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Old 02-26-2019, 01:12 PM #1
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Hey guys, long time no see.

Do any of you not have a therapist or dislike seeing one? My Mom has a great one, but I'm having difficulty finding someone that doesn't annoy me. I just don't like sitting in a closed room talking about my problems. I usually walk out feeling bad because it reminds me of everything going wrong, even if I was in a good mood!

Anyway, what's your take on therapy?
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Default Re: Does anyone not like seeing a therapist?

i've seen 9 diffrent therapists- 8 of which were unhelpful and did absolutely nothing for me (granted, they tried their best, it just didn't work out)

I think part of the reason is my mother, she kept scaring them away and threatening them- but also i'm just beyond help (no, I generally think so)

one of my therapists did some cbt work with me which was pretty useful, but I've forgotten all the skills now- this was years ago before I even knew about the forum

embarrasingly enough, I used to tell my friend about the skills and get her to try them with me

so I should know them really

but I don't
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I hate individual therapy, ok with group therapy pending on who is in the group
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I never minded the therapy enviroment, but i could never find a good one and finally gave up. My pdoc gives me hard time about not having one but the last one he agreed was making situation worse.
Based on my experiences i pretty much see that profession now as quackery...
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With the psychiatrists I've had these last 16 years (my current for almost 13 and counting), therapy was not optional. It was mandatory. However, I had terrible experiences with therapy for a little over half that time. Part of it were the therapists, part just me and my illness. It's a long story. Of the over 10 therapists I saw during that period, I only really benefited notably from four, and my current is looking like a positive relationship, too. I'm encouraged! Most that I liked had to end for reasons beyond my control (retirement, move, end of time at IOP). A couple eventually turned sour or ran their course. Some were downright awful (creepy, unqualified, eccentric in an uncomfortable way, just seemed to dislike me, or even fear me - during mania).

What I will say is that a good therapist is extremely valuable. I would not be as far along as I am now without my really good therapists. I need someone beyond a family member or friend, especially someone highly trained to help a person in my situation.
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Default Re: Does anyone not like seeing a therapist?

I kind of disliked going to two of my therapists. I felt awkward, even a bit annoyed while there. To be honest I went into therapy with my new therapist without much expectation. I do enjoy therapy now, though.

My current therapist puts me at ease, and it is the right balance for me of me talking and her leading the session with some ideas. It feels like I have someone on my team to help me, and she is very kind and friendly which works well for me. She uses a lot of evidence based methods (DBT, ACT etc) and integrates them for the individual which I also like.
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I feel conflicted about it(though I feel that way about most things in life)

I have seen 3, and all 3 times it was forced on me. Once when I was a child and my life was very chaotic. Once as a teen after an attempt and now as an adult with my first episode having SI/HI two years ago. Every time, except the most recent, I have quit as soon as I was allowed.

I have never found it helpful, I enjoyed it at first as an adult because I have no friends to talk to but it slowly became tedious and I feel it is futile now. At this point I have stopped responding to my T and have not booked another appt. She wants to refer me to a more intensive program and I wish I could believe it would help but I mostly believe I am beyond help and am tired of wasting time on it.
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Don't talk about your problems, or your perception thereof. Focus on functional recovery stuff. And get feedback as to what they are seeing, will help gain insight. A good T meets you where you are at, and helps you see where you are at. I don't think you can move forward without that.

I re-started about 5 months ago and has been very good for me. A couple sessions I was not stable and was essentially out of it, not really able to participate, but the more you go, the more they get to see where you are at. This is invaluable feedback.

I don't know anything about her other than she mentioned kids and spring break. I don't even know what she looks like to be honest, when she comes to get me out of waiting room I still am like 'oh, that's her'. This is ideal.

My previous T moved into admin position, and I was uncomfortable with starting with someone new. Big mistake and to my detriment. I went almost 2 years without one. Again, not good.

With that T, I was not ever well enough to benefit from it, and my insight was nill. With a capital N. She was good though, but I wasn't there yet. She was more of a support person, very caring and kind, and that was where I was at in that time. That can be OK too if that is where you are at.

Am thankful a friend that works at the office linked me to her, we are a good match and I know I would not be with the others. They are primarily 'family' and 'axis 2' (I use that term broadly) type counselors. That's not what I need.

She is fantastic and have made tremendous functional improvements with her help. Am hopeful will lead to psychosocial improvements, but I don't think those are possible with functional first so that is my focus right now.

It is a partnership. It should be time-limited I think. I did not really know what my goals were initially, it takes some time, but I do now. We do not have a timeline, yet.
I just know my insight and skills have improved significantly and am very thankful and grateful for her help.

The best manifestations I can report at this time are that I shower daily for about 2 months now, and have started cooking again. I have showered more and cooked more this calendar year than all of 2018. Maybe slight exageration but not by much. Those things did not happen immediately. THere are other things, but those have been the big two.

Again, they need to meet you where you are at, and you may not know where you are at. I did not. Once you do, problem solving skills can propel you forward. You likely have those already, but can't adequately access them (unintentionally).

We do not talk about problems, family, social, etc. (or very minimally I should say)

CBT for bipolar is not for that if the therapist is good. (imo). Again. functional recovery is the generalized goal. That will mean different things to different people. As will psychosocial recovery.

I think we often 'think' too much about the condition. It's not going away. Who cares? I think we are much better off finding ways to exist and live our best life in spite of symptoms etc. I'm crazy. My brain doesn't work like most people's. I don't care anymore about that. I do not feel 'less' than anymore.
I feel empowered, and embrace who I am, how my brain works. I can't have a different one, so why try to be 'normal'. It's not going to happen. I'm actually increasing fond of my brain, and to have a 'normal' one sounds pretty F'in boring.

I want as good of quality life as possible. A good T will help you guide your own way to that,


This is only my blunt non-filtered take on things, and I'm in a blunt, un-filtered type mood

I hope it might help along with other input from others.

Hang in there.

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Therapists isnt my thing. It's me against the world.
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I have found individual therapy more hurtful than helpful. My doctor accepts this and doesn't pressure me to see a therapist.
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