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I've received a couple of grrr emails in the past week. Both from a friend (not very close). I'm tempted to ask for ''clarification'' but am unsure if this is a good idea. It's about something important to me. The second grrr email arrived today (not from the same person who sent the first email).. A month ago I did not reply to a very grrr email (it probably wasn't intentionally grrrrr, this person doesn't know me well).. and the person blocked me. We were not at all close. I was surprised by that reaction though. I hope this isn't too ot. I wonder how people here respond (or don't) to this sort of thing.
(this phenomenom of receiving grrrr emails is not new to me and is not something that began this year but it's something I'm trying to address without making a bigger mess ) __________________ |
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#2
I'm sorry, Fuzzy. Grrr emails are not pleasant, at all. If you want to tell us more about it, you know we are all here for you.
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hi fuzzy,
I am sorry this has happened to you. I rarely give out my email addy to anyone. Perhaps you could see this as a lesson learned. Be more cautious with whom you share your private email with. I mistakenly gave out my phone number to an on line site and now am getting all of these solicitor text messages. other than blocking the numbers I don't know how to make it stop. bizi __________________ 150mg of lamictal 2x a day haldol 5mg 2x a day 1mg of cogentin 2x a day klonipin , 1mg at night, 4-5 peri-colace for chronic constipation multi vit,, vit c, at noon, tumeric, caffeine at noon PRN Remeron 15mg at night, zyprexa10mg under tongue, requip2mg. |
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I wish I had more email friends. I really do.
people just "run away from me", because I'm so ****ed up I don't blame them, not in the slightest, but once in a while some support or a venting space would also be nice |
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#5
Sorry you’ve had to deal with grr emails, Fuzzy, that sucks.
Shamefully I think I’ve been kind of passive aggressive before; it wasn’t emails but I was trying to talk to a “friend” on a messaging app (e.g. she said she was at work one morning so didn’t want to start a conversation, but I asked why she couldn’t just put up an afk type message/temp blocked me when I came on, because I wouldn’t have bothered her if she had, then neither of us would have got annoyed. She was ok talking to her dad/other friend while at work that day, but not me. Not the last time her hypocrisy surprised me, either). To be honest, these days I’d probably just ignore and block them unless it was important and needed to be dealt with. |
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#6
I would just ignore stuff like you've described, Fuzzy. In reality I have no experience with this because nobody cares enough to write me aggressive or frustrating emails.
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If its someone that you are close too and do not want to lose then by all means have a conversation about it.. If its someone that doesnt much matter in my life I would just delete it and not feel bad at all.
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I sent an email to a different friend with quite a lot of content in more than 24 hours ago and they have not replied, but have been on their social media a lot. Now I wonder if they find it a grrrr email what I sent. It wasn't intended to be grrr. It wasn't angry. It was complicated. I am guessing they won't reply (and I can guess why) They are a good friend. I don't usually send them ''complicated'' emails. (or many emails at all)
How do people respond if they get a gut feeling from an email that they can't quite put their finger on. Or a PM even. I guess the healthy thing is to talk it out unless it's someone we don't care about. Or not to assume anything other than it might be that person's ''snake'' (or some other ''part'' we don't usually hear from) or they are just having a grrrr day. Or to wait .... If I never received a frustrating email I wouldn't assume it's because nobody cared about me enough to send a frustrating email. I prefer not to receive them. But I'm grateful for those who communicate with me. (in the family of origin there was very little communication. Very unhealthy, imo) I received an email from someone a bit longer ago who said that I had hurt her feelings before, and this time I had hurt her heart. (not anyone on pc). She was not reluctant to share how she felt. I'm more reluctant to tell someone I don't know very well that they have hurt me. (of course I could ''just be too sensitive'' as some have told me, mostly irl) If it's someone I hardly know who sends me a grrrr email I'm more likely to just delete it. It's their stuff __________________ |
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#9
Still deleting old PMs
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724. I was thinking of ''deleting'' one of them who has deleted me on social media. But really I can't be bothered to. They posted their true dx on the social media. (I have not spoken to this person for a long time)
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I don't want more emails, because I'm overrun with them. I'd just like some real friends. I'd love friends in real life, but even online is welcome. __________________ Maven If I had a dollar for every time I got distracted, I wish I had some ice cream. Equal Rights Are Not Special Rights |
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I have had people in real life doing all the above to me. I have been told by some I am seriously ****ed up. I am not sure what that even means tbh. I wonder if those who told me that are more ****ed up than me? Oh yes, I'm over run with emails too. I would like some more real friends online also. Thank you for contributing to my thread __________________ |
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#13
I mentioned the other day to an online friend that someone had suggested I may be ''paranoid''... this friend (as with most of my friends) disagrees with this, and mentioned they felt quite shocked by that ''suggestion''... I appreciate it when people tell me the truth (rather than suggesting things about me which are not true, a someone irl who ''should'' have known better
I was describing a situation and a feeling I had a few years ago, that same situation that a someone irl used to tell me I was ''paranoid'.... this was not particularly helpful to me, or even true. And it was not said with compassion. Papa bear tells me the truth, with compassion. (unlike anyone in the ''family'' of origin __________________ |
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#14
your husband sounds like a gem.
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I barely respond to emails that are super important to me definitely avoid them as much as possible. So you can just imagine how quickly I respond to people that don’t mean anything to me. Anyway sorry you’re getting emails that are upsetting.
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