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Old 07-06-2019, 01:19 AM   #1
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Default Is it possible to not have an attachment style at all?

I've been looking at the attachment styles and none of them seem to fit what I do. It's obviously not "secure". It's not "anxious-preoccupied" because I don't have negative views about myself or have positive views of others. It's not "dismissive-avoidant" because I don't feel like it's that important to be independent and self-sufficient outside of my socially-enforce necessity to do so. It's not "fearful-avoidant" because I don't feel that I'm "unworthy" of attachment.

To me, the idea of "emotional closeness" doesn't make any sense, in the sense that the axis of close-far is nonsensical to apply to emotions. To me, emotions don't have a positional aspect, they only have a volume level, an abstract "magnitude" without vector.

Can a person be absent an attachment style at all? How does a person survive with no attachment style in a world where unattached people are regularly hunted and killed by predators, or are denied basic needs by those who control resources?
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Old 11-30-2019, 11:59 AM   #2
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Default Re: Is it possible to not have an attachment style at all?

When someone literally doesnít attach itís not one of the attachment styles per say, itís an attachment disorder where they donít attach emotionally along a spectrum of inability.

And I also think that when they say close- distant it IS actually a measurement of volume, not of your emotions but the closeness you have with someone. But since it canít be quantified in a typical unit of measure that we know or use, they say close -distant. Close and distant refers to how close you are to people ie how well you know them, share with them, prioritize them , are vulnerable with them vs not.
Youíre not really measuring an emotion when saying youíre close or distant, youíre describing how close you are to another or other people. Hope that makes sense
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Default Re: Is it possible to not have an attachment style at all?

Attachment means different things to different people

The question is: Are you satisfied/ content with your life and relationships, or not?


Emotional attachment?

What do you base that on?

When is it emotional vs choice to have that person in your company?

What is the criteria for inclusion?


Those are all your own decisions.
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Default Re: Is it possible to not have an attachment style at all?

Perhaps you're aromantic.
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