Borderline PD symptoms description

acrosstheborderline · Aug 31, 2012 at 11:43 PM

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Originally Posted by layla11

I was told I had this when I was 19, my life has been a living hell. Most of it. Where does this come from. I wouldnt wish it on my worst enemy. Do other people lead normal lives, work and so forth

yes it is possible to live a normal life with bpd also the symptoms become less and less problematic as we get older ..

xxxispillcoffeexxx · Sep 07, 2012 at 02:23 PM

This is all great, but what are we supposed to do about it?

junkDNA · Sep 07, 2012 at 02:29 PM

change our beliefs

waggiedog · Sep 10, 2012 at 04:30 PM

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Originally Posted by acrosstheborderline

thank you for supply this helpful understanding of this condition , acrosstheborderline

Yes indeed. I read every word carefully and agree to everything said. While we borderliners try to take on board and understand that is us who are in the most hostile, it's also very difficult to actually know the difference between our misplaced anger/aggression and the type that would effect a 'normal' person in the same way. Thankyou, this is a very inlightening piece of writing, bordering on good advice.

Waggiedog - borderline sufferer. XX

cherubcheeks93 · Sep 18, 2012 at 10:31 AM

"Self control is unstable leading to impulsive behaviors and chaotic relationships. A person with borderline personality disorder may sacrifice themselves for others, only to reach their limit and suddenly fly into rageful reproaches, or they may curry favor through obedient submission only to rebel, out of the blue, in a tantrum."

I can relate to this so much< i dont know how my partner puts up with me

....................... luckly he does

tohelpafriend · Sep 26, 2012 at 02:26 PM

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Originally Posted by xxxispillcoffeexxx

This is all great, but what are we supposed to do about it?

Good point. The more I read about borderline behaviors in relationships, I understand some of my reactions to others' flaws or immaturities.

Do about it? As I learn, I think I find more mercy and forgiveness...almost
detachment from toxic personalities because as I dig deeper into myself,
I learn I am not accountable for their flaws, nor am I interesting in fixing anyone. Nor am I interested in identifying wrongs hurled my way.

I'm more content in my strength, less demanding, but happy when I meet
people I can enjoy hanging with.

Peace,

".....help....a.......friend"

Sep 26, 2012 at 03:53 PM

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Originally Posted by tohelpafriend

Good point. The more I read about borderline behaviors in relationships, I understand some of my reactions to others' flaws or immaturities.

Do about it? As I learn, I think I find more mercy and forgiveness...almost
detachment from toxic personalities because as I dig deeper into myself,
I learn I am not accountable for their flaws, nor am I interesting in fixing anyone. Nor am I interested in identifying wrongs hurled my way.

I'm more content in my strength, less demanding, but happy when I meet
people I can enjoy hanging with.

Peace,

".....help....a.......friend"

You have come much farther than I have. I need to learn to depend on my own strength and feel content being alone if necessary. The longer I am alone, the better I get with depending on myself and my inner strength. I can even get to the point where I don't even feel alone. I am always liable, however, to fall in with a toxic personality or just someone who appears to be genuine. I don't know how to get close, how to have fun, how to trust, and once I get too close and get past some invisible barrier known only to my mind, I do get clingy, manipulative and possessive, and, of course, the relationship doesn't last and all the BPD stuff comes out full-force. I need to depend on myself and my own self-worth no matter what...and I'm not there yet.

Helpafriend, I understand you're not accountable to other people's flaws and that you can't fix them, but don't become cynical towards others either. I admire your strength and hope I can eventually get there.

tohelpafriend · Sep 30, 2012 at 06:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Maranara

You have come much farther than I have. I need to learn to depend on my own strength and feel content being alone if necessary. The longer I am alone, the better I get with depending on myself and my inner strength. I can even get to the point where I don't even feel alone. I am always liable, however, to fall in with a toxic personality or just someone who appears to be genuine. I don't know how to get close, how to have fun, how to trust, and once I get too close and get past some invisible barrier known only to my mind, I do get clingy, manipulative and possessive, and, of course, the relationship doesn't last and all the BPD stuff comes out full-force. I need to depend on myself and my own self-worth no matter what...and I'm not there yet.

Helpafriend, I understand you're not accountable to other people's flaws and that you can't fix them, but don't become cynical towards others either. I admire your strength and hope I can eventually get there.

Maranara: Hi, and ty for your response. That is a good point you make.
In the next BPD chat I hope to share some perspectives from recent research work. Like how to stop the repeating self destructive behaviors, understanding the core issues, defense mechanisms and compulsive behaviors leaking out for the borderline. Your 'invisible barrier' might be fear.
I look forward to sharing thoughts in chat. Peace, "tohelpafriend"

bobwnh · Oct 04, 2012 at 07:27 PM

[quote=ECHOES;1155489]I like this description of BPD because it is more than just a list, and I suppose because I relate to it very much. Learning more about BPD has helped me slow down the processes and find words for what is going on.

When this diagnosis is offered, it isn't always offered as an explanation for how we relate to ourselves and others and the intense emotions that result.
It is a complex way of being, as one thing affects another..affects another. It is no wonder we often feel overwhelmed.
I feel so fortunate to have a psychotherapist who understands, accepts, and is kind and patient.

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Is it known how often BPD's follow through with suicide threats?

bobwnh · Oct 04, 2012 at 07:48 PM

My wife fits this like a glove. I wish I knew BPD when I met her. So many years thinking this is what everybody deals with....

flipper34 · Oct 08, 2012 at 03:52 AM

Thank you for posting this. I haven't been able to find anything that was that easy to understand. Most descriptions I've read are filled with psychological jargon and I get lost in the point. It makes perfect sense now. I was just diagnosed with BPD and this description suits me.

Flip

Oct 08, 2012 at 10:36 AM

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Originally Posted by acrosstheborderline

yes it is possible to live a normal life with bpd also the symptoms become less and less problematic as we get older ..

That is a theory but not always true. I'd been relatively fine for years and then circumstances put me right back where I was as a teenager. I've met a number of people on here in similar situations. I think BPD can improve or get worse....it all depends on what life throws at you. If you have nothing dramatic happen, it will get better over time. If you get involved in a relationship, are afraid of being abandonded, or adverse things happen, it will come right back. Just depends.

powertools321 · Oct 15, 2012 at 11:02 AM

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Originally Posted by shelly belly

does anyone know of any support groups out there. The mental health team are failing me big time

Check out NAMI, and see if they have anything in your area.

powertools321 · Oct 15, 2012 at 11:06 AM

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Originally Posted by Maranara

That is a theory but not always true. I'd been relatively fine for years and then circumstances put me right back where I was as a teenager. I've met a number of people on here in similar situations. I think BPD can improve or get worse....it all depends on what life throws at you. If you have nothing dramatic happen, it will get better over time. If you get involved in a relationship, are afraid of being abandonded, or adverse things happen, it will come right back. Just depends.

I agree 100%. I was coping fine until approx. five years ago then bam, crash and burn. Many hospitalizations, meds, etc.. So it getting better with age is definitely not the rule.

dmliddicoat16 · Oct 18, 2012 at 08:49 AM

Power Tools 321 is right, this is more like me than Bipolar disorder. It's actually creepy, and makes me wanna cry..

AngelWolf3 · Oct 19, 2012 at 07:29 AM

This is a really good description, and easy to read...I don't know if I'm glad that there is something to describe how I feel, or freaked.

Oh well. Good description anyway!

Endeavy · Oct 27, 2012 at 11:36 AM

This is so enlightening thanks for posting ,I was offically diagnosed with BPD 7 months ago after being trated for Depression ,Anxiety ,OCD and few others in a period of 20 years but what I could never understand was why out of lots of other people with depression I always felt extra emotional, extra scared ect but I have spent my life trying to please everybody to the extent I actually feel other's pain /mood. I am in DBT therapy now learning new skills but if I feel so sad if I take a step back I want to give up, but I have to try for my kids and Husband ,I wish I could just wake up every day and feel ok I am not asking to feel over the moon just ok to get through the day .

hoping4best · Oct 31, 2012 at 09:43 AM

looks like thats me!

leerk73 · Nov 03, 2012 at 07:39 PM

instablity pretty much sums up my life......

Paris67 · Nov 09, 2012 at 04:46 AM

is this the most scariest of mental illness. I'm scared of myself my thoughts, being alone and especially my impulsivness especially suicide attempts. They have been quite serious. Last attempt I was found unconcious by my Dad. I wished he'd never found me. I wished I could have, "Do not ressucitate" on my hospital file.

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xxxispillcoffeexxx Member Member Since Aug 2012 Location: Arkansas Posts: 79 11 97 hugs given	Sep 07, 2012 at 02:23 PM #242 This is all great, but what are we supposed to do about it?
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bobwnh Junior Member Member Since Oct 2012 Location: Northern Virginia Posts: 7 11	Oct 04, 2012 at 07:48 PM #250 My wife fits this like a glove. I wish I knew BPD when I met her. So many years thinking this is what everybody deals with....
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dmliddicoat16 Member Member Since Oct 2012 Location: USA, Idaho Posts: 32 11 4 hugs given	Oct 18, 2012 at 08:49 AM #255 Power Tools 321 is right, this is more like me than Bipolar disorder. It's actually creepy, and makes me wanna cry.. __________________ "Live long and prosper." -Spock
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AngelWolf3 Pack of One Member Since May 2012 Location: in the US! Posts: 4,068 11 1,861 hugs given	Oct 19, 2012 at 07:29 AM #256 This is a really good description, and easy to read...I don't know if I'm glad that there is something to describe how I feel, or freaked. Oh well. Good description anyway!
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hoping4best Veteran Member Member Since Jul 2009 Posts: 582 14 19 hugs given	Oct 31, 2012 at 09:43 AM #258 looks like thats me!
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leerk73 New Member Member Since Aug 2012 Posts: 3 11	Nov 03, 2012 at 07:39 PM #259 instablity pretty much sums up my life......
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Paris67 Junior Member Member Since Nov 2012 Location: Australia Posts: 9 11	Nov 09, 2012 at 04:46 AM #260 is this the most scariest of mental illness. I'm scared of myself my thoughts, being alone and especially my impulsivness especially suicide attempts. They have been quite serious. Last attempt I was found unconcious by my Dad. I wished he'd never found me. I wished I could have, "Do not ressucitate" on my hospital file.
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