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Default May 08, 2019 at 01:10 PM
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Mirror or photo. Which is the real you?

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Definitely mirror. That is precisely how I see myself.

They say photos show more how others see you. I hate what I look like in photos, with only the occasional exception. And yet a photo I see as an ugly one of me my husband often says is lovely. Ones I like of myself my husband doesn't like as much. It's a common occurrence. You can find several articles discussing this topic. It becomes a matter of perception.

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Default May 08, 2019 at 01:40 PM
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Mirror or photo. Which is the real you?
neither is the real me. I usually don't recognize myself in either. my flesh and blood self is my real self, but if I had to choose...mirror.

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Default May 08, 2019 at 01:55 PM
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Other. I suck at questions like this though.
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Mirror for me. Photos are just that snapshot in time. No motion, no life.

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I can't teally say- I look horrendous in both.

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Default May 08, 2019 at 04:47 PM
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Mirror for sure. I feel amazing looking in the mirror but in photos I feel like I look empty, unhappy and ugly. Im not sure why I see so many good things in the mirror and none of that in a picture.

The comment about photos being how other people see you is what I am always afraid of. Thats not how I want to look.

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Mirror for sure. I feel amazing looking in the mirror but in photos I feel like I look empty, unhappy and ugly. Im not sure why I see so many good things in the mirror and none of that in a picture.

The comment about photos being how other people see you is what I am always afraid of. Thats not how I want to look.
I think what Jester's Rags wrote about a photo being just a snapshot in time, is significant. We're not one dimensional. There are many things that go into how we're perceived. Many emotions and senses and other things.

Do other people dislike how they sound in recordings? Again, we hear ourselves a bit differently than others do.
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Default May 08, 2019 at 06:00 PM
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Photo for me definitely

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I'm not that photogenic, so I usually prefer the mirror.
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Default May 08, 2019 at 06:13 PM
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Mirror for me. Photos don’t do me justice.

And I don’t like my voice recorded either. I actually find it weird when I hear it recorded.
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Default May 08, 2019 at 07:16 PM
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photo because it can be touched up ... the mirror is just too real ...

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Default May 08, 2019 at 07:46 PM
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Re: hearing your own voice. I used to have a band and when I listen to anything we recorded, I can tell it’s me. But most of my friends/family didn’t recognize my voice. I always got “who’s singing”. Now wether that’s a good or bad thing is a different story. Mirror or photo

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Default May 09, 2019 at 04:47 AM
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Mirror.

The mirror lives. It talks body language, it hides nothing, it is reality, not posed. I don't look good in either, but in a world where I am constantly forced to 'fake it' with a mask, the mirror reflects what it sees, and that, as ugly as it might me, is refreshing.
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I don't know.

I flatly refuse to have photos of me in the house, and mirrors just make me anxious
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Default May 09, 2019 at 02:52 PM
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A photo taken by someone who loves me. I've seen candid photos of myself, laughing, listening intently to someone speak, looking a bit sad, looking fully at the picture taker with all the love in my heart. These are the real me.

I put on the mask, the one I wear in public, I put it on even for myself while looking in the mirror, and I wear the mask when I take a photo of myself.
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I think what Jester's Rags wrote about a photo being just a snapshot in time, is significant. We're not one dimensional. There are many things that go into how we're perceived. Many emotions and senses and other things.

Do other people dislike how they sound in recordings? Again, we hear ourselves a bit differently than others do.
I think I sound so weird in recordings. I dread this because everyone is urging me to do a Bipolar / MH podcast, but I'm afraid of my own voice lol.

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Default May 09, 2019 at 03:26 PM
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It's interesting how so many of us don't like the sound of our own voices when we hear a recording...I guess that's really common.

I think answering machines, the old style with tapes, helped a lot of people over 45 get past that initial "Oh my God! Is that how I sound?!". I can only speak for myself, but, it was because each time someone rang me, and before the internet cell phones, the landline rang a lot, you heard your own voice in the outgoing message. So after a year or two of cringing, it just became, "yeah, that's my voice...whatever"
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