Do you isolate yourself?

Hi There is a Celebrate Recovery group in my neighborhood at the local church. Lots of attendees. They combine their activities with the local singles' group, often.

People often tell me i am a people's person. Hmmm. I don't necessarily agree. I do enjoy people. Yet, I also need my alone time.

I agree with Innerzone in that we all have different needs and we should find what is the best fit for each of us as individuals.

I am sorry you feel like women are all about the money. I disagree with you. Many are not all about the money. That is a large blanket statement. Some may be; others are not. I hope you see/learn otherwise.

Studies do suggest we are all better off having some contact with others in real life. Just how much is likely a very individualized matter.
I hope you find a balance which best serves you!

As I have gotten older, I tend to stay on the depressed side more and am a little less manic. The deeper the depression, the deeper that I tend to retreat into solitude.


When I am deep in it, I cannot process people. I am overwhelmed by too many stimuli and simply do not put myself out there. Granted, I know it is not the best way to deal with things. However, it is the structure of my coping mechanisms and probably actually saves me from a lot of undue stress. I just cannot handle any sort of pressure when I am in despair. I will not even sign into the forum.


I find great comfort in accompanying my husband on errands and such when I am not so depressed. However, the anxiety and panic attacks keep me from doing much by myself even when I consider myself in a sort of recovery period.


I think the key is to find a way to love yourself when your mind allows you to and roll with the punches when it doesn't. You can love yourself by taking on a new hobby, taking an online class, reading a good book or even cooking yourself a great meal. There are lots of ways to turn isolation into solitude if you feel the need to be alone for a while.


There are always two sides to a coin. I wish you the best.

I've been isolating myself off and on for the last 4 years usually once a year. These isolation periods gradually start after periods of me being pretty/average levels of social. I'll be productive and normal for a couple months, but then i start to 'fade', I'll start having less to say to people and feel awkward after a lot of social interactions. i try to fight these at first and continue hanging out with people even if i feel i have nothing to contribute Conversationally. Eventually i feel so boring and awkward however that i start avoiding people for a while, until i feel recharged again.
Antidepressants and anti psychotics have not helped with these phases unfortunately.