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Old 11-08-2019, 06:54 PM   #1
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Is anyone here in an anxious avoidant relationship? I am and it is slowly killing me. I have only recently learnt about this type of relationship and the negative patterns associated with it. I have been with my partner for 10 years and we have 2 kids so it's not as simple as just walking away. I want to make it work if I can. My partner is willing to 'work' on it too. Has anyone successfully navigated a relationship with these 2 attachment styles and had positive changes happen.? It's hard to see light but I can't endure the dance much longer.
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Old 11-10-2019, 07:33 PM   #2
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I don't have any particular experience with this myself. But I noticed no one had yet replied to your post. So I thought I would. (Hopefully there will yet be other members who will see your post & reply.) Here are links to 5 articles, from PC's archives, that I thought might be of interest:

Relational Implications of Avoidant & Anxious-Ambivalent Cultures

Understanding The Avoidant Personality: 6 Ways to Cope | Caregivers, Family & Friends

16 Signs of an Avoidant or Unavailable Partner | Love Matters

18 Ways to Increase Intimacy and Communication with an Avoidant Partner | Love Matters

What Is an Anxious Attachment Style and How Can I Change It? | Happily Imperfect

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I am, and it’s also been ten years. After he just spent the thanksgiving holidays with his mother and without me ( she decided a few years ago she didn’t t like me anymore for reasons unbeknownst to me) and says that he HAS to be with her 🙄, she’s “family” etc , I actually ended up not talking to him the whole weekend even though he called and texted. I just couldn’t handle acting once again like I am ok with this sign of “I’m not important” that’s too close etc. goes back and forth constantly.This was first time I successfully took care of myself in a situation I can’t control. I think I’m getting to the end of my rope,finally! good luck with your situation! It’s brutal for sure!
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Anxious Avoidant Attachment: What Is It, How to Fix It (W/ Examples)

This website is great! I just discovered it and it helped me understand a lot
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