Friendships

A girl I have known of for roughly 6 years has just ditched me cause in her words "your too ill" WTH!!!

I sent her a message this morning and it took her 2 hours to come up with this answer. She read it straight away. Then took 2 hours. Who does this. This is after may I add she messaged me at 3am cause I didn't give her an answer she was looking for she said I was in a bad mood. It was now 4am I was shattered. My message to her was we need a break.... then she blocks me on fb and fb messenger. Well I'm not being funny but f you. I'm raging as I have done nothing wrong.

My sister is glad as she has always thought the girl in question was a bad influence on me and that she made my paranoia worse

There are two sides to every coin. Some people are just not cut out to be caregivers or part of your support system. They just mentally can't handle it because they may find it draining, anxiety inducing, etc.. So, it is important to remember that her decision reflects herself and her beliefs, not you.

I'm sorry that she blocked you on Facebook and Facebook messenger, though. I think that was a little harsh considering she wanted a "break." However, she might be doing this to protect her own mental health, because she may feel that you are stressful *to her*, and times like these are very stressful on a lot of people. That does NOT mean you are stressful to deal with. That is just HER opinion. Everyone has different levels of stress tolerance, and not everyone is like that, I promise.

I hope you feel better soon. I can only imagine how hurtful this was. But if she is a negative influence on you like your sister says, then maybe we should remember that everything in life happens for a reason, and sometimes as one door closes, another one opens.

10 Years ago my life imploded and I was a mess... I burned out some very good friends. Of course I couldn't see it at the time.. But once I started to find my footing I realized that I expected too much... I had become an emotional vampire, between talking about Fibro chronic pain and then Bipolar ? I was constantly talking about ending things ? I needed to focus on my troubles with my Therapist.... and Friends I have made here.

I seldom talk to my husband about my Bipolar.. If he knew whats goes on in my head daily ?? He'd lose his mind.. If I am doing really bad Ill give him a heads up.. But its up to me to seek out my T /Pdoc/ Close Bipolar friends because they " get it' but there are limits there also.

About a year later I got in touch with the people I had burned out. Wanted to make amends and they appreciated my acknowledging how wrong I was to suck them into my living hell.. We chit chat every blue moon, Like each others stuff on Facebook. But we never that got close again... and that is okay.. I have had to take steps away from people because they were toxic to me..

Stay safe

Is it a coincidence or what the day this girl breaks ties with me us the day a mutual older women who use to be my boss contacts me by phone asking if things are ok. I'm raging. Nice of her to do do but I have a feeling she did it cause the original girl contacted her she does this all the time then hedges me slyly and asked if the said woman has been in touch.

Does this sound crazy? Do I sound crazy? Am i paranoid?

sorry this happened.

sometimes people can really suck

I don't think that sounds like paranoia (imo)

No, that doesn't sound crazy or paranoid.

I think you should try not to put too much thought and energy into this situation because you are getting more and more upset over it and it's making you hurt even more. I know what the girl did was harsh, but right now, I think you need to focus on you and your wellbeing, since you have said before that you're not doing so well. So, I recommend that you forget about the girl for now. Maybe in the future you can reconnect/reconcile, but clearly her actions are not good for your mental wellbeing right now.

I know it's not your fault that the mutual older woman called you. I'm sure that added some pain. However, try to focus your thoughts and energy into getting better. Do something positive for yourself.