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Old 11-19-2018, 01:32 AM   #1
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Unhappy Adult ADHD ?

Hi All,
I m an adult male of 31 years age. Here is my problem.

I used to be very very focused in studies (when i was 18-22years) and was very eager, curious and ambitious in my career work.

From past 4-5 years i got diluted. Slowly and steadily i have gotten into this "Let it go" attitude.

And from past 1 year i have high difficulty in focusing on anything.
Initially, i tried playing video games on computer and get the false sense of achievement.
I m not a regular alcohol consumer but in last 6-8 months i started going out ALONE to consume alcohol to feel good.
I m not a one-man person sexually, but in last 1 year i have met 30 women - and engaged in causal sex which i m not proud of.
All these things, happened in last 1 year when my wife is away from me for her delivery of our baby.

My problem is that i m not able to focus on anything for more than few mins
The video games which i got addicted to also is not giving my any sense of thrill. Neither is causal sex, nor alcohol.
All those addictions or tasks i did to get the momentary thrill, impulsively and i m not able to control that urge to try them again and again.
Recently, i have become so vulnerable that when my wife leaves house for work (she is back with me now) i instantly get the urge to have causal sex or play video game or masturbate or something else..which gives momentary thrill , but at the end of that act, i m neither happy nor thrilled.
It's just getting very very bad. It has already effected my profession (work) and personal life a bit ( i m not taking enough responsibility at home with family).

Is this ADHD ?
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((((Shindler)))) I'm so sorry you're suffering. I don't know if this is ADHD, honestly. The only way to know for sure is to get a proper diagnosis... so I'd suggest to go to a doctor and see how it goes from there. That way, you'll know for sure and you'll get the help you need and deserve (whether it's ADHD or not). Do you see a therapist? I'm so sorry
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I am in this situation too. I was just diagnosed over the summer & am 40 years old. Are you diagnosed with any other mental illnesses? Do you take any meds? There is always the possibility it could be another mental illness like bipolar with manic symptoms or bipolar mixed. Did you get a full psychiatric evaluation? It would be best to get a full evaluation from a psychiatrist, and from the start, as in don't have them assume you have X condition. I did this, and it led to every pdoc thinking I had major depression when it's bipolar (and it took 10 years to get that straightened out). Bipolar comes out at different times for a lot of people but around the age of 25, 26 is common (that's when it happened for me).

When I was younger, I was very focused in school. Graduated valedictorian of my high school class (though it was a small class, 109 students), graduated summa cum laude with a major in Microbiology & minor in Chemistry from a large, well-regarded university. I only had one B and straight A's; I did better than most of the pre-med students in my class. In college, I was diagnosed with major depression & anorexia. I got an M.S. in Cell & Molecular Biology from a bit less regarded university but still considered a good department, published journal articles, one a first author publication.

And then things fell apart. The bipolar came out. Well, I went off meds, had a baby, went to a new pdoc who of course went with post-partum depression, then depression, then bipolar II, then bipolar I after a giant manic episode I had in her office. Can't work, end up in the hospital or close to it any time I try. I can't concentrate to do the calculations to mix the enzymes, dyes and such to run PCR gels even (and I was doing SDS-PAGE and silver staining in grad school, much more complicated than simple PCR).

I couldn't read (my favorite hobby). I couldn't concentrate to watch a TV show or series or movie. I couldn't even concentrate to do a simple game on my iPad, not even solitaire. And as for playing a real board game, if it was more complicated than Shoots & Ladders, forget it. I had to get a new pdoc late March (last one of 10 years retiring), and he diagnosed me with ADHD though I got my medical records from the old doc and noticed she put something about my maybe showing signs of ADD and to watch it in her summation to the new pdoc.

New pdoc said something about hyperfocus regarding my school years and that the other MIs I have were untreated or not controlled and masking the ADHD at the time. He put ADHD down as a diagnosis. Whether I have it or not, I don't know. He put me on Adderall, and I do have to say, I can now read books again and watch TV shows and play games more complicated than solitaire on my iPad. I don't know if he is right or if my other meds along with bipolar hypomania/mania cause these symptoms, but oh, well, it's working out OK. I don't have any side effects from the Adderall except I have noticed an increased sex drive, not to the extreme, just that I finally have a sex drive again, so that is actually a plus for me.
Bipolar 1 mixed features, PTSD, anorexia, panic disorder, ADHD

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Hello Shindler: I noticed this is your first post, here on PC. So I thought I would say welcome to PsychCentral. We here on PC can't offer mental health diagnoses. Our purpose here is to provide one another with support & to share information & experiences. So in order to figure out what is going on, you're going to need to see a mental health professional... perhaps a psychologist, a mental health therapist or a psychiatrist.

In the meantime, one option for you would be to take some of the quizzes & tests that are on offer here on PC. Here's a link to the listing of quizzes & tests that are available:

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And then here are links to 6 articles, from PsychCentral's archives, that may be of interest:

Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD)

Frequently Asked Questions about Adult ADHD

ADHD in Adults

Treatment for ADHD in Adults

I hope you find PC to be of benefit.
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