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Old 08-17-2020, 12:01 AM   #11
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All the quizzes i took say im likely to be as well!!! The issue is as far as verification... no one knows im going on this journey to discover so when it comes to assessing my parents for my history.. they are not available... and the cost is so high :í( i feel like ill never get answers or help. Every place ive contacted for an assessment ignores me...
Because I have the VA, I am sure I can speak to the counselors there. However, with the whole COVID thing going on, that's going to be a while before that happens.
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Old 08-17-2020, 06:05 PM   #12
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Because I have the VA, I am sure I can speak to the counselors there. However, with the whole COVID thing going on, that's going to be a while before that happens.

You could always do virtual
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With who, and how much would that cost. Forgive me, but I am Scot-Irish by blood. I used to like to drink but didn't like to pay for it.
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With you in spirit I am in the same situation here. I had to start my own businesses just so I could work alone and avoid as many interactions as possible. Each time I try to socialize or have a conversation I am exhausted for hours and sometimes for the remainder of the day. I had to attend a meeting for business yesterday and by the end of the meeting I felt like I was shattered into pieces and needed to go home and reassemble myself. I always knew that I was very different but as I got older I realize just how different I really am. A family member learned about Aspergers as a job requirement and immediately knew that I had it. After reading about it myself I had no doubt and my score on the test was solid confirmation of what I already knew. I have kept it a secret for many years and sometimes just want to tell people so they understand that I just can't help it - I just don't want people to know. I was hoping to speak with others who have Aspergers so we can support each other in this sometimes lonely existence.
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With you in spirit I am in the same situation here. I had to start my own businesses just so I could work alone and avoid as many interactions as possible. Each time I try to socialize or have a conversation I am exhausted for hours and sometimes for the remainder of the day. I had to attend a meeting for business yesterday and by the end of the meeting I felt like I was shattered into pieces and needed to go home and reassemble myself. I always knew that I was very different but as I got older I realize just how different I really am. A family member learned about Aspergers as a job requirement and immediately knew that I had it. After reading about it myself I had no doubt and my score on the test was solid confirmation of what I already knew. I have kept it a secret for many years and sometimes just want to tell people so they understand that I just can't help it - I just don't want people to know. I was hoping to speak with others who have Aspergers so we can support each other in this sometimes lonely existence.
Well, over the years, (and they have been many,) I have been able to condition myself to be able to handle groups well, but I am not as drained as I used to be. However, the other shoe drops when in that situation: diareha of the mouth, and on one subject on which I like at that moment. The spotlight is on and now I am the star. It's just as draining, but at least I'm socalizing. However, it's not always to the liking of those there. With Aspy's, that can happen. I'm at the point where, if I am awake and have had a self talk before going into a situation, I can stay on my toes and keep myself from doing socially awkward things. However, if I am tired, or becoming so, its ASD default setting that kicks in, and here we go again.
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Even though I was non verbal until I was 4, a classic ASD sign and I had behavior issues and sensory issues and everything It wasnít suggested until I was 15 and I didnít get an official diagnosis until my early 20ís. Now Iím 27 itís on paper, and all my therapist talks about is ďwell you feel like this because of the autism, and itís a sensory issues, etcĒ All my medical providers specialize in autism and no one will work with me who doesnít specialize in it. I feel like my case is more then mild but not quite moderate. It bugs me I was diagnosed so late when it was obvious I had it my whole life.
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Even though I was non verbal until I was 4, a classic ASD sign and I had behavior issues and sensory issues and everything It wasnít suggested until I was 15 and I didnít get an official diagnosis until my early 20ís. Now Iím 27 itís on paper, and all my therapist talks about is ďwell you feel like this because of the autism, and itís a sensory issues, etcĒ All my medical providers specialize in autism and no one will work with me who doesnít specialize in it. I feel like my case is more then mild but not quite moderate. It bugs me I was diagnosed so late when it was obvious I had it my whole life.
I feel your frustration. Try being 50 and just finding out. I haven't had it put on paper officially, but all the signs are there, and every assesment I've found has me so clearly on the High Functioning area of the spectrum that to say this is not the case would be odd. All I'd need it for is something official that shows it. In any case, what was worse for me was they, like your era, knew nothing of the thing. They, in your time, knew a bit, but not what they know now. What I don't care for is them telling you that that's just your autism as if that was an excuse of some sort; that you can get away with certain things because of it. Well, depending on how severe it is for you, from my experience, though I can't change the wiring in the ol' noodle, I've learned to work around it in some areas and I am starting to learn how to turn things to my advantage. Yes, there are things that will never go away and will always be the default setting in how I function in this world, but that does not mean I can't work around it. I think we all can.
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Here's a thought. Knowing now that I am on the spectrum, (level 1,) I've been doing research. Of course, I have run into things that try to make the claim that ASD is fake, it's not real, it's just doctors trying to find ways to make more money--the usual nonsense. I have a cousin with a daughter who is now 21, but with a mind of a 13-year old, who is somewhere between levels one and two, and I have family that have put her through the wringer. They tell her she doesn't know what she's talking about, it's all nonsense, and they have been rather harsh and rude to her daughter. They tell her she just needs to get over it, to grow up, to stop hiding behind a fake disease, and that gets my blood boiling. It's worse that it's her own blood. It's really angering now that I know that I also am on the spectrum. Nevermind my cousin has binders loaded with data from doctors analyzing her daughter. How did all this, "It isn't a real thing," get started? I want to tell these idiots to spend time living inside my brain and then tell me what is and is not real. However, I want more sensible responses to give them and let them know they don't know about what they speak. (P.S. If I am ever at a family gathering and they start in on the pair, I'm getting inbetween them and warning them to back up or else feel pain.)
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