Small talk

AzulOscuro · 03:27 AM

Do you know that there is a social group here, in the forum, for those people who feel bad or uncomfortable bc their threads recive one or few replies. It seemed funny to me when I saw it.

It's about small talk. How do you feel with it and how or what tips you use to cope with it?

I think small talk is often very boring and when the topic is about the weather, I begin to worry.
My way to deal with it if I can't scape is looking at the person to see if there is something new to comment ( a new hairstyle, his/her son's pic...) and looking around to see if there is an object which can give me the clue about what to talk.

By the way. I barely have small talk with strangers unless they are the ones who talk to me first, the other way is out of my posibilities.

Said that, I would like you to reply this thread but if not, i'm not gonna feel bad and go to the non-answer social group.

gayleggg · Mar 30, 2015 at 09:06 AM

I didn't know that there was a social group for this. That's interesting.

I'm good at small talk and often start the conversation. I was born with the gift of gab, but I can see how it would make you uncomfortable at times.

I like it when people reply to my threads too. It's always nice to feel that people are interested in you.

A Red Panda · Mar 30, 2015 at 09:26 AM

I'm excellent at small talk actually - but I never initiate.

I've had some rather entertaining conversations about the weather, but that's probably because of where I live!

I find it polite, and I feel like I stand out less if I learn to behave in more confident ways even if I don't feel any confidence. I have various topics which I can engage in conversation about easily - travel, stories about my students, etc.

If it's a conversation with a stranger it is usually related to whatever is going on that's having us in the same place long enough to have a conversation.

AzulOscuro · 09:45 AM

Hello, gayleggg!
So, if you are good at small talk you can teach me. Can it be learnt?
Any tips? Talking about hobbies, perhaps?

Edit: there are many threads and sometimes people can't reply all or don't know what to say.
There is also the posibility that they already saw a good reply and they don't have much to add ( that happens to me a lot). So, it's fine. No problem.
I think that if a person is very interesting in an answer all (s)he has to do is repeat the thread in different subforums or repeat it in the same subforum.

AzulOscuro · Mar 30, 2015 at 10:32 AM

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Originally Posted by AzulOscuro

Hello, gayleggg!
So, if you are good at small talk you can teach me. Can it be learnt?
Any tips? Talking about hobbies, perhaps?

Edit: there are many threads and sometimes people can't reply all or don't know what to say.
There is also the posibility that they already saw a good reply and they don't have much to add ( that happens to me a lot). So, it's fine. No problem.
I think that if a person is very interesting in an answer all (s)he has to do is repeat the thread in different subforums or repeat it in the same subforum.

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Originally Posted by A Red Panda

I'm excellent at small talk actually - but I never initiate.

I've had some rather entertaining conversations about the weather, but that's probably because of where I live!

I find it polite, and I feel like I stand out less if I learn to behave in more confident ways even if I don't feel any confidence. I have various topics which I can engage in conversation about easily - travel, stories about my students, etc.

If it's a conversation with a stranger it is usually related to whatever is going on that's having us in the same place long enough to have a conversation.

Yeah, I also talked about my students as well.
I'm sure you have many interesting things to tell about your journeys. In a journey usually happen any kind of things: different people, different languages, when they lost your luggage or when your suitcase breaks down and you have to go to the shop and put in all you have in the new suitcase in front of the people bc tha bus is about to go.

Snap66 · Apr 01, 2015 at 03:46 AM

I have a AvPD Facebook forum (its only small) with the aim to give escape from heavy mental health subjects.
I enjoy forums and they are vital but there are times when i just need to chat about everything else but,, with like minded people.

Small talk with day to day people well, thats survival, but within the forum and among your friends its conversation.

avpd5391 · Apr 09, 2015 at 06:47 AM

Small talk with strangers is out of the questions. Even when they initiate it's hard, I have no idea what to say. When I'm with people I know it's a little different. Sometimes I think I'm secretly an extrovert. I really like talking even when it is pointless, it gives me confidence. However, my brain fumbles most of the time, searching for something, anything to say. When I do say something its really good and totally worth it. when it's one on one I can answer questions and sometimes even volunteer information . If I could talk,I think my avpd would slowly fade away...

mountain human · Apr 10, 2015 at 06:21 PM

Weird thing about "small talk". It's just normal human interaction. Some days it's natural for me and I enjoy it and it flows. Other days I can't seem to bring myself to even make eye contact and when I interact with people I shut down emotionally. Very annoying...

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mountain human Member Member Since Sep 2014 Location: in my monkey mind Posts: 348 9 82 hugs given	Apr 10, 2015 at 06:21 PM #8 Weird thing about "small talk". It's just normal human interaction. Some days it's natural for me and I enjoy it and it flows. Other days I can't seem to bring myself to even make eye contact and when I interact with people I shut down emotionally. Very annoying...
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