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Default Nov 17, 2019 at 10:02 AM
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So my whole life, I thought I had struggled with depression and anxiety. But a new diagnosis has left me with some questions I want answers to.

I was diagnosed recently with Aspergers and I have a few questions.

1. Those on the spectrum are rather finicky with loud environments.... not me. I work in nightclubs so obviously it's no issue. Does this symptom affect some but not others?

2. So I'm not gonna say im the most socially normal person out there, however, I'm a bit formal and robotic in ways. As I said I work in nightlife, so I'm able to maintain eye contact to a degree (its a bit difficult but I do force it at times) and I'm able to uphold a conversation... to a degree. I'm not like others my age with all the lingo, instead of "Hey whats up" I say "Hello/Hi, how are you?"

3. How do those with Aspergers process information differently? I read all about it, but can't find exactly how. I know I think differently. I know I overanalyze and obsess. Which leads me to the next question.

4. I had a previous diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder, however my current psych says the previous one was fresh out of school and seemed to be overly eager. Do symptoms of BPD resemble symptoms of Aspergers or can it be commonly misdiagnosed? I firmly believe in my Aspergers diagnosis but there are a few things that leave me questioning. One big thing is that I have an intense fear of abandonment. Very intense.

5. I have no problem showing love to my SO. In fact, I crave love and affection, I need it. I need validation and I need the affection and I need my SO to show me off on social media in order to feel im important. But those with Aspergers supposedly don't need what I need. So can things like this affect one Aspie more than another?

6. I realize its a spectrum, which makes me assume that some symptoms may match me, while others may not. is this true?

7. My psych says my issue is BPD or depression per se, but the sadness that comes along with having Aspergers (her son has it too), the feeling that you aren't being received by society like other, and this hit me hard. I've always been an outsider, yet I've always tried to fit in. Yet I never could. my whole life. I would bounce school to school as a youngling trying to fit in, but no matter where I went, I never did. I did have friends, but not many, and to be honest they were crappy now that I look back. I would always try to make my friends happier than they would make me, I would always do what they wanted and I would always be the one who tried hardest while they just kept taking while never giving back.

This isn't a question, but perhaps a way for you to tell me your own experience if its similar?

8. I enjoy being lonely in my room now that I'm older. when I was younger it made me sad that I didn't have many friends, but the older I got, the more safe I feel in my room, alone with just my tv. I've realized that even with the friends I have now, I only see them about 1-2x a month and thats fine with me. now that im older I have tried to make friends, but id always end up not actually contacting them enough to establish a solid friendship. Usually being alone in my room beats being with friends. All I really need is a SO (Significant other) and maybe some friends who I can see once a month, but no longer do I have a desire to be mr. popular. Do you have anything similar to share with me?
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Hello HelloWorld: I'm sorry but I'm not someone who can answer any of your questions. (Hopefully there will yet be other PC members who will have some thoughts they can share.) However I noticed this is your first post, here on PC, & you had yet to be greeted. So...welcome to Psych Central. I hope you find PC to be of benefit.

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