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Old 06-28-2018, 11:04 PM #1
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Default Quit the gym because of the mirrors

I was really proud of myself because I was losing weight exercising at home and eating differently but I wanted to step up my exercise so I got a gym membership. I tried really really hard to make it work. I even loved how much stronger I was getting but the mirrors just were devestating. Looking at myself in those floor to ceiling mirrors just ate away and ate away until I had to quit. Now I feel like a failure because I quit and looking at myself to put on face cream or anything it just feels so much worse than before.

Has anyone been through this? I feel so alone in this.
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Kudos to you for being brave enough to step into a gym - it's not something I could do. You gave it a go and you should feel proud of yourself for that. You shouldn't feel defeated just because you weren't comfortable with all the mirrors.

I get my exercise by getting up earlier for work and going for a walk or a jog where I know there will be few people around, due to both the location and time of day. This may be giving into the BDD, but I don't need all the additional emotional anguish and don't see why I should put myself through it when there are alternatives. Just because the gym wasn't for you doesn't mean you have "failed" - you just need to find a way of exercising that better suits you.
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I completely understand. I have a diagnosis of ED & body dysmorphia, and I do yoga off and on, and I canít even consider the idea of doing it in a studio. To me, that is just not even an option. Big mirrors?!? Tight clothing and everyone else wearing tight clothing?!? A teacher possibly touching me to correct my positions?!? Oh my word forget it. So I do it at home with videos. I donít have any advice, just saying that I understand what youíre going through. Same thing with having to go shopping and trying on clothes with that mirrors *cringe*
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I hate those multi-reflecting mirror palaces for self-absorbed muscle maniacs. Some community sports centers have gyms attached with few mirrors, maybe somewhat ill equipped, but usually cheap. Perhaps you could find one in your neighborhood.
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Sorry but gyms are tough places. Theyve got nice equipment to help you lose weight and then make you feel stronger and more confident. But aside from those work-out machines, are the other things I don't like:
Looks from strangers. I was always targetted by men at gyms, obviously they were being nice and sociable but I'm not a sociable person, I keep to myself and dont have any stories to share with people. I always feel exposed in gyms. There are times when someone is staring when I'm in there, and it puts me off.

I lost heart in the gym when I got "told off" by member of the gym staff team for not using the treads properly. I lost my confidence and never returned.

I don't like gyms anymore and don't care about losing weight just to please crowds of men looking for a woman. Im not interested in what people think of me. I don't eat much stuff, I can only live on chocolate and biscuits, nothing else. I haven't gained much eight at all but don't want to go back to the gym ever again. They're worse than nightclubs.
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I absolutely know what you mean, and have also quit or stayed away from gyms because of floor to ceiling mirrors. Same with dance studios. I was a professional dancer and now I can't even take a dance class because the mirrors are so traumatizing.

I am fortunate that the gym in my apartment complex only has two sets of mirrors and they are inconspicuous, so if you want to see your form, you can, but you're not forced to look in a mirror at every angle.
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I can't look at my reflection. I just can't. I think Im losing weight, then I catch a glimps of myself by accident (I certainly wouldn't look on purpose!) And am traumatized and feel huge!
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I was really proud of myself because I was losing weight exercising at home and eating differently but I wanted to step up my exercise so I got a gym membership. I tried really really hard to make it work. I even loved how much stronger I was getting but the mirrors just were devestating. Looking at myself in those floor to ceiling mirrors just ate away and ate away until I had to quit. Now I feel like a failure because I quit and looking at myself to put on face cream or anything it just feels so much worse than before.

Has anyone been through this? I feel so alone in this.
The mirror can be your best friend or your worst enemy.

It sounds like you were making progress and then gave up. Don't let your self-doubt get in the way of you reaching your full potential! Keep working hard until you fall in love the person you see in the mirror.
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I think you deserve kudos for being brave and going to a gym in the first place. Thereís no shame in deciding itís not for you (Iíve never liked those massive mirrors)

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