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View Poll Results: how are you doing with friends?
I don't have any, and i'm okay with that 2 11.11%
I don't have any, and i'm okay with that
2 11.11%
I don't have any, but really want to make 1 true friend 4 22.22%
I don't have any, but really want to make 1 true friend
4 22.22%
I have a few friends, and want more 3 16.67%
I have a few friends, and want more
3 16.67%
I wish people would back off a little 0 0%
I wish people would back off a little
0 0%
I don't like friends, but enjoy talking pubblicly (such as in these forums) 0 0%
I don't like friends, but enjoy talking pubblicly (such as in these forums)
0 0%
I'm shy, so find it difficult to make friends 4 22.22%
I'm shy, so find it difficult to make friends
4 22.22%
I don't know 1 5.56%
I don't know
1 5.56%
other 4 22.22%
other
4 22.22%
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Default Nov 16, 2019 at 08:26 AM
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just pick one of these poll options to best describe which one applies to you

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Default Nov 16, 2019 at 08:31 AM
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guess I'm in the middle of 5 and 6

I'm shy, and will never make the first move to talk to someone, but also friends can be annoying- especially if they are over protective and constantly check in with you like every half second (so I suppose a bit of option 4 as well)
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Default Nov 16, 2019 at 08:50 AM
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I'm definitely not shy, but I only have a couple of true friends. My husband is my best friend. We started out as good friends.

I'm always up for making new friends, but I'm not actively looking. I essentially let life decide as I cross paths with people I resonate with. I've made a good friend here that way.
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Default Nov 16, 2019 at 09:30 AM
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I checked I don’t know. I fluctuate between the fact I have no friends and I am content with that, and wishing I could connect with others more. I like aspects of all of the answers on the poll, to be honest.

Between 1-3, I am usually like number one, but I think I would be fine with number two, and number 3 would be ideal if it came down to it. I don’t see that change happening though (hence my rant below about people backing off).

4) Sometimes I wish people would just back off, like you said. My mom is the absolute WORST when it comes to being overprotective. I sneeze and she’s trying to rush me into an emergency room and insists all day long. I get frustrated with her when I was growing up. I would have a fever and tonsillitis/strep, and she’d constantly wake me up and ask if I am ok ever 5 minutes. Lack of sleep and having to talk with a sore throat are my two favorite things, mom! Haaha.. sorry , I do get a bit upset with that. But it is a reason why I don’t deal with “drama” well. I am impatient with that kind of thing. I can’t stand someone who will badger you when you’re upset either.

5 – I feel connected when I am on a forum, despite the anonymity and distance and lack of real-time conversation. It makes it easier to talk about things, I think.

6 – I am shy, and I won’t initiate a conversation. So, if you’re waiting around for me to make your acquaintance, you’re gonna be waiting for a while. Haha

I guess I should have ticked, “other” … well, crap. Haha

That’s my answer in a nutshell. I’m sorry for making it more complicated than it had to be.
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Default Nov 16, 2019 at 10:44 AM
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I have a good amount of friends, but I can only handle so much interaction. We will chat a lot via text or messanger, but for physical get togethers I am good with seeing anyone every 6-12 months. People I am friends with understand this is my nature, otherwise I feel suffocated.
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Default Nov 16, 2019 at 01:58 PM
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I have a few close friends. Unfortunately, one of my close friends moved far away. Sometimes I think it would be nice to have a couple of more close friends, but other times I need space. It really depends on my mood. But I am most definitely an introvert and fine with only meeting up every now and then. I'm not even dating right now, because it feels too smothering. Eventually, I will come out of my shell a little bit, but then I tend to shut down all over again. I often feel I do not fit in and do not like group interactions that much. When I meet someone who I really connect with, I value it a ton though, because I feel misunderstood a lot.

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Default Nov 16, 2019 at 02:24 PM
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I have online friends. I don't trust people in real life anymore after being bullied, stabbed in the back, etc..

I've always been nice to people, but apparently the people who I once called "friends" would take advantage of that. They'd ask me to do favors for them without returning any favors for me when I desperately needed their help. Then they'd make fun of me for being "weird," "ugly," or "stupid" behind my back. They wouldn't invite me to things, either. I was basically their b**** that they could kick around. Heck, they knew when my birthday was, but they wouldn't even bother to say "happy birthday." (Not that I care much about birthdays, but the school would announce people's birthdays over the intercom, so it's not like they didn't know. Plus, I'd ask them to go somewhere for my birthday and they'd come up with an excuse not to go.)

It's happened twice now, with two different sets of friends. That's why I'm done with it. I don't want any real life friends. Sorry if that sounds antisocial, but I'm going through a stressful time in my life, and while I in theory would want a friend in real life to talk to about my stress, I just don't want to risk getting f***ed over again with "friends" and then spend every night feeling like a total idiot for letting someone into my life who never wanted to be a part of it.
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Default Nov 16, 2019 at 02:56 PM
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Hi, everyone. I'm Anna.

If you are pretty calm, not conceited, and have been known to be funny, please respond. Looking for a girl to get coffee with.

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Default Nov 16, 2019 at 03:00 PM
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I am not a big talker; I like to read.

And learn.

I am assertive, if I feel the person can handle it.
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Default Nov 16, 2019 at 03:24 PM
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I don't have any, and i'm okay with that

Aside from my wife + kids I'm a diehard loner. I don't really get anything out of IRL friendships. Honestly, it just feels like a lot of work to me having to keep up social relationships and having the burden of keeping friends happy. I don't hate people or anything, it's just that social interaction is really exhausting to me.
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Default Nov 16, 2019 at 03:42 PM
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I checked I don’t know. I fluctuate between the fact I have no friends and I am content with that, and wishing I could connect with others more. I like aspects of all of the answers on the poll, to be honest.

Between 1-3, I am usually like number one, but I think I would be fine with number two, and number 3 would be ideal if it came down to it. I don’t see that change happening though (hence my rant below about people backing off).

4) Sometimes I wish people would just back off, like you said. My mom is the absolute WORST when it comes to being overprotective. I sneeze and she’s trying to rush me into an emergency room and insists all day long. I get frustrated with her when I was growing up. I would have a fever and tonsillitis/strep, and she’d constantly wake me up and ask if I am ok ever 5 minutes. Lack of sleep and having to talk with a sore throat are my two favorite things, mom! Haaha.. sorry , I do get a bit upset with that. But it is a reason why I don’t deal with “drama” well. I am impatient with that kind of thing. I can’t stand someone who will badger you when you’re upset either.

5 – I feel connected when I am on a forum, despite the anonymity and distance and lack of real-time conversation. It makes it easier to talk about things, I think.

6 – I am shy, and I won’t initiate a conversation. So, if you’re waiting around for me to make your acquaintance, you’re gonna be waiting for a while. Haha

I guess I should have ticked, “other” … well, crap. Haha

That’s my answer in a nutshell. I’m sorry for making it more complicated than it had to be.


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Default Nov 16, 2019 at 05:06 PM
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I have 4 core friends who I would trust with my life. I however struggle at being a good friend (eg I struggle at staying in touch, replying to texts, meeting up). I am incredibly grateful that these friends still love me and accept me as I am. Most of the time I am too exhausted just making it through day to day life that the mere thought of being social drains/overwhelms me. The majority of my time is spent at work, with my husband, or with my pets.

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Default Nov 16, 2019 at 05:24 PM
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I have a couple friends, that's about it. I wouldn't mind having more but I also don't mind the way things are because I've always been a loner and not the most social person. I do value the friendships I have though and I love spending time with people I care about

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