Bipolar & Alcohol

Ezrigirl · Jul 09, 2019 at 06:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Misery Business

The thing is you have many members here that are pushing for you and caring for you.

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This is the last I am going to talk about this.

Confused!

Oh one hand you say members are caring about me, and then you say your done talking to me. How can someone say they are caring about my welfare, and say they are done talking about my welfare?

I understand your viewpoint, and it is so noted.

downandlonely · Jul 09, 2019 at 06:42 PM

I think you know that self-medicating with a bottle of vodka every night is not good for your mental or physical health. And you have to know that most of us know that too. So I'm confused about why you are announcing it on here. Do you just want to argue with people?

Alcohol is a depressant, and since I already suffer from depression I limit my intake to one drink at a time (usually only once a month or so).

Misery Business · Jul 09, 2019 at 06:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Ezrigirl

Confused!

Oh one hand you say members are caring about me, and then you say your done talking to me. How can someone say they are caring about my welfare, and say they are done talking about my welfare?

I understand your viewpoint, and it is so noted.

I am done talking about this situation because it has become unhealthy for me. I have told you this. I have also told you I am still willing to be your friend, but I have to look out for myself as well. I have given you my advice on this and so has many other members and I continue to see posts on here saying that you are spending the evening with a bottle of vodka. It looks as if all of this is falling on deaf ears my friend. I have also told you I tell it from the heart. I will always do that and I will not stop doing that. So if I keep seeing those posts why should I keep using my energy especially when it is unhealthy for me and keep on talking about it. I do care about you and I want you to get healthy. I don't think having a bottle of vodka is healthy and I have told you what I think is the healthy alternative. The ball is in your court to take and run with that healthy alternative.

yellow_fleurs · Jul 09, 2019 at 07:13 PM

Ezrigirl is there anything we can do to support you? Is there anything that has helped you in the past when you have been in a rough place? I think you know we are not going to suggest you drink alcohol. I am not here to judge either, but the only options I see are to offer you emotional support, or offer up some alternative, healthier suggestions. I have found this to be a very supportive community here and hope you find it to be the same. I have seen a lot of great people working to do their best given the difficult mental health situations they have been dealt and to empower others to do the same. As we are all struggling with mental illness it's important for us all to feel this is a healthy environment, so please don't encourage others to engage in unhealthy behaviors like drinking. Please let us know if there is anything we can do to help you. I am really sorry you are feeling like this and hope you find a healthier way to cope.

Ezrigirl · Jul 09, 2019 at 07:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Misery Business

I am done talking about this situation because it has become unhealthy for me. I have told you this. I have also told you I am still willing to be your friend, but I have to look out for myself as well. I have given you my advice on this and so has many other members and I continue to see posts on here saying that you are spending the evening with a bottle of vodka

In all fairness, I will be drinking every night for a few months and maybe a year or more until I settle into being alone for the rest of my natural life. Have been debating with myself will I be with someone or not for a long time. Then it dawned on me, I will never have a long term relationship. Drinking, is a coping skill. Now, even if I decided to drink every single day until I die. Well, dying as a drunk is a dime a dozen. It is so common it is not even a news story.

If dealing with a drunk who is a dime a dozen is unhealthy for you. Your going to find watching the news, or reading the news online, very unhealthy for you my friend. Take for example school shootings when it becomes breaking news. Yes, for you it would be unhealthy for you. For the American public, seeing school shootings on TV has turned into entertainment. Your going to have to accept, what is unhealthy for you to see or read, in America, it has turned into entertainment.

Ezrigirl · Jul 09, 2019 at 07:31 PM

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Originally Posted by yellow_fleurs

Ezrigirl is there anything we can do to support you?

Just your posting is the support I need. It is a given I will not change anyone's mind. Still, your comments are accepted.

Victoria'smom · Jul 09, 2019 at 07:40 PM

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I will never have a long term relationship.

Why's that? Many people have long term relationships.

Misery Business · Jul 09, 2019 at 07:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Ezrigirl

In all fairness, I will be drinking every night for a few months and maybe a year or more until I settle into being alone for the rest of my natural life. Have been debating with myself will I be with someone or not for a long time. Then it dawned on me, I will never have a long term relationship. Drinking, is a coping skill. Now, even if I decided to drink every single day until I die. Well, dying as a drunk is a dime a dozen. It is so common it is not even a news story.

If dealing with a drunk who is a dime a dozen is unhealthy for you. Your going to find watching the news, or reading the news online, very unhealthy for you my friend. Take for example school shootings when it becomes breaking news. Yes, for you it would be unhealthy for you. For the American public, seeing school shootings on TV has turned into entertainment. Your going to have to accept, what is unhealthy for you to see or read, in America, it has turned into entertainment.

Well, I think you may need to go and read the rules of this forum because some of your comments about drinking just may be a trigger for those struggling with those issue. This also goes with the issue of abuse. You have to realize what sort of population you are dealing with here. I suggest you review the rules on the board before you go overboard. I do not want to be a moderator, but I do know some of the comments have about abuse have been an issue for me. The drinking is not an issue for me so that other than knowing it is not healthy has not been a problem. If pointing this out and referring her to review the rules is also against the rules than I guess I am in violation myself and I shall leave the forum as well. All I know is I signed up for this forum to be a safe place to come to and to feel support from the other members.

Ezrigirl · Jul 09, 2019 at 08:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Miguel'smom

Why's that? Many people have long term relationships.

By nature, what does a bipolar person does different, than a person without a mental illness. They pick up a firearm, place it to their head, and blow their brains out.

I am bipolar, and if I am going to have a long term relationship with another person. They have to accept to the fact, they could be the first person to discover my body after a suicide. Say I was married years from now, and then take my life for some reason. How would my spouse move on? Since it was a same sex marriage, my wife can move on and start dating again. What is she going to say? Well, my wife took her own life, and you said your divorced. Is it fair to my spouse, to spend time thinking about what to do after a suicide: for the whole of our marriage?

Wild Coyote · Jul 09, 2019 at 08:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Misery Business

Well, I think you may need to go and read the rules of this forum because some of your comments about drinking just may be a trigger for those struggling with those issue. This also goes with the issue of abuse. You have to realize what sort of population you are dealing with here. I suggest you review the rules on the board before you go overboard. I do not want to be a moderator, but I do know some of the comments have about abuse have been an issue for me. The drinking is not an issue for me so that other than knowing it is not healthy has not been a problem. If pointing this out and referring her to review the rules is also against the rules than I guess I am in violation myself and I shall leave the forum as well. All I know is I signed up for this forum to be a safe place to come to and to feel support from the other members.

Hi Misery Business, I just want to let you know that I agree with you, very much so.

I also appreciate your stance. I hope you will stay with us here at PC!

yellow_fleurs · Jul 09, 2019 at 08:55 PM

Ezrigirl I am glad that just my posting offers you support. I am sorry you are feeling this way and that you feel you cannot have a relationship or a full life. I do know some people are successful in having relationships with bipolar disorder, some I know in real life. It might require medication and therapy to be stable enough to maintain a relationship and it is definitely not easy. Your last post is talking about some triggering topics. Do you know how to add trigger warnings? I think that might be helpful for some people here. Generally anything related to harming oneself should have a trigger warning.

bluekoi · Jul 09, 2019 at 08:58 PM

Thread closed for Administrative discussion, re: potential method of suicide.

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bluekoi Administrator Community Support Team Member Since Feb 2014 Location: Vancouver, BC Canada Posts: 13,602 (SuperPoster!) 10 11.4k hugs given	Jul 09, 2019 at 08:58 PM #32 Thread closed for Administrative discussion, re: potential method of suicide.