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Old 02-26-2019, 08:36 PM #11
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Ya'll are seeing the wrong people LOL. Sorry. And I think may be making it more about 'them' than 'you'. And/or 'they' are doing that to you. It's your life. Take it by the ballz and run with it. If after a few sessions that is not happening, or doesn't seem to have potential for that to happen, yes, bail. And keep looking.

I'm blessed and thankful to live in a pretty good sized city, I can walk there if needed. Which is pretty great bc I don't always do well driving like I used to.

Not everyone has that, but find it to best of ability. If not possible, move. If not possible, I keep seeing all of this on-line therapy stuff. Seems kinda BS, but probably isn't completely. They put Michael Phelps picture on it. LOL. Take that for what it is. I think he's handsome but that's just me.

Don't give up. Hang in there.

Read my previous post again, start to finish. Promise there's a decent chance it will help. It's long. I'm maybe a little bit tiny hypomanic but go with it. Who cares. I took a shower today, cooked, left the house multiple times, and functioned within society. If that is not success, I dunno what is. Can I hold a job right now? No way in hell. Maybe someday. Can I be in 'dating' relationship right now? Unlikely. Maybe someday. Do I have a 'normal' life? No, lol. But who cares. I'm comfortable in my own skin. And working on a functional recovery, day by day. It will lead to those other things I mentioned, or at least it's a heck of a lot more likely. Don't look down on yourselves. You are wonderful and beautiful. This thread is about therapy. I don't think you should ever leave the room feeling 'bad' or 'worse'. Either they are not well-skilled and trained enough, or you are not in a place to do well with it. And if they are skilled and well trained, they can bring you into that space and place. I'm afraid to say it, but you are likely to be trapped on medications as a sole crutch without solid therapy. Medication is needed, but we largely are way over-medicated, and it's a band-aid. Some, yes. Cool. But there's a balance. Good T = helping you acheive that balance. The alternative is low QOL, and shorter lifespan from meds. I'll stop and not write anymore tonight lol. Take care of yourselves, don't give up, and hang in there. Last thing I'll say, is exercise daily. See it as medication, and these other things too. Oversimplifying...yes. But who cares. Live your best life, and meet yourself where you are. You are OK, and worthwhile, and were created just the way you were meant to be. Don't strive, nor compare. Just be you, crazy and all. Your brain may not work like others. But you are not others. U r U. Accept it and embrace it.

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Ya'll are seeing the wrong people LOL. Sorry. And I think may be making it more about 'them' than 'you'. And/or 'they' are doing that to you. It's your life. Take it by the ballz and run with it. If after a few sessions that is not happening, or doesn't seem to have potential for that to happen, yes, bail. And keep looking.



I'm blessed and thankful to live in a pretty good sized city, I can walk there if needed. Which is pretty great bc I don't always do well driving like I used to.



Don't give up. Hang in there.



Read my previous post again, start to finish. Promise there's a decent chance it will help. It's long. I'm maybe a little bit tiny hypomanic but go with it. Who cares. I took a shower today, cooked, left the house multiple times, and functioned within society. If that is not success, I dunno what is. Can I hold a job right now? No way in hell. Maybe someday. Can I be in 'dating' relationship right now? Unlikely. Maybe someday. Do I have a 'normal' life? No, lol. But who cares. I'm comfortable in my own skin. And working on a functional recovery, day by day. It will lead to those other things I mentioned, or at least it's a heck of a lot more likely.
I'll elaborate about therapists from my point of view then. I find therapists counter productive because i don't like to waste my time on useless methods that doesn't provide me with any positive effects. Don't get me wrong I'm not bashing it or saying its useless because for some it is helpful. But what concerns me is therapists aren't promoting to their clients that people can have different views. Also there's no recovery from bipolar disorder so might as well see and experience all things I can. Possibly find something along the way that can make me happy. Its doubtful but I'm having one helluva ride on my way.

Dont give up as well and hang in there too,

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Joe....I'm also Joe.

I hear what u r saying. There are most certainly (a lot) of not good therapists. I can think of quite a few off the top of my head. I have worked in healthcare at times, so I have been around more, but regardless.

Any therapist like what u mentioned shouldn't be one....yet they are!! And I know some. They went into business for themselves, and don't see it...eeekkk. not good. I'm glad I have been able to link with the one I have now. I do not see it as a long term thing though.

There's no 'cure'....I don't want one anymore. I just want to be me. Working on figuring that out...hopefully it works out. As u said, just want to be happy, and enjoy the ride. Don't lose hope. Me either.

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My pdoc requires me to see a therapist. I always assumed that would be pretty standard but it sounds like it isn't. I think she wants a front line of defense so that if I start to go up or down it doesn't wait 4 weeks until I see her to get treatment. I'm getting better at seeking treatment really quickly but sometimes I need a nudge and sometimes my therapist needs to tell her how I am because I can't (too ill). She always asks about therapy when I see her and her visit is a therapy session as well as the ones with my therapist. So essentially I get a LOT of therapy so it's a good thing I like it most of the time.
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Thank you so much for making this thread, clydeblack! Thank you so much everyone for taking part in it and share your experiences. You've all given some great advice in this thread. I'd suggest others to follow it if you can. Thank you all so much for your thoughtful and wise posts! Finding a good therapist is hard, but it can be done. However, you don't have to do therapy if you don't want you. If you've found something else that helps you, that's great! Everyone is different. I'm glad that there are so many resources available for so many people today. I'd suggest to look and find out what is the best option for you! Either way, remember to take car eof yourselves. That's the most important thing that you can do. It doesn't matter how. Just stay safe and take care of yourselves. I hope you'll all feel better soon. You all deserve to get better and to feel good. You all deserve to live a good life just like everyone else. Please don't give up. I know it's hard. Keep fighting. You're all wonderful people. You're all awesome! You're all strong! You're all warriors! Sending many hugs to everyone
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I have mixed feelings about therapy. I started seeing a counselor for a few visits but I donít plan to go long-term. Sheís given me a good perspective to consider and the rest is up to me. Iíve worked in health care so long that I donít entirely trust counselors anymore. I see things like caregiver burnout or judgement very quickly. I see when a person is not really tuning in or really just doesnít care. Iím also very aware of how annoying it is when people are babbling and not really listening to their counselors because I deal with that all the time in my job... I can see that Iíve done some babbling and not truly listening to this counselor... I keep repeating myself then she keeps repeating her message. I plan to stop the babbling.. listen to her message... work on her suggestions which I know are logical... and move on.
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Apart from quality of therapists and chemistry, an appropriate frequency of appointments is important to me. If it's just about stability on meds, I'd say once a month is probably enough. That's also much easier to fit in a work schedule. Or what's the help ot T sessions if they result in an insane amount of extra stress in life?
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Therapy has been immensely helpful to me and I absolutely love going. Itís not a perfect relationship - we have our issues, but we talk them through and come out ok on the other side.

Iím trying to figure out why anyone would willingly go to therapy if they are not getting anything out of it. I wonít say if theyíre not enjoying it, because therapy is not always to be enjoyed. Itís a lot of really hard work. But unless youíre court-ordered, why go if you donít want to be there?
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Therapy has been immensely helpful to me and I absolutely love going. Itís not a perfect relationship - we have our issues, but we talk them through and come out ok on the other side.



Iím trying to figure out why anyone would willingly go to therapy if they are not getting anything out of it. I wonít say if theyíre not enjoying it, because therapy is not always to be enjoyed. Itís a lot of really hard work. But unless youíre court-ordered, why go if you donít want to be there?
I love therapy too, just not the type that includes therapists.

I'm happy it works for you.

Tonight I'm going to a bipolar support group with my best friend to meet others bipolar people. I'm looking forward to it as I've only done one support group with an old friend that was battling drug addiction.
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Hey guys, thank you so much for all of your responses! I did not anticipate this much engagement and truly appreciate it.

I've been wanting to do DBT for a while. Unfortunately, I can't do group because I'm in school. That's also why I had to "break up" with my therapist, my schedule is crazy this year.

But, I'm looking into some type of DBT program/practitioner anyway. I REALLY hope I can find something. I've been in talk therapy for so long, and really need tools to use in everyday life. Luckily I am functional enough to do basic activities, so that's good.

Also, I am not a fan of the American medical system, especially in terms of medication. Now, I only let my doctor from my country prescribe it (have been seeing her since I first started medication), and she only gives me what is necessary. Therapy has always been the main factor in managing everyday moods.

I can feel myself slipping under a little bit, but then I go back up. Hopefully, I can find some sort of useful therapy before things get too dark. For now, I am still hopeful that there will finally be something life-changing out there. I bought a DBT handbook which I have yet to try. It has really good reviews! If it works I will share it with you guys.

To everyone who says they are untreatable, I completely understand. I knew someone close to me who had the same problem, and it didn't end well... However, part of me thinks there was something out there for them, and it was that they had made up their mind about the decision to end things because the doctors had decided to give up. I hope there is something out there for you so that you don't have to suffer the same consequences.

Anyway, I always enjoy reading your stories.
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