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Old 06-23-2018, 12:20 AM #1
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With AVP, do people ever treat you like you are a narcissist? I seem to get that a lot, I feel very humble, actually self esteem is really low, I feel empathetic, but somehow people often acuse me of being selfish and of acting as if I'm superior. I certainly don't feel superior...
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Todd Grande on YouTube has a good video explaining the difference between the PD's, why people can confuse them, and how it's actually impossible for someone with AvPD to be narcissistic.
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My reluctance to engage in conversation has been perceived as arrogance, especially in environments like the workplace where people don't really know me. I make more of an effort now to observe social norms in these situations through eye contact, saying hello or smiling when passing others, etc. I'm still uncomfortable with chitchat, but I find that these small concessions have lessened the general perception of me as intimidating and aloof.
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With AVP, do people ever treat you like you are a narcissist? I seem to get that a lot, I feel very humble, actually self esteem is really low, I feel empathetic, but somehow people often acuse me of being selfish and of acting as if I'm superior. I certainly don't feel superior...
I sometimes feel superior. More than anything.

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It's projection. Narcissists with no self-awareness or even good knowledge of psychology are accusing you of having what they have.
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I agree, itís projection

I actually typed out a long rant about my Avpd (I wish I didnít have it ) but deleted it.

Some people do misperceive some ďavoidantsĒ - usually because the judging person is lacking in compassion and empathy
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Yeah, I've been accused by people of having delusions of superiority. They interpreted my avoidance of people as me 'feeling too good to hang out with them'.
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Saw a video by Dr Grande where he tells about how an avoidant can be perceived as an arrogant person and be mislead with a person with Narcissistic traits.
I, myself, as a person with social anxiety and depression, always show a distant image. My god! People are so ****ing fun here in my country. I couldnít be more different to them. However, they donít know whatís in my inside.
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Saw a video by Dr Grande where he tells about how an avoidant can be perceived as an arrogant person and be mislead with a person with Narcissistic traits.
I, myself, as a person with social anxiety and depression, always show a distant image. My god! People are so ****ing fun here in my country. I couldnít be more different to them. However, they donít know whatís in my inside.
Iím judged all the time irl because of my anxiety. People are so ****ing fun in this country too.. not. Grrrrrrrrrrrrr. Youíre so right, those foolish judgers do not know whatís in my inside.
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