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Old 01-24-2020, 04:08 PM   #11
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Hi - I'm posting today just to be able to share as therapy. I am 55 years who is married with children. Over the years, my wife and I have drifted apart and don't spend much time together other than when it comes to taking care of the kids, house, etc. Most people would consider me an introvert. For most of my adult life, I have had no friends, no one to call on a Saturday night to come watch a hockey game, no one to call when I need an extra pair of hands lifting a heavy object, no one to go the movies with. In fact, one thing I consider when I go to the home improvement stores is how I will get a heavy object into my house by myself...mostly I end up rolling the object into the house by bubble wrapping it first. I've been to the movies by myself many times often putting some article in the seat next to denote the seat is being saved. Periodically, I will look around the theatre pretending to look to see if my friend has arrived.

I do go to social events and talk to people but they usually edge their way out of the conversation after a few minutes. And, of course, after a few more similar situations, my self esteem takes a nose dive. I spend most of the evening tucked away in a corner quietly playing games on my cell phone passing the time. I will take extra trips to the bar or washroom even though I don't need to go, just si I look busy.

I see many people clicking after meeting each other a few times and establishing friendships, going to dinner, bars, etc. I often think of what I'm doing wrong, why not me. This is where the doldrums set in.

Funny thing is, it doesn't take much to raise me out of this state. An expected "hi" from an acquaintance is all it takes.
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Old 01-25-2020, 08:02 PM   #12
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What I find bizarre and frustrating is now the internet seems to have dried up these opportunities. I remember in the 90s it seemed like that is all people wanted to do on the net, met people in real life. I had a great group of friends from all over the USA who were fans of the x-files. Everyone on the net admits the problem but there is no place to go get friends and I suppose there are... but they usually are bizarre. Like you join and no one contacts you for 4 years.
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