Anxiety interfering with relationships?

Hello everyone. This is my first post so please excuse if I seem shy.
In a new development in my sexual relationship, it has starting happening where toward the end of each month I get overwhelming fear I am somehow pregnant, despite always using at least two forms of contraception and other factors that make it extremely unlikely to impossible. Despite logically telling myself this, the fear is crippling, and makes it hard for me to carry on with my day without repeatedly talking myself down. In the same vein, I sometimes get bouts of fear about sexual-related disease, despite both of us not suffering from one.

I know without a doubt these worries are unfounded, but they're almost debilitating in strength. Does anyone have a similar experience, or could send some advice on how to cope?

Any responses are appreciated!

Hello caughtblue: I'm sorry your concern is not one I can offer a lot on. (Hopefully there will be other PC members who will have some thoughts they can share.) However I noticed this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to Psych Central.

At the risk of suggesting the obvious, I would suggest that seeking the services of a mental health therapist may be the thing to do here. I'm not a mental health professional myself. But my thinking, with regard to this sort of thing, tends to be that this really may not be about fear of pregnancy or STD's. What this may be about is anxiety. And the fears you've developed regarding the possibility of pregnancy or an STD is simply the way in which your anxiety is manifesting at present, if that makes sense. If you didn't have this particular anxiety to deal with chances are, sooner or later, there would be another one. So what you may need to do is to work through your predilection to develop anxieties & learn ways to cope with them. Working with a mental health professional would be at least one way to do that.

Here are links to 9 articles, from Psych Central's archives, that offer suggestions for handling worries & fears as well as on managing anxiety:

5 Ways to Stop a Worry-Filled What-If Cycle

5 Steps to Reduce Worrying and Anxiety

3 Tips for Dealing with Anxious Thoughts

Coping with–and Reducing Stress, Anxiety and Worry

9 Ways to Reduce Anxiety Right Here, Right Now

https://psychcentral.com/lib/15-smal...dium=popular17

https://psychcentral.com/lib/top-10-...s-for-anxiety/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/how-to...nful-emotions/

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/weigh...your-feelings/

I hope you find PC to be of benefit.