurance, and assistance are very beneficial.

Best of luck!
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