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Default Feb 08, 2019 at 10:28 AM
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Pirilin, I agree. The factors in your friend's upcoming marriage are not auspicious. Still, I wish them luck.

Hope you feel better for getting that out.
I do feel better. And now, I that you gave me this oportunity, I'll let it all out.

He didn't handle his wife's situation in the best manner.
Instead of taking her to a Real hospital, that, BTW, he passed in front of,
he took her to a nursing home and hospital, because there was where they doctor visited.

He called La Bruja, a doctor, when he has been there for hours already.
The first thing the doctor told him when he saw her, was that his own wife died of that.
And did little to try and save her.

And the call was to say that she was dying. And in coma.

This decision, may have costed her life.
According to La Bruja, who's the worst bed side mannered doctor, but is also one of the best in diagnostics, she could have been saved in a real hospital.

Sometimes I blame him. Others, I put myself in his situation.
It's late at night. She has been having stomach pain all day.
But refused to go to the hospital.
I think he tried to take her where there was a familiar face. Which never showed up.

I can lay down to rest that part now. Thanks to you.

Now the bride.
He called to say was getting a roomate.
A woman he knew in High School, (and has never seen again) and that she was homeless.

He husband is a drug addict, her son is also a drug addict. Since she is apparently a saint, she couldn't bear that situation anymore.
And went homeless.

She told him she was having a hip operation, and when she was being released, asked his address.
Hopped in a bus for Georgia, to some forsaken town, where he went to pick her up.

That cabin of his, has only a sofa in the first floor.
So either she slept there, which I doubt, or was strong enough to climb steep stairs to get to the guest bedroom, with a recuperating hip. Strong woman.

We was also strong enough to climb on top of him too. Dayum.
And to start talking about wedding plans, probably next day when she woke up.

We have invited them to spend a few days with us.
So I won't pass final judgement, until I see with my own eyes what's going on.
But, so far, something smells fishy.
I can change my mind on a dime and admit I was wrong. I hope I am.

Also, let me add that she was my friend. He was my friend's husband.
If you know what I mean.
I also need to mention that he loved her very much. And always put up with her crazy actions.
This woman, RIP, changed cars every four or five months. I'm talking Jags, Mercedes, BMWs, ect. And they were always almost broke.
Bought expensive jewelery at expensive prices, and he never said a word.
To top it off, they changed motorhomes, at her request, four times in two years. They lost 200k in that only.
To finally end up with the fifth wheeler he always wanted.
This man been driving several duallys for fifteen years, in hopes that she will change her mind.
I don't know if to call it love or stupidity.

Terry was my friend. I miss her dearly. Nobody will take her place in my heart.

Cheers.

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Default Feb 08, 2019 at 10:58 PM
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Im sorry to hear what you are going through. It must hurt to feel like your friend has been "forgotten" so soon. I also dont think it sounds like a marriage that will last very long from what you have said but I guess there is always a chance. I do hope that seeing them will go well and end up being a good thing.

For myself, I dont like marriage. I do love the man I call my husband though. We have been together for 12yrs, common law for almost 11.

We met when I was very young and our relationship was mostly built on drugs, alcohol and sex. It was rough and really not healthy until I got pregnant and even then it was pretty bad for quite a while. We eventually quit doing most of that(except the sex, it just gets better). We had another 2 babies and we both changed for better and worse. I wouldnt say we changed each other though, people just change. We basically traded partying for mental illness.... Somehow that is making me seriously laugh right now.

Every person in my immediate family has been divorced one or more times. My parents were divorced twice each. The only people who haven't gone through divorce are me and one of my brothers because neither of us have gotten married. Every marriage I have seen up close has been horrific. Full of abuse and hatred and then ending in a mess that hurts everyone involved.

We have been engaged for 9yrs and I have even had a wedding dress in my closet for about 3yrs. He keeps asking and I keep putting it off, I like our relationship and dont want to ruin it. I am seriously afraid of saying I do.

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