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Default Mar 31, 2020 at 04:09 PM
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Ok today I told my friend that I made a big booboo.Well i was getting off my wheel chair i have to use my walker to get to my couch but i just threw the walker aside and tried to walk without it i havent been able to walk for months now my legs were whobbling , i was so scared now when I told her that she said that is a good thing,i thought what.i will get to it.i told her i have no drive to do anything i think that is depression she just looked at me I dont even care if my place looks like ****.I do but I havent no desire to do anything i know that is part of depression.I told her my that they want me using my walker all the time they dont want me to break a hip she said the doctor told me that nope PT did.so here is the kicker she told me by may i should just get off the walker and do a little waling without anything,i cant so that she siad if it was her she would do it she says i get a backache because of laying down all day and i keep telling her i am not on the couch all day she told me oi have to keep my legs strong she believes if they were i wouldnt be whobly i just ignore that i an not about to walk using noting i dont care how very strong my legs are they all told me that at Pt ya so strong thati wasnt even home for two days and I feel yes i do my leg exercising everyday anyway i tell her the same thing every sngle day i am not on the couch all day long i dont think she believes me,i told her i a on the computer two hours sometimes more it is more like 6 hours not all at once.but to tell me to walk without my walker she told me i could take baby steos .It wont work for me if i was having weak legs ya i could understand fhe fall but i dont.it is just that i cannot stand up more then 5-10 seconds before my left leg starts to shake feels like i am going to fall.She knows that anyway.This woman does not like it when she suggested someone and theydont do what she says.My legs were shaky even in the nursing home sometimes when iwas walking they woud have to sit me down because i had that shaky feeling in them i told her they never let me wall without anwheel chair i dont know is she has a mental illness or not but dont go and tell me i sit on the couch all day how would she know.I cannot tell her to get lost because despite everything i love her and she loves me i know she does she tells me she helps me out she use to come and sit with me she cannot of course now because of that stinken virus we always have a good time when we are together.I dont know what she could have been thinking u dont tell some to get of the walker and wheelchair when they cant even walk.she thinks they are to confining.I am kind of mad and scared because like i said she doesnt like it when she says something for help and they wont do what she told them to do.She must know that people are not going to always do what someone suggests i think she is blaming me thinking it is my fault becuse i cannot walk what is the matter with her,NOw i bet she thought that it was my fault because i broke my knee.
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Ok today I told my friend that I made a big booboo.Well i was getting off my wheel chair i have to use my walker to get to my couch but i just threw the walker aside and tried to walk without it i havent been able to walk for months now my legs were whobbling , i was so scared now when I told her that she said that is a good thing,i thought what.i will get to it.i told her i have no drive to do anything i think that is depression she just looked at me I dont even care if my place looks like ****.I do but I havent no desire to do anything i know that is part of depression.I told her my that they want me using my walker all the time they dont want me to break a hip she said the doctor told me that nope PT did.so here is the kicker she told me by may i should just get off the walker and do a little waling without anything,i cant so that she siad if it was her she would do it she says i get a backache because of laying down all day and i keep telling her i am not on the couch all day she told me oi have to keep my legs strong she believes if they were i wouldnt be whobly i just ignore that i an not about to walk using noting i dont care how very strong my legs are they all told me that at Pt ya so strong thati wasnt even home for two days and I feel yes i do my leg exercising everyday anyway i tell her the same thing every sngle day i am not on the couch all day long i dont think she believes me,i told her i a on the computer two hours sometimes more it is more like 6 hours not all at once.but to tell me to walk without my walker she told me i could take baby steos .It wont work for me if i was having weak legs ya i could understand fhe fall but i dont.it is just that i cannot stand up more then 5-10 seconds before my left leg starts to shake feels like i am going to fall.She knows that anyway.This woman does not like it when she suggested someone and theydont do what she says.My legs were shaky even in the nursing home sometimes when iwas walking they woud have to sit me down because i had that shaky feeling in them i told her they never let me wall without anwheel chair i dont know is she has a mental illness or not but dont go and tell me i sit on the couch all day how would she know.I cannot tell her to get lost because despite everything i love her and she loves me i know she does she tells me she helps me out she use to come and sit with me she cannot of course now because of that stinken virus we always have a good time when we are together.I dont know what she could have been thinking u dont tell some to get of the walker and wheelchair when they cant even walk.she thinks they are to confining.I am kind of mad and scared because like i said she doesnt like it when she says something for help and they wont do what she told them to do.She must know that people are not going to always do what someone suggests i think she is blaming me thinking it is my fault becuse i cannot walk what is the matter with her,NOw i bet she thought that it was my fault because i broke my knee.
I'm sorry that you had to experience that. You are doing the best that you can with what you have. You are doing great with the exercise and part of healing is knowing what your limitations are. You should build up with what you can do. Like getting off the couch for awhile. Maybe hanging on to the walker for a few minutes everyday is all that you can do. That accomplishment.
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Default Apr 06, 2020 at 03:58 AM
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Totally hear you @xmascarol. I have a similar situation at times.

I have an old friend who I've explained and told everything about my personal mental health struggles, serious struggles. But because he just doesn't integrate what I've told him into his understanding of me, he basically thinks there's nothing wrong with me. He's even said that, "There's nothing wrong with you." I just quietly continue to tell him how it is for me, though, but sometimes I start getting agitated in having to repeat myself. At that stage he's said to me, "You're just bitter". Haha.

Not on the same page when it comes to the emotions and the mental health issues unfortunately, but other than that, I still love him.
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