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Old 07-06-2019, 01:19 AM   #1
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Default Is it possible to not have an attachment style at all?

I've been looking at the attachment styles and none of them seem to fit what I do. It's obviously not "secure". It's not "anxious-preoccupied" because I don't have negative views about myself or have positive views of others. It's not "dismissive-avoidant" because I don't feel like it's that important to be independent and self-sufficient outside of my socially-enforce necessity to do so. It's not "fearful-avoidant" because I don't feel that I'm "unworthy" of attachment.

To me, the idea of "emotional closeness" doesn't make any sense, in the sense that the axis of close-far is nonsensical to apply to emotions. To me, emotions don't have a positional aspect, they only have a volume level, an abstract "magnitude" without vector.

Can a person be absent an attachment style at all? How does a person survive with no attachment style in a world where unattached people are regularly hunted and killed by predators, or are denied basic needs by those who control resources?
Please don't hug me.
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