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Default Jun 19, 2019 at 11:04 AM
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So school ended yesterday and I had my session with my therapist this morning and she thinks to keep me active during the Summer I should get a Summer job. When she suggested that my anxiety went through the roof. It was bad enough that I just had to survive going to school everyday away from the comforts of my home and I had come to have safety nets at my school which were being able to go the School Counselor Office at any time, the Nurse, or use my cell phone at any time which is not allowed by students to call my parents. Now this sits in front of me. First, I have never had a job in my life so going through an interview has anxiety written all over it. Then most jobs for teens my age are dealing with people which is more anxiety for me. I don't know what to do? I told my therapist it really scares me and she said to me and so did going back to school when I first did. Which was true. Now I am sitting in my room chewing on my nails doing nothing but thinking about this. AHHHHHH!!!!!!
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Default Jun 19, 2019 at 12:19 PM
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Do you have a special interest like animals, sport etc that you could volunteer or work in? Does it need to be work or could you volunteer?
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Do you have a special interest like animals, sport etc that you could volunteer or work in? Does it need to be work or could you volunteer?
I guess it could be a volunteer job as well. I do like movies so I was thinking of applying at a movie theater. I also like dogs so maybe I could be a Pet Sitter. As for sports I like Soccer, but I don't know how well I'd do as a Summer Camp Sports Counselor.
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Hello Misery Business,

thank you for sharing your truth with us here and welcome to PC Sorry you are struggling with anxiety.

I live with PTSD myself and the docs think it's been present since my childhood. I'm a lot older than you...in my 30s now. I understand how challenging anxiety can be. I also think it sounds like you found yourself a good therapist! While it will likely be challenging for you to take on a summer job, I think that could be a very healthy challenge.

Something I've learned over time about anxiety is that it can shrink a person's life if not kept in check. I saw this happen with both of my parents. Their worlds grew smaller and smaller as more and more things made them anxious. So as young as you are, I think it is a great time to branch out and not let the anxiety rule over your life. By that I do *not mean that it's going to be easy or like flipping a switch....more like something to chip away at in small increments. Then in time, you look back and think: Wow! I did that!

Any interest in mindfulness and meditation? Those help me a great deal. The earlier a person learns about those, the sooner they can make them daily habits. They are research-based methods for ameliorating anxiety.

You may also be interested to read about radical acceptance. That has helped me with a couple of situations in my life which were unpleasant and I had zero control over the outcome.

Re: a summer job....work can really help with mental wellness by providing structure, routine, and a sense of connection and accomplishment. I was listening to a psychologist talking the other day about how he helps his clients. He said the first thing he always asks is: do you have a job? Because based on his clinical experience, he finds that clients experience a greater sense of chaos and lack of purpose when they don't have some level of work in their life. And of course that will mean different things for different people. A few hours a week volunteering, part-time work, full-time work.

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Hello Misery Business,

thank you for sharing your truth with us here and welcome to PC Sorry you are struggling with anxiety.

I live with PTSD myself and the docs think it's been present since my childhood. I'm a lot older than you...in my 30s now. I understand how challenging anxiety can be. I also think it sounds like you found yourself a good therapist! While it will likely be challenging for you to take on a summer job, I think that could be a very healthy challenge.

Something I've learned over time about anxiety is that it can shrink a person's life if not kept in check. I saw this happen with both of my parents. Their worlds grew smaller and smaller as more and more things made them anxious. So as young as you are, I think it is a great time to branch out and not let the anxiety rule over your life. By that I do *not mean that it's going to be easy or like flipping a switch....more like something to chip away at in small increments. Then in time, you look back and think: Wow! I did that!

Any interest in mindfulness and meditation? Those help me a great deal. The earlier a person learns about those, the sooner they can make them daily habits. They are research-based methods for ameliorating anxiety.

You may also be interested to read about radical acceptance. That has helped me with a couple of situations in my life which were unpleasant and I had zero control over the outcome.

Re: a summer job....work can really help with mental wellness by providing structure, routine, and a sense of connection and accomplishment. I was listening to a psychologist talking the other day about how he helps his clients. He said the first thing he always asks is: do you have a job? Because based on his clinical experience, he finds that clients experience a greater sense of chaos and lack of purpose when they don't have some level of work in their life. And of course that will mean different things for different people. A few hours a week volunteering, part-time work, full-time work.

I wish you peace, hope, and a bright future! You deserve it
SilverTrees, your post has been really helpful and I really appreciate it. 15 months of my life I went through a horrible time of abuse which has left me suffering with PTSD, Anxiety, and Depression. I am thankfully removed from that situation and I have wonderful parents and a great therapist who has been helping me since.

I do agree with you and my therapist that adding structure and a routine to my Summer will help me. It will only be a PT Job and working no more than 20 hours per week, as I still have my weekly therapy sessions to attend.

I have never tried mediation exactly, but I do like to relax to music. The two things I really like to do is writing in a journal daily as well as coloring. Those two thing really help me relax when I am anxious and my thoughts are roaming to the past.

I really appreciate the information you gave me.
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SilverTrees, your post has been really helpful and I really appreciate it. 15 months of my life I went through a horrible time of abuse which has left me suffering with PTSD, Anxiety, and Depression. I am thankfully removed from that situation and I have wonderful parents and a great therapist who has been helping me since.

I do agree with you and my therapist that adding structure and a routine to my Summer will help me. It will only be a PT Job and working no more than 20 hours per week, as I still have my weekly therapy sessions to attend.

I have never tried mediation exactly, but I do like to relax to music. The two things I really like to do is writing in a journal daily as well as coloring. Those two thing really help me relax when I am anxious and my thoughts are roaming to the past.

I really appreciate the information you gave me.
So sorry you had that experience @MiseryBusiness. It was not your fault. I am glad that you are now removed from the situation and your parents and therapist are helping! Support and understanding can take healing a LONG way!!!

Your coloring and journal-writing sound like excellent strategies. I am happy to share meditation options with you if you're interested. Just give me a shout.

I will continue to wish you peace and good health.
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So sorry you had that experience @MiseryBusiness. It was not your fault. I am glad that you are now removed from the situation and your parents and therapist are helping! Support and understanding can take healing a LONG way!!!

Your coloring and journal-writing sound like excellent strategies. I am happy to share meditation options with you if you're interested. Just give me a shout.

I will continue to wish you peace and good health.
Mediation does sound like a really relaxing option and it also seems with mediation I can focus on my inner self a lot. I have already been afraid that the music would make me fall asleep. The music I actually relax to wouldn't be your typical music most people would relax to.

I will tell you I have come a long way. This year I was able to go back to public school which was really hard at first, but the support from my Family, the Administrators, Teachers, Nurse, and an amazing School Counselor we made it happen.
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Mediation does sound like a really relaxing option and it also seems with mediation I can focus on my inner self a lot. I have already been afraid that the music would make me fall asleep. The music I actually relax to wouldn't be your typical music most people would relax to.

I will tell you I have come a long way. This year I was able to go back to public school which was really hard at first, but the support from my Family, the Administrators, Teachers, Nurse, and an amazing School Counselor we made it happen.
Well done! You certainly have come a long way! I'm so glad you have good people in your corner
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Well done! You certainly have come a long way! I'm so glad you have good people in your corner
Thank You, there are challenges I have everyday and I suppose everyone has that. I went through hell for 15 months of my life at a very young age and one of the major challenges for me is having flashbacks of those times. All I can say is through the support of my family, and the few close friends I have, my therapist, and even my school counselor they have helped me all so much. Even the small community that I live in has been amazing towards me and my family especially when I first came home the ordeal. I was a complete mess at that time and didn't really appreciate all the community did for me and my family, but my family sure did.

As for applying for jobs , the local Movie Theater is hiring so I am going to fill out an application for there.
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Have you considered blogging? I love to write also and I am a mental health blogger. My blogs are in my signature. It allows me to express myself and be creative which I really enjoy doing.

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Have you considered blogging? I love to write also and I am a mental health blogger. My blogs are in my signature. It allows me to express myself and be creative which I really enjoy doing.
Is that similar to writing in a journal? Just a daily kind of how you day has gone on a daily basis?
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It can be what you want it to be about. Like mine are all about mental health and how it can get out of whack and how to get better. I blog about situations I want to increase awareness about, plus topics I hope to connect with others like me. And, it can be private or public. That is up to the blogger.

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It can be what you want it to be about. Like mine are all about mental health and how it can get out of whack and how to get better. I blog about situations I want to increase awareness about, plus topics I hope to connect with others like me. And, it can be private or public. That is up to the blogger.
So they have them on here? I already do a journal at home and it could be similar to my daily progress and also my struggles.
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I am not sure about the blogs on here. I have a blog on google and two on Wordpress. I am just thinking about how you write as an outlet.

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I am not sure about the blogs on here. I have a blog on google and two on Wordpress. I am just thinking about how you write as an outlet.
I write on a daily basis to get my feelings out that have occurred in that day. It basically gives me good reference to go back to if I am suffering on another day. That is what I use the journal for.
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Ok. I am glad you journal and are so clear on your feelings and getting better. That is one of the most healing things we can do for ourselves. xoxoxoxox

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Ok. I am glad you journal and are so clear on your feelings and getting better. That is one of the most healing things we can do for ourselves. xoxoxoxox
I also use coloring to relax and that really helps me out a lot when I am anxious.
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That's great! I love to craft, myself.

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That's great! I love to craft, myself.
That sounds awesome. What sort of crafty things do you do? I should have realized that with your name.
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