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Legendary Wise Elder
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#21
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Oh goodness :0 That would be creepy to me. Does he normally talk about her? __________________ Helping others gets me out of my own head ~ |
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#22
I feel absolutely sick and disgusted with myself and those I choose to let into my life
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#23
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#24
Thanks, Christina. I will be sure to call my dad every day during my vacation to check on him. Luckily my brother lives with him and is a support. As for my vacation, it's actually been quite nice, considering. I just hope there are no more tragedies for a while...at least.
I understand the pain and grief of losing a parent. My family lost my mother about 15 years ago, when I was 33 years old. It was horribly sudden and unexpected despite her dying of bile duct cancer. Honestly, we didn't even really know exactly what took her until after she passed away. I had been very ill with bipolar disorder when she was unwell. So much that I was absent from her, in a sense, during that time. Her sudden death pushed me over the edge. I had 10 psych hospitalizations in three and a half years, soon after, plus at least a combined total of a year in psychiatric IOPs/PHPs. It definitely took time to start healing a bit. I know that the wound is never fully healed, but we must go on. I must emphasize that I was definitely not the only one in my family injured by the loss. Their stories of grief and injury are long and rough, too. My youngest nephew was also particularly affected. He never really recovered, despite his youth. As hard as it all is, time helps, particularly with continuing support. It must be processed. Tecomsin, if you like this friend, perhaps you need only tell him that his invitation makes you uncomfortable. Perhaps he'll take that to heart and never mention such things to you again. Last edited by Anonymous46341; Jul 06, 2019 at 12:00 AM.. |
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#25
Oh Geez! So, my H did a lot of very despicable things. His behaviors and attitudes are causing this divorce. I did not do anything against our marriage, etc. However, I am being treated like I am to blame!!! Why would i choose this if I had a choice? So... he blocked all accounts, banking and otherwise. He is willing to leave me twisting in the wind.What did i do?
So we often hear about this, where the man has more economic power... and he tries to get control of all of the money. So, it is another sad day. OMG! How archaic !!! just totally ridiculous! He admits doing all of this, behind my back, yet again, and then he asks if i will help him with most anything. NO!!! uggh! So very tired! Hugs and love! __________________ May we each fully claim the courage to live from our hearts, to allow Love, Faith and Hope to enLighten our paths. |
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So glad you've had a fun vacation! I hope you feel completely better soon. __________________ May we each fully claim the courage to live from our hearts, to allow Love, Faith and Hope to enLighten our paths. |
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I am very sorry you've been disappointed by friends lately. It hurts. It seems as though your male friend is infringing upon boundaries? I'd think so. It's odd he'd ask you to go to a nudist event. It's also strange that he is talking about his wife, (behind her back?). He is putting you in a very tough position I hope you can sort things out with him? Much Love ~ . __________________ May we each fully claim the courage to live from our hearts, to allow Love, Faith and Hope to enLighten our paths. |
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#28
Thanks BirdDancer, Christina and WC for giving me some tips on my difficulties with my friend. It is about boundary crossing.
What made me the most uncomfortable was his talking about his wife's small breasts and how she had a body image problem and would benefit by going to the nudist event with him. He went on and on about her breasts. This is what creeped me out the most. I felt it was also an invasion of her privacy. He also complained about her giving him the silent treatment for days on end and dropping out of the relationship. They have been married for close to 50 years. I know I need to say something to him next time i see him if I want to maintain the friendship. I don't think I will text him anything, it is better to say it in person but I am not sure what to say. __________________ BP 1 with psychotic features 50 mg Lyrica 50 mcg Synthroid 2.5 mg olanzapine |
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#29
Hey tecomsin,
Well, it's like walking a tightrope, sometimes, when we need to reinforce boundaries with friends... or so that has often been my experience. I think I'd ponder the situation a bit...while identifying exactly what I had found bothersome. I might write those points down for future reference, just until I was able to converse with him in person. When I'd meet with him, I'd remain open-hearted, speaking from the heart, would try to remain cool, collected, focused. If he gets defensive, just politely call him on that, assuring him he does not have to become defensive, as you are speaking to him as a friend. Just a couple of thoughts which might prove helpful, or not. I am "toast" today, so please forgive me if my post to you is not helpful. I do care about you and about how your life is going, thus I'd wanted to respond to you. Much Love~ __________________ May we each fully claim the courage to live from our hearts, to allow Love, Faith and Hope to enLighten our paths. |
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I'd stumbled upon yet another nasty surprise from H later in the day yesterday. Contacted him to verify what I had discovered. Yes, it's all true. He'd tried many approaches for not admitting to what he had done, yet I'd kept calling him out. He gave in and confessed to this discovery.
It's one punch after another in an ongoing way. I was punch-drunk long ago. it's just unbelievable! He continues to do things like this behind my back while putting on a very different front to me. It is all hostile. I had stumbled upon some info which told me i'd needed to look at accounts. I'd then called him because I could not get into any account (online).Last night, he'd told me he locked me out of all accounts because they were no longer any of my concern and/or pertinent to me. Huh? We are still married. We have not even started a legal separation.... which comes before any divorce. I have no income right now, so he's leaving me "twisting in the wind," which is a very hostile move on his part. All the while, he is constantly assuring me that he wants an amicable divorce. I do not cost him much, never have! Right now, I even do expense reports to the penny! So I was not locked out for being financially irresponsible. OMG! It never ends! So much lying, so much ongoing deceit! He does not learn from the outcome of prior lying and does not care about just how much damage he does. It's all making me very ill. There is no break! Well, he had agreed to a short break last week, but kept on manipulating and doing even more behind my back. I am exhausted. Love to All~ __________________ May we each fully claim the courage to live from our hearts, to allow Love, Faith and Hope to enLighten our paths. |
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#31
I'm quiet, having trouble reading. My husband can't seem to make time to play games with me. Miguel leaves for camp tomorrow. He doesn't want to go but must. 3.5 weeks before he's home. yay.
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#32
Migraine still here. Head throbbing off and on. At drs waiting for the dr to come in. Got the family picnic/party later today. I thought it was Friday. I pulled in to park here and couldnt figure out why there were only a few cars in the lots. Didn't get it until I walked inside and saw a big arrow that said "Saturday Clinic".
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__________________ May we each fully claim the courage to live from our hearts, to allow Love, Faith and Hope to enLighten our paths. |
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#34
Mowing the yard. Taking time outs as it is over 90F outside. Still depressed
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#35
I just started catching up on PC and after just reading this page, oh my gosh I am so sorry of this horror you are living through WC! I’m not caught up on everything but can I ask if you have a lawyer to stop him from cutting you off from your accounts? You show nothing but kindness and compassion on PC, sending you hugs!
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I've been wondering how life has been treating you!?? Yes, I am going through ALOT! Just unbelievable stuff from a man I had thought was my best friend for 27years. I am still so Shicked by his behaviors (lying constantly, living a double life, and much, much more). The more I learn, the more repulsed I become. He has been misleading me, adamantly telling me that HE wants cooperative mediation. In the meantime, he pulls stunts like this. VERY DECEITFUl, which has been his M.O. Throughoutthis whole mess!!! Time will tell what type of a divorce he truly wants. Here I was, thinking we'd have a cooperative divorce, no matter what he had done. Yet, he keeps doing more and more to me. I amnot sure one can manage to have an amicable divorce when his ongoing actions are so hostile. II has all been "bad enough," without adding more deceit and pain each week. I had envisioned a divorced where we negotiated and got things done for the good ... For each of us. I NEvER imagined he'd be so misleading abs so hostile. He tells me and texts me one thing and does the opposite. Very deceitful. He gives me passwords to our accounts and then changes the passwords. He has taken OUR accounts and made them HIs. He is now... Justnow... Telling me the accounts are no longer applicable to me. Simply not true and not in alignment with the law. I have talked to him and have given him another chance to cooperate with the laws and with one another. I am hoping to hear he'd rather start down an amicable road. Time will tell. It's just ridiculous! I am not the offender! I have been faithful and... True in every way. This all gets very old. It'smaking people sick! It makes me very unwell. All medical conditions flaring all at once, etc. It makes my mother very I'll (who has only tried to help him fir many years).. People give him opportunities to just stop and to start on a better path; yet he continues to try to dupe people and shows no remorse at all. I honestly do not know thus guy. Very scary stuff. Anyway... How are YOU doing? I hope you are well? Hugs! __________________ May we each fully claim the courage to live from our hearts, to allow Love, Faith and Hope to enLighten our paths. |
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#37
I got a shot of Toredol at the dr. Migraine gone!
Off to the big family 4th of july picnic! __________________ Wellbutrin XL 300 mg Caplyta 42 mg Ingrezza 80 mg Ativan .5 mg 2x/day Propranolol 20 mg 2x/day Mania (December 2023) Mixed episode/Hypomania (September 2023) Depression, Anxiety and Intrusive thoughts (September 2021) Depression & Psychosis (July/August 2021) Mania (April/May 2019) |
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#38
I feel okay today. Sort of odd. Which I'm not sure what to make of.
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#39
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I hope you are having a good day, in every respect! __________________ May we each fully claim the courage to live from our hearts, to allow Love, Faith and Hope to enLighten our paths. |
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