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Default Nov 04, 2017 at 11:34 PM
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I received a phone call that my Mother died.

We weren't close to the point that I cannot remember the last time I had seen her. Its quite numbing in that I miss what I have lost...but never had.

The funeral was a wall of sound and emotions. I had to see my mother and face family who I had not seen for 20-30+ years. There was allot that didn't recognise me, even being asked if I was family when I sat at the front pew.
(I guess I'm not family when you look at the big picture)

I did finally spend some time with her before everyone else was allowed in so I did finally make my peace with her, but it took her to pass before this could happen. I do think about her allot now.

Sorry about the title, I wasn't sure what to call it. Even using the words family an mother doesn't seem right.

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Unhappy Nov 05, 2017 at 06:56 PM
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I was not close to my mother or father either. (It's a long story.) My mother passed away first. At the time I was living in the western part of the U.S. My parents lived in the east. I flew back for the funeral & spent a couple of days with my father. I don't really recall anything about the funeral itself. My father remarried a year or two after that. When he passed I did not go back for the funeral. There would have been no one there I would have known. They've both been gone now for over a decade. I still think about them from time-to-time. My condolences on your loss...

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Default Nov 08, 2017 at 11:27 AM
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Likewise, I'm sorry for your loss.

Did you want to talk about it more, or were you just getting it off your chest?
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Default Nov 08, 2017 at 07:32 PM
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Likewise, I'm sorry for your loss.

Did you want to talk about it more, or were you just getting it off your chest?
Initially I was going to expand on it more but you know how it goes "easier to say just enough than too much"

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Sure. I hope today finds you feeling alright.
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Default Nov 09, 2017 at 02:52 AM
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This was really sad to hear Snap! Not even recognized as a part of the family, not having a relationship with the peron who brought you into this world. <very sorry for your loss! I get the feeling its a common census here that we dont have a close relationship with our families. I think a lot about this being maybe main reason I have avpd. I never "learned" to connect to people since my relationsship with my father and mother has always been very shallow. Anyway I dont want to hijack your post here Snap, againm sorry for your loss, but good to hear that you feel you made peace with her,
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