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Old 03-20-2019, 10:17 AM #11
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Philosophy makes my brain hurt. So I've never considered myself philosophical really, at least not in a whole enchilada sense. The "big questions" don't really grab me. What's the point of exhausting my brain with unanswerables?? I do what's right because it's what's right, I need no further motivation or reason.

As far as knowing who I am, yes, I do. And I really don't have an interest in blending in. Don't misunderstand -- I don't go out of my way to, for instance, "shock" (after all, ultimately that is choosing based on what other people think, though that irony is lost on many). I just am who I am. I often don't "follow the herd", but it's not out of any plan, it's just that I don't get why people want to.

Some episodes have taken me out the the "real me zone". But of course that really didn't work out.
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I know what I'm not.

I'm not a gold coin.
I'm not Miss Sympathy.
I'm not sacrificing my wishes to please anyone.

Either you take me at face value, or don't take me at all.
Most important, I don't care what or who thinks about me.
I have absolutely no shame or fear.
If I said it, it is said. Your turn.

That's my relationship with the world.
Now, internally is not that simple.

I'm my worst enemy. Never my best critic.
I've taken self destruction to a sport.
A torrent of talent. Wasted.
No regrets. It was pre destined to be this way.

Besides, my life is almost ending, to worry about
what could have been.
This dude is too complicated for a simple man.
No effort will be wasted trying to figure myself out.

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Every time I think I have a handle on who I am and what I want something major comes along to show me I have no clue. The only thing about myself I really know is that I'm evolving constantly. I try to find comfort in that because it is reliable. I have a few core truths, but everything else is fair game for change.
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The way I look at it:

All the experiences, interests, values, etc. are like facets of a cut gem. All those facets are not the gem, but a part of the gem. The gem is who I am, all those many facets that shine.
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read the power of NOW.

Lots of free thinkers, searching for the truth.
hubby has been reading about non dualism...way over my head.
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Forgot to mention.
According to Sociology, you are not who you think you are.
But what others perceive you are.
Big deal. And who cares.

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Forgot to mention.

According to Sociology, you are not who you think you are.

But what others perceive you are.

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I lose my sense of self on a regular basis. I'm 53 and I'm at a point in my life where I'm asking the standard questions. What next? Where am I going? Is this all there is? I try very hard to gain a sense of direction but the day overwhelms me. I am a teacher and when I walk into school, I get bundled by the kids. Questions. Requests. I offer everything and get nothing in return, nothing I can use to define my day. In truth, I have a significant benefit in what I do - my day FLIES by. The days never drag. But in the end, I'm just an empty shell.
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I lose my sense of self on a regular basis. I'm 53 and I'm at a point in my life where I'm asking the standard questions. What next? Where am I going? Is this all there is? I try very hard to gain a sense of direction but the day overwhelms me. I am a teacher and when I walk into school, I get bundled by the kids. Questions. Requests. I offer everything and get nothing in return, nothing I can use to define my day. In truth, I have a significant benefit in what I do - my day FLIES by. The days never drag. But in the end, I'm just an empty shell.


Iím 53 as well and feel a lot like that as well. I want to make a difference and make my mark but I am a stay at home dad caught in a circle of cleaning , cooking, transporting etc . I donít get out much and feel alone a lot but Iíve been focused on my mental health a lot lately and next will add my physical health. It has been improving greatly and now I see myself as a successful parent who has accomplished a lot. My self image and eastern seem to be greatly impacted by my health. So I say all this because I came to realize our ability to see ourselves clearly depends on good health at least for me it does.
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Iím 53 as well and feel a lot like that as well. I want to make a difference and make my mark but I am a stay at home dad caught in a circle of cleaning , cooking, transporting etc . I donít get out much and feel alone a lot but Iíve been focused on my mental health a lot lately and next will add my physical health. It has been improving greatly and now I see myself as a successful parent who has accomplished a lot. My self image and eastern seem to be greatly impacted by my health. So I say all this because I came to realize our ability to see ourselves clearly depends on good health at least for me it does.
I find that a predictable schedule helps - come up with a plan each day and accomplish a few things. The gym also helps me......you make a great point. Our health is important to self image. I know I'm not 18 anymore, but at the same time, why not? Right? Start small and walk the road methodically. And you mention cooking - I love to cook and take it as a challenge (no BP surprise there)! I try all sorts of new fun things and just try to wing it as best as I can.
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