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Default Feb 09, 2019 at 01:25 AM
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F her bird lady! She did you a favor.

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Default Feb 09, 2019 at 03:07 AM
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BirdDancer, thank you for sharing this story. It makes me feel less alone somehow.

In the last 12 years, I've been rejected by a psychologist (on my second visit with her) and dropped by a psychiatrist (after 3 years as his patient).

The psychologist said she didn't work with people who were trying to get over addictions. She did at least refer me to someone else.

The psychiatrist dropped me after I emerged from a month-long hospitalization following my only suicide attempt, telling me he couldn't work with a suicidal patient. No referral. (I landed back in the hospital, where I then underwent ECT.)

Though I went through a few more pdocs in subsequent years, a year ago I finally found a wonderful, compassionate & competent psychologist who has been more helpful to me than anyone in my life.

I agree with those who say she did you a favor--but I can relate. Each time for me, it felt like the ultimate rejection.
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Default Feb 09, 2019 at 11:50 AM
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BirdDancer, I'm sorry to hear about your disappointing experience. I agree with others that it was probably for the better to be told right away if your T can't work with you.

I've been ditched by my T last year simply because we didn't have much left to talk about. Good therapists like to work towards some goal in their sessions, not just chat. At first it felt like rejection, then I was happy about the simplification in my weekly schedule, and right now I'm somewhat reluctant to start looking for a new one, partly for fear of rejection.

May view is that one doesn't always need Ts with chronic conditions like bipolar or ASD. As a client one should have a good idea about the purpose of counselling sessions, and clearly establish goals in the first meeting.
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Default Feb 09, 2019 at 12:05 PM
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PurpleBlues, I'm happy to read that you finally found a helpful and kind psychiatrist. I have been lucky that I appreciate mine, too.

PsychoPhil, I hope that if you ever decide you want a therapist again that the search is easy. A fear of rejection is understandable. I was talking to my psychiatrist a couple months back about how stressful therapy searches can be. You call them and many don't even respond, not even to say they aren't taking new clients. That's not usually the case with other healthcare providers. Somehow most common in therapists and psychiatrists. Considering that people with psych or emotional issues are often most sensitive, this trend is, to me, kind of cruel. In many cases, it is even hard to muster the courage to seek help, not having your calls for help answered or handled in a respectful kind way is a deterrent.
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Default Feb 09, 2019 at 08:14 PM
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Thanks, WC! You're surely right. That is certainly the answer that makes me feel better. This was sort of disappointing, this day today. I'm kind of sad because her office is close to where my husband works. I was hoping to combine therapy days with afternoon workday lunches with him. I guess not. The other psychologist is not particularly close to my husband's work.
I agree with Wild Coyote on this
(This thread has me thinking, thanks for sharing..)

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Default Feb 09, 2019 at 09:34 PM
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I’ve had T’s and pdoc’s end our ‘relationship’ due to their basic inability to do their job, which is work with people with all kinds of mental health issues. I guess some have limits in their expertise, but my god the reasons I have been ditched are so petty. As others have said ‘bye, watch the door on the way out!’. Lol

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