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Default Aug 17, 2018 at 10:21 AM
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I found out I have ADD 3 years ago. Changing what I eat helped me tremendously, to the point that I stopped considering meds. It made my life. I weren't less focused than the average person (almost), and it was amazing!
But...
Suddenly, it's not enough. I've started working from home, and it's a job I like, but I can never get to it. I'm asking myself to do stuff, but it's like the "order" can't leave my brain to connect with my body. It's horrible, almost as if I'm in chains. What is happening to me? This is just a part-time, but freelancing is my dream... at this point, I'll ruin my life
I study graphic arts, and this job is on the same subject. But I rarely had issues of getting things done for class. I'm starting to have issues with my personal projects, too, wasting time over minor stuff over and over (wasting more time than usual ) Why is proper nutrition not good enough?
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Default Sep 23, 2018 at 07:41 PM
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Hi, thanks for your post.
I have had similar problems. I've been unemployed for three years and the whole time I've been procrastinating horribly at times. I have also been getting my own substance abuse under control, 1 year and a half clean now though, but still haven't been able to get a job. I want it so badly yet I find myself prioritizing other ridiculous things in the moment when I could actually help myself.
Now this week I'm going to try start a part time job, no not my dream job but I want this desperately. The difference for me now is I have been seeing psychologists who have helped me a lot with my generalised anxiety. I think the decreasing anxiety has also had an impact on my add, as I really don't go well with pressure (most of all my own expectations I find crippling) and with less stress and less emphasis to myself on that "it must be done" (even if that's true) has opened up my focus and self esteem.. at least for the time being.

It sounds like this is a massive thing for yourself, I don't know how useful this will be but perhaps try not to beat yourself up over not being able to focus. I know that is much easier said than done, but we're only human! In fact I admire that you were able to control your symptoms with good diet, even if it's not working as well at the moment. Don't give up!
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Damn... I wish I could get meds. But my family is poor and I haven't even tried to get meds, them supporting my education is already too much. I sometimes can't even get myself to do the things I love because of it. I'm a very positive and optimistic person (apart from the whole "burdening my family" concerns) and have many talents, but when it comes to achieving something with them I can't get myself to focus and do the work properly. And it's not like I'm not strong: I've cured myself from agoraphobia, extreme social anxiety, bullying traumas and decade-long maladaptive daydreaming armed with nothing but stubbornness and google. But ADD has proved even more stubborn. I'm broke, disorganized, and confused, and don't know where to start from to fix my life...
I'm open to any thoughts on how to start improving my life, really. Can't get worse at this point!!!
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Damn... I wish I could get meds. But my family is poor and I haven't even tried to get meds, them supporting my education is already too much. I sometimes can't even get myself to do the things I love because of it.
I feel you there about medication. I've been seeing free psychologists (I live in Australia where I luckily have access to great services) and at the expense of sounding like I'm ungrateful that by itself isn't enough. I feel like I've improved a lot but there are still fundamental problems with my motivation and disorganisation that I can't seem to change. I'm hoping with work I will be able to afford psychiatry services (who can medicate) because I can't see any other option to get a handle on this as I keep going round in circles. Now to finish my statement a bit contradictory, I'm worried even with medication I am me and these problems also make up who I am and that I doubt medication could even fix it.

Now if you haven't caught on I'm a bit lost with my own problems so my advice isn't worth much, but here it is anyways
My first advice is seek help, perhaps free online professionals? I don't know how reliable these services are but if you're desperate it may be worth a shot. I haven't tried myself so I can't recommend anywhere but you never know where constructive help will come from if your open minded.
It sounds like you have experience in dealing with a range of different mental illness. Do you remember any of the treatments you used other than stubborness that may help you now like relaxation techniques?
With diet have you tried exercise? I can't seem to curb my bad eating habits but I began exercising a year ago and (once getting over the intitial muscle ache lol) found that has probably been the most effective at helping my focussing problems.
As I said I know jack so I'm conflicted in saying this as I don't know you personally so it could be a detrimental thought; maybe don't look too far into the future. I take things at most a week ahead (probably because of ADHD) but maybe because I get anxious and think well ahead I've found that accepting I don't like planning too much and only focusing on the few days ahead, pushing myself where I can and giving myself time to run off and do something random when needed has been positive on my mentality to the point it has lifted the fog on my doing things I really want to. I can now (most of the time) deal with having plans now months ahead without getting overwhelmed (it took me a long time to build back up after drug addiction and avoidance). That was very long winded and I'm not sure if this is applicable to studies and working for you but my point is accepting that I do certain things, not saying it's good or bad, has changed how I've decided to approach the problem as far as what solutions are viable for me and not getting so frustrated and angry at myself.
Sorry for talking so much about myself I love to rant
Try to keep in mind even if it feels like you can't bear things anymore you never know what's around the corner (cliche but well it's true) Hope this helps in any way mate
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