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Default Mar 03, 2012 at 02:39 AM
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Your last sentence says it all. It's one long tiring battle. But I must fight it
little by little. I can't give up. I'm just one raw nerve. My feelings are going to kill me
because I let too much bother me. I have to learn to let go and stop feeling so
much about everything.
I don't believe its about trying to block out what we feel or over-expose ourselves either. I think if we can learn better strategies to cope with how we feel we would be much more able to embrace whatever emotions we experience.

And i am a severe self harmer. I define severe by the regularity and seriousness of the damage inflicted. So i know that i, of all people, need to learn better coping techniques - my issues with SI was a big contributer in what lead to my diagnosis but this of course varies hugely between people.
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Default Apr 13, 2012 at 11:38 AM
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Been diagnosed already, Bingo that's me to a T.

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Default Apr 26, 2012 at 12:10 AM
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I feel like most people I know fit this description? Doean't everyone feel like their life is chaos at times? Perhaps even often? Every time I read about BPD, all I can think is...What, exactly, is "abnormal" about feeling and acting in such a way? Why does being unhappy and overwhelmed by the hard living most of us have to deal with on a day to day basis, have to necessarily constitute a "disorder"? Perhaps I'm in denial. The description certainly fits me to a T...but it's hard for me to imagine being any other way given the violent instability of the world around me.
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Trig Apr 26, 2012 at 10:03 PM
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I have no formal diagnosis of this, but seriously feel like this is me way more than bipolar II...who knows maybe I am both, can you be both? it really does describe me, i haven't resorted to self injury...maybe I have, hitting myself, punching walls, idk maybe, not burning or cutting though...have been dangerously close to suicide, more in the last few months than ever before in my life, def time to find a new doc I think

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Default May 03, 2012 at 04:45 AM
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I have felt this way for a long time now except lately my emotions are totally disappearing altogether. Is it maybe a coping mechanism for being so emotionally all over the place?
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Default May 14, 2012 at 03:57 AM
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i am not diagnosed with anything. last time i asked for help was a massive let down. people i trusted to be understanding and helpful weren't.
i fit each point to the letter. LITERALLY. (except i don't do drugs, alcohol, or sex).
my emotions are all over the place. i've been cutting more and more. i leap from one idea to another, and one perspective to another. people i love one day, i can't stand the next.
i am a good student at school, with no uniform or academic problems... but suddenly i act up. i talk back to teachers, am rude, do random things... one teacher even got my main teacher to come and speak with me!

but i don't know how to go on anymore. what can i do? who can i speak to without them letting me down? can i trust anyone? i don't know why i'm still here. i don't want to be here anymore.

i'm out of options....
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Default May 26, 2012 at 08:47 PM
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Yep, this sounds like me too! Helps to know I am not alone!
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Default Jun 22, 2012 at 12:12 PM
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just been diagnosed, i fot i was alone before i read others stories, well only feeling alone nw n again!!!
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Default Jul 02, 2012 at 01:05 PM
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Have been DX'd in the past with borderline AND "soft" bipolar. This fits me almost to a T, especially impulsivity and anger. I don't really have identity issues.

I just spoke to a therapist on the phone to whom i descr. my symptoms, and she said she believes there is often overlap.

Mainly, i just can't cope. Especially with anger. In fact, all the shorthand I'm using rite now is because i broke my right hand by smashing it into a door in frustration two wks ago.

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Default Jul 08, 2012 at 09:04 PM
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Yay, it's me!

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Default Jul 20, 2012 at 05:56 PM
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Hi,
Does anyone understand how physical trauma is dealt with in the borderline personality?
I'm to see my T next week....it has been about one month since the incident and hospitalization....everything is different....i can see through people, their kindness or
their greed....I'm planning to move, not to erase the past but to seek a new and hopeful
future. As I see this, if too many bad things happen to one in a certain area, it's a sign
to move....I would app insight if any of you experienced trauma and BPD......

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Default Jul 21, 2012 at 06:51 PM
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Does anyone understand how physical trauma is dealt with in the borderline personality?
I'm to see my T next week....it has been about one month since the incident and hospitalization....everything is different....i can see through people, their kindness or
their greed....I'm planning to move, not to erase the past but to seek a new and hopeful
future. As I see this, if too many bad things happen to one in a certain area, it's a sign
to move....I would app insight if any of you experienced trauma and BPD......
tohelpafriend, I encourage you to post this below as a new thread. I think you will get more feedback that way.

We can't erase the past, we can only change our response to it and our response to the present. After trauma is natural to wonder about other's motives and possible hidden agendas. Keep talking with your therapist
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Default Aug 06, 2012 at 06:42 PM
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Even though it is scarey, it is sort of a relief to have a name for it at last! I've always been one to feel I could cope if I just knew what I was dealing with.
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Default Aug 08, 2012 at 07:32 PM
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This sounds like me except for the self harm (physical). I guess I do harm myself emotionally. Good luck to you!
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Default Aug 13, 2012 at 09:19 PM
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I was told I had this when I was 19, my life has been a living hell. Most of it. Where does this come from. I wouldnt wish it on my worst enemy. Do other people lead normal lives, work and so forth
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I'm relieved to be able to connect with other people like me.
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Even though it is scarey, it is sort of a relief to have a name for it at last! I've always been one to feel I could cope if I just knew what I was dealing with.
It was that way for me.. at least I knew I wasn't alone in feeling what I was feeling..
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Default Aug 25, 2012 at 09:27 AM
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Wow this describes me scarily well...
Especially this part :
"What am I? My life is in chaos; sometimes I feel like I can do anything—other times I want to die because I feel so incompetent, helpless and loathsome. I'm a lot of different people instead of being just one person."
That sums me up perfectly.
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I was told I had this when I was 19, my life has been a living hell. Most of it. Where does this come from. I wouldnt wish it on my worst enemy. Do other people lead normal lives, work and so forth

For many of us, it stems from our childhood. We were treated poorly, went through abuse, or were abandoned as children and our emotions were never developed past that point. We get angry illogically and quickly, cry easily, see things in a distorted manner (everyone is out to get me) and panic when anyone threatens to leave. Fun, isn't it. I have been somewhat successful in leading an okay life, but I have no idea what this "normal" is.....
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I like this description of BPD because it is more than just a list, and I suppose because I relate to it very much. Learning more about BPD has helped me slow down the processes and find words for what is going on.

When this diagnosis is offered, it isn't always offered as an explanation for how we relate to ourselves and others and the intense emotions that result.
It is a complex way of being, as one thing affects another..affects another. It is no wonder we often feel overwhelmed.
I feel so fortunate to have a psychotherapist who understands, accepts, and is kind and patient.

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The symptoms of borderline patients are similar to those for which most people seek psychiatric help: depression, mood swings, the use and abuse of drugs, alcohol, or food as a means of trying to feel better; obsessions, phobias, feelings of emptiness and loneliness, inability to tolerate being alone.

In addition, these patients displayed great difficulties in controlling ragefulness; they were unusually impulsive, they fell in and out of love suddenly; they tended to idealize other people and then abruptly despise them. A consequence of all this was that they typically looked for help from a therapist and then suddenly quit in terrible disappointment and anger.

Underneath all these symptoms, therapists began to see in borderline people an inability to tolerate the levels of anxiety, frustration, rejection and loss that most people are able to put up with, an inability to soothe and comfort themselves when they become upset, and an inability to control the impulses toward the expression, through action, of love and hate that most people are able to hold in check. What seems to be of central importance in the symptoms and difficulties mentioned above is that the hallmark of the "borderline" personality is great difficulty in holding on to a stable, consistent sense of one's self: "What am I?" these people ask. "My life is in chaos; sometimes I feel like I can do anything—other times I want to die because I feel so incompetent, helpless and loathsome. I'm a lot of different people instead of being just one person."

The one word that best characterizes borderline personality is "instability." Emotions are unstable, fluctuating wildly, often for no discernible reason. Thought processes are unstable—rational and clear at times, quite extreme and distorted at other times. Behavior is unstable—often with periods of excellent conduct, high efficiency and trustworthiness alternating with outbreaks of regression to childlike states of helplessness and anger, suddenly quitting a job, withdrawing into isolation, failing.

Self control is unstable leading to impulsive behaviors and chaotic relationships. A person with borderline personality disorder may sacrifice themselves for others, only to reach their limit and suddenly fly into rageful reproaches, or they may curry favor through obedient submission only to rebel, out of the blue, in a tantrum.

Associated with this instability is terrible anxiety, guilt and self-loathing for which relief is sought at any cost—medicine, drugs, alcohol, overeating, suicide. Sadly, oddly, self-injury is discovered by many borderline people to provide faster relief than anything else—cutting or burning themselves stops the anxiety temporarily.

The effect upon others of all this trouble is profound: family members never know what to expect from their volatile child, siblings, or spouse, except they know they can expect trouble: suicide threats and attempts, self-inflicted injuries, outbursts of rage and recrimination, impulsive marriages, divorces, pregnancies and abortions; repeated starting and stopping of jobs and school careers, and a pervasive sense, on the part of the family, of being unable to help.
thank you for supply this helpful understanding of this condition , acrosstheborderline
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