Dealing with attachment - Forums at Psych Central



advertisement
Reply
 
Thread Tools Display Modes
Old 11-15-2017, 11:50 AM #1
berick13 berick13 is offline
Newly Joined
 
Member Since: Nov 2017
Location: kentucky
Posts: 1
berick13 berick13 is offline
Newly Joined
berick13 has no updates.
 
Member Since: Nov 2017
Location: kentucky
Posts: 1

1 yr Member
Default Dealing with attachment

All my life i have dealt with the issues i have,but now I feel like its getting worse.When I was two my parents split,leaving my brother,sister,and me with only our mother. I remember not even knowing what my father looked like or even what he sounded like.When they got back together when I was five I was so happy,couldn't wait to meet my father.The earliest interactions I can remember is him asking me to get him things like a sandwhich or something to drink.All the while wondering when he would spend time with me.As the years passed,I has this great idea to try and play sports.Dad loves sports so maybe if I played one he would notice me.So I started playing baseball wasn't very good but thought he might be proud of me.Instead all I got was him complaining about taking me to practice.Feeling defeated I just quit, what was the point?Later,I would try the same thing with football but when I got the same result I quit that too.To this day I hate Halloween because all I wanted was for my father to take me trick or treating.However, all I heard was how he didn't wanna go.Growing up,I had no one to talk to about it,my brother would just tell me to grow some balls.Never got along with my sister,and my mother was either to tired from work or would dismiss anything I said.I thought I was handling things pretty good,loved to be around people but now I feel like I don't belong anywhere or with anyone.Even when I met people whom I share common interests with I still feel like I'm not wanted.I want to mend to broken relationship with my father so I can move on but I know the chances of that are slim.Sorry for the long story I hate typing a lot but I just wanted to be heard for once.
berick13 is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote

advertisement
Old 11-25-2017, 04:41 AM #2
Astrada's Avatar
Astrada Astrada is offline
Member
 
Member Since: Nov 2017
Location: Australia
Posts: 89
Astrada Astrada is offline
Member
Astrada's Avatar
Astrada has no updates.
 
Member Since: Nov 2017
Location: Australia
Posts: 89

1 yr Member
37 hugs
given
Default Re: Dealing with attachment

Glad you shared with us berick13. No worries about the length. This is a great forum with so much information. Take care.
__________________
Astrada is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
Hugs from:
"Thanks for this!" says:
Old 11-25-2017, 07:21 AM #3
Teddy Bear's Avatar
Teddy Bear Teddy Bear is offline
Poohbah
 
Member Since: Nov 2015
Location: Dresser Wisconsin
Posts: 1,205
Teddy Bear Teddy Bear is offline
Poohbah
Teddy Bear's Avatar
Teddy Bear has no updates.
 
Member Since: Nov 2015
Location: Dresser Wisconsin
Posts: 1,205

3 yr Member
1,016 hugs
given
Default Re: Dealing with attachment

Welcome to PC sometimes we just have to move on from our parents and find friends that make us happy.
__________________
🐻
Teddy Bear is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
Hugs from:
"Thanks for this!" says:
Old 08-04-2018, 10:12 PM #4
PurpleBlur PurpleBlur is offline
Member
 
Member Since: May 2017
Location: in der Welt
Posts: 268
PurpleBlur PurpleBlur is offline
Member
PurpleBlur stuffy noses suck
 
Member Since: May 2017
Location: in der Welt
Posts: 268

2 yr Member
30 hugs
given
Default Re: Dealing with attachment

have you tried talking to your dad about it? or maybe write hm a letter, if you cant verbalize it?



but it may be that he will never change, and all you can do is accept that and get treatment regarding how to deal with the void...
PurpleBlur is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
Hugs from:
"Thanks for this!" says:
Old 12-28-2018, 02:59 PM #5
dlantern dlantern is offline
Poohbah
 
Member Since: Feb 2017
Location: Logan
Posts: 1,017
dlantern dlantern is offline
Poohbah
dlantern has no updates.
 
Member Since: Feb 2017
Location: Logan
Posts: 1,017

2 yr Member
8 hugs
given
Default Re: Dealing with attachment

Break away share the comfort and spectrum of what is moment is giving you then decide if it is worth to keep. I'm sure you keeping a list of what it is costing you now right? Use those memories to do so and break the cycle of staying around without some form of commonality on the issue
dlantern is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
Hugs from:
"Thanks for this!" says:
Old 01-05-2019, 10:18 AM #6
MickeyCheeky's Avatar
MickeyCheeky MickeyCheeky is online now
Wise Elder
 
Member Since: Jun 2016
Location: Italy
Posts: 9,441
MickeyCheeky MickeyCheeky is online now
Wise Elder
MickeyCheeky's Avatar
MickeyCheeky My echo is the only voice coming back
 
Member Since: Jun 2016
Location: Italy
Posts: 9,441 (SuperPoster!)

2 yr Member
30.7k hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Re: Dealing with attachment

I'm so sorry you're struggling, berick13 It sounds like you're going through a lot. Do you see a therapist? Maybe that could help. Please don't give up. Things can get better, even though I understand you're hurting right now. Our parents can have a great impact on our life, positive or negative. If it can help a bit... feel free to share and vent here. I'll listen to what you have to say. I care about you. Feel free to PM me anytime. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this
MickeyCheeky is online now   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
"Thanks for this!" says:
Old 01-17-2019, 08:24 PM #7
mwaxy mwaxy is offline
Member
 
Member Since: Aug 2018
Location: n/a
Posts: 90
mwaxy mwaxy is offline
Member
mwaxy ...how other's want me to?
 
Member Since: Aug 2018
Location: n/a
Posts: 90

70 hugs
given
Default Re: Dealing with attachment

Quote:
Originally Posted by berick13 View Post
.I want to mend to broken relationship with my father so I can move on but I know the chances of that are slim.Sorry for the long story I hate typing a lot but I just wanted to be heard for once.

I feel a similar way with my mother. Sometimes family aren't willing, able, or both, to understand you and the differences between you x It's not easy, like I said, I know this well...you can make your own family, while tough its possible.
mwaxy is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
Reply

Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off



All times are GMT -5. The time now is 08:07 PM.

Powered by vBulletin® — Copyright © 2000 - 2019, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.



 

advertisement

Psych Central Forums

Psych Central is the leading mental health website, overseen by mental health professionals since 1995.

 

Helplines and Lifelines

The material on this site is for informational purposes only, and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment provided by a qualified health care provider. .

Always consult your doctor or mental health professional before trying anything you read here.
Please read the full disclaimer.