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Old 05-16-2020, 10:46 AM   #1
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My husband and I are 36 years old. We've been married 12 years and our marriage has become increasingly difficult since we started having children 7 years ago. We have two kids now. I've also felt like we do not have an emotional connection nor valued in our relationship. All he seems to care about are 'tasks' and disregards my feelings. I'm looking for companionship and I'm having a hard time finding it with him.

Recently we are dealing with him being newly diagnosed with autism. Can anyone give me tips how to cope?

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Old 05-16-2020, 02:48 PM   #2
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I don't have any personal experience with this. (Presumably there will be other PC members who may have some coping tips they can share.)

In the meantime, here is a link to DocJohn's article on communication within relationships. And then, also, you mentioned your husband having been diagnosed as being on the Autism spectrum. I presume (hopefully not incorrectly) that he is considered to have Asperger's Syndrome? So, assuming that is the case, here are links to 6 additional articles, from PC's archives, on the subject of Aspie / NT relationships:

9 Steps to Better Communication Today

Romance, Love and Asperger Syndrome

Aspergers and Non-Aspie Relationships

5 Tips for Loving Someone with Asperger's Syndrome

Asperger's and Marriage: He's Always Looking for Debate

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