what have you learned from being a "PC" member

Oct 17, 2020 at 02:04 PM

either about yourself or about life.

feel free to add stuff when you think of it.

1. don't be embarrassed about an issue you have. their's at least 1 other person out their with that issue too

2. talking on a forum about how you feel is so much easier than talking in face to face. sometimes, I think it's easier to talk to a stranger because they don't know you and they can't ruin things for you

3. some issues are a lot more common than I originally thought.

4. virtual hugs feel so good

Daonnachd · Oct 17, 2020 at 02:14 PM

I have learnt to honour and respect the experiences of others. I used to be more self-centred.

Mopey · Oct 17, 2020 at 02:27 PM

One thing I've been very surprised to learn is how much in thrall many of us are to our therapists, and how much power they seem to hold over our lives.

I thought I was the only one until I started reading other people's experiences on this forum.

Mountaindewed · Oct 17, 2020 at 03:18 PM

I’ve realized that at times I’m not doing quite as good as I think I’m doing. 2 months ago I was looking at my Facebook posts from October 2019- March 2020 and I was thinking “wow I was doing so great back then. I miss those times. Then I went through my PC posts from the same time and I realized that I was deeply struggling at the time I just wasn’t letting anyone on Facebook know. I can at times be 2 completely different people and PC has made me realize that and allowed me to go back to my old posts and see what progress I’ve made.

*Beth* · Oct 17, 2020 at 04:05 PM

What a great question, RV!

On PC...

I've learned that I become strongly attached to many of the people I meet online. People's personalities and what makes us the individuals we are comes across so clearly online.

I've learned that I am moodier than I had realized I was.

I'm learning when to stay and when to walk away.

I've learned that people are truly interesting.

I've learned not to throw a tantrum when I start a thread and no one answers it for 2 days. i.e., not to take every bit of life so personally.

Being supportive/supported has a profound effect upon our lives.

RoxanneToto · Oct 17, 2020 at 04:25 PM

I’m still a bit too negative at times and need to think even more before I post some things.
The path to recovery sometimes involves stepping backwards too.
There is hope for my “condition” to improve if I have therapy. I’m almost ready.
If you’re still bothered by something that happened years ago, it’s probably worth talking about, even if it’s relatively minor.

*Beth* · Oct 17, 2020 at 05:44 PM

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Originally Posted by RoxanneToto

I’m still a bit too negative at times and need to think even more before I post some things.
The path to recovery sometimes involves stepping backwards too.
There is hope for my “condition” to improve if I have therapy. I’m almost ready.
If you’re still bothered by something that happened years ago, it’s probably worth talking about, even if it’s relatively minor.

Good post!

Fuzzybear · Oct 17, 2020 at 10:06 PM

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Originally Posted by BethRags

What a great question, RV!

On PC...

I've learned that I become strongly attached to many of the people I meet online. People's personalities and what makes us the individuals we are comes across so clearly online.

I've learned that I am moodier than I had realized I was.

I'm learning when to stay and when to walk away.

I've learned that people are truly interesting.

I've learned not to throw a tantrum when I start a thread and no one answers it for 2 days. i.e., not to take every bit of life so personally.

Being supportive/supported has a profound effect upon our lives.

Good post

Crazy Hitch · Oct 18, 2020 at 12:15 AM

I am not unique in my experiences. I can identify with so many stories on this forum it’s like I’m reading my life story.

I can open up here about how I truly feel and not feel judged. Mostly.

I can discuss my greatness fears and anxieties that I can’t talk to people about IRL.

Oct 18, 2020 at 07:25 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by RoxanneToto

I’m still a bit too negative at times and need to think even more before I post some things.
The path to recovery sometimes involves stepping backwards too.
There is hope for my “condition” to improve if I have therapy. I’m almost ready.
If you’re still bothered by something that happened years ago, it’s probably worth talking about, even if it’s relatively minor.

I need to do a bit more gratitude and being thankful

forgot to add that

Oct 18, 2020 at 07:27 AM

these are great comments all.

love them

daladico · Oct 18, 2020 at 09:35 AM

I’ve been trying to do it “alone” without people who truly understand for far too long.
I need to put more effort into connecting with my feelings.
I need to get out of the box I’ve put myself in.
I need to reach out to you guys more.
You are incredible people who I respect and admire greatly.

fern46 · Oct 18, 2020 at 12:21 PM

I learned that the most inspiring group of warrior/survivors I would ever have the pleasure of speaking with existed here.

I learned a wide array of tools and the various symptoms they are good for.

I learned how to monitor patterns and assess when they are heading in a bad direction.

I learned strangers can provide more genuine and valuable support than some of my friends.

I learned I wasn't alone.

I learned it is ok to be who and what I am.

I learned that some of what I was told in the hospital was crap and I need to follow my instincts.

I learned that in many cases patients are much more knowledgeable and accurate than providers.

I learned a diagnosis isn't a sentence for a life of suffering.

Nammu · Oct 18, 2020 at 01:03 PM

I learned not to react so fast and fear BP. Because not everything is BP. Sometimes I just got to take a deep breath and relax. Sure enough it’s just a blip.

I learned not to post fast but to sit with a troubling post before I respond. To read though my post before I hit reply.

bpcyclist · Oct 18, 2020 at 01:06 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by daladico

I’ve been trying to do it “alone” without people who truly understand for far too long.
I need to put more effort into connecting with my feelings.
I need to get out of the box I’ve put myself in.
I need to reach out to you guys more.
You are incredible people who I respect and admire greatly.

Yay! Super excited for you.

I must say, after decades of trying not to die from this illness, that it would not be possible for me to still be alive and even kind of thriving now without the never-ceasing love and support from other humans. I am sure there are people who can do this illness alone, but I am not one of the.

Keep doing what you are doing. We are here for you!

Fuzzybear · Oct 18, 2020 at 03:41 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by fern46

I learned that the most inspiring group of warrior/survivors I would ever have the pleasure of speaking with existed here.

I learned a wide array of tools and the various symptoms they are good for.

I learned how to monitor patterns and assess when they are heading in a bad direction.

I learned strangers can provide more genuine and valuable support than some of my friends.

I learned I wasn't alone.

I learned it is ok to be who and what I am.

I learned that some of what I was told in the hospital was crap and I need to follow my instincts.

I learned that in many cases patients are much more knowledgeable and accurate than providers.

I learned a diagnosis isn't a sentence for a life of suffering.

Good post. I particularly like this part

''I learned that in many cases patients are much more knowledgeable and accurate than providers''

and

''I learned that some of what I was told in the hospital was crap and I need to follow my instincts''

I agree with all of this

''I learned that the most inspiring group of warriors/ survivors are right here

its ok to be who and what I am

Fuzzybear · Oct 18, 2020 at 05:56 PM

Also - I'm learning not to immediately judge myself or draw a conclusion if I sense something that confuses me... (interpersonal dynamics, close or closer friends (past or present) etc....) This has happened today so it's on my mind

This probably makes no sense. And maybe it's ok not to always make sense, or to make a mistake.

Fuzzybear · Oct 20, 2020 at 03:34 PM

I prefer replies that say more than...

Thank you.

or

ok

otoh I LOVE hugs

daladico · Oct 21, 2020 at 06:46 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by fern46

I learned that the most inspiring group of warrior/survivors I would ever have the pleasure of speaking with existed here.

I learned a wide array of tools and the various symptoms they are good for.

I learned how to monitor patterns and assess when they are heading in a bad direction.

I learned strangers can provide more genuine and valuable support than some of my friends.

I learned I wasn't alone.

I learned it is ok to be who and what I am.

I learned that some of what I was told in the hospital was crap and I need to follow my instincts.

I learned that in many cases patients are much more knowledgeable and accurate than providers.

I learned a diagnosis isn't a sentence for a life of suffering.

Love these, Fern 💛💛💛
I’m gonna steel one of these as my new mantra if it’s ok with you 😉
“it is ok to be who and what I am.“ 💫

daladico · 07:03 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by bpcyclist

Yay! Super excited for you.

I must say, after decades of trying not to die from this illness, that it would not be possible for me to still be alive and even kind of thriving now without the never-ceasing love and support from other humans. I am sure there are people who can do this illness alone, but I am not one of the.

Keep doing what you are doing. We are here for you!

Thanks so much bpcyclist. Your wisdom and insight and support have helped me so much!
And you were right- allowing myself to connect with others who understand on a deeper level really does make a difference 💛

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Daonnachd Magnate Member Since Feb 2006 Location: Napa Valley Posts: 2,116 18 3,379 hugs given	Oct 17, 2020 at 02:14 PM #2 I have learnt to honour and respect the experiences of others. I used to be more self-centred. __________________ ><
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Mopey Magnate Member Since Oct 2018 Location: California Posts: 2,025 5 1,520 hugs given	Oct 17, 2020 at 02:27 PM #3 One thing I've been very surprised to learn is how much in thrall many of us are to our therapists, and how much power they seem to hold over our lives. I thought I was the only one until I started reading other people's experiences on this forum. __________________
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Crazy Hitch ɘvlovƎ Member Since Nov 2013 Location: Australia Posts: 18,614 (SuperPoster!) 10 12.7k hugs given	Oct 18, 2020 at 12:15 AM #9 I am not unique in my experiences. I can identify with so many stories on this forum it’s like I’m reading my life story. I can open up here about how I truly feel and not feel judged. Mostly. I can discuss my greatness fears and anxieties that I can’t talk to people about IRL.
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Fuzzybear Wisest Elder Ever Member Since Nov 2002 Location: Cave. Posts: 96,360 (SuperPoster!) 21 81.3k hugs given	Oct 18, 2020 at 05:56 PM #17 Also - I'm learning not to immediately judge myself or draw a conclusion if I sense something that confuses me... (interpersonal dynamics, close or closer friends (past or present) etc....) This has happened today so it's on my mind This probably makes no sense. And maybe it's ok not to always make sense, or to make a mistake. __________________
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Fuzzybear Wisest Elder Ever Member Since Nov 2002 Location: Cave. Posts: 96,360 (SuperPoster!) 21 81.3k hugs given	Oct 20, 2020 at 03:34 PM #18 I prefer replies that say more than... Thank you. or ok otoh I LOVE hugs __________________
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