Relating to a highly critical mother

Innerzone · Aug 03, 2020 at 09:48 PM

I can't tell you how to handle it without stopping contact, because that is what I had to do. But I wanted to let you know that I hear you, and feel for your situation.

Travelinglady · Aug 03, 2020 at 10:16 PM

If you don't mind my asking, how old are you? Do you live with your mother? If not, then how far away? Are you an only child?

I think answers might be helpful to us.

sarahsweets · Aug 04, 2020 at 02:38 AM

You do not need to deal with this anymore. Tell her what you will and will not tolerate and enforce those boundaries.

*Beth* · Aug 04, 2020 at 06:25 PM

My mother had a severe mental illness. When she was heading into an episode she would become extremely judgmental and cruel. Is it possible that your mom is depressed? I'm asking because her behavior could be symptomatic of depression or another mental illness.

Whatever the case, I agree with TishaBuv. Stick to safe subjects. Practice at not allowing yourself to get hooked in by your mom. The chance of her changing is extremely slim, so it's up to you to set a boundary by not doing the dance.

imaginethat · Aug 04, 2020 at 07:56 PM

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Originally Posted by sarahsweets

You do not need to deal with this anymore. Tell her what you will and will not tolerate and enforce those boundaries.

I like your determination!

imaginethat · Aug 04, 2020 at 07:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Travelinglady

If you don't mind my asking, how old are you? Do you live with your mother? If not, then how far away? Are you an only child?

I think answers might be helpful to us.

I'm almost 48. Live a few miles from my mother. Not any only child, but my brother is more pessimistic than my mom. He takes after her.

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Innerzone Wise Elder Member Since Nov 2009 Location: NW US Posts: 9,383 14 31.3k hugs given	Aug 03, 2020 at 09:48 PM #21 I can't tell you how to handle it without stopping contact, because that is what I had to do. But I wanted to let you know that I hear you, and feel for your situation. __________________ ********* Mr. Robot Makes me sick to the heart, Oh I feel so tired. And the way the rain comes down hard, that's how I feel inside. --The Cure
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Travelinglady Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Sep 2010 Location: North Carolina Posts: 47,943 (SuperPoster!) 13 22.9k hugs given	Aug 03, 2020 at 10:16 PM #22 If you don't mind my asking, how old are you? Do you live with your mother? If not, then how far away? Are you an only child? I think answers might be helpful to us.
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sarahsweets Threadtastic Postaholic Member Since Dec 2018 Location: New Jersey Posts: 6,006 (SuperPoster!) 5 192 hugs given	Aug 04, 2020 at 02:38 AM #23 You do not need to deal with this anymore. Tell her what you will and will not tolerate and enforce those boundaries. __________________ "I carried a watermelon?" President of the no F's given society.
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