Rejection

I've been feeling a bit better today untill someone didn't text me back. I feel rejected and may mood has gone down hill and it's just because the person didn't text right back . It's not normal to feel this way over nothing . I hate this

I’m sorry you’re having a hard day . Maybe the person who didn’t text back is just busy?

I find it helps me to remember this quote “Don’t worry about what other people think of you. Chances are, they’re not thinking of you at all!”

It helps to remind me that people usually don’t mean anything personal by their actions. They’re just wrapped up in their own lives. 🤷🏻*♀️

Hope this helps

I agree that this is the most likely explanation. It’s true, most people aren’t meaning anything personal and many people don’t text back straight away

I wish there was a “professional” who could genuinely help you, but as in the UK this isn’t likely. I don’t enjoy being invalidated by “professionals” (irl) who, frankly, should know better.

And as well as invalidation being a butcher style of therapy and useless, it can be dangerous

Apologies for the off topic rant. I know there are some good ones even in the UK. But there are few, imho

So sorry your day went poorly. Mine did too for similarly small reasons. I was asked to do a favor and instead of saying yes, I said yes but... and added conditions. The person who asked didn’t like that. I knew I was overreacting but it didn’t change the fact that I was panicking inside. This disease isn’t for light weights.

For sure .. no MI is for lightweights

Maybe it would help to change how you communicate with people? Rejection feels ugly. And I’ve found most people don’t return my texts unless they want something from me. So I’ve stopped texting for anything other than to communicate necessary things, like stuff I would need to put on a sticky note. Or to say something positive to somebody. I’m spending more time here or having a meaningful conversation with someone. I used to always text people back but I found the very people who blew off my texts tended to be the ones expecting me to respond to theirs. An exception to that though... plenty of people truly just don’t like texting. I’ve become one of those people now. 🤷🏼*♀️

I prefer texting (or any kind of writing ✍️ communication) because I have the luxury of thinking about my words rather than just blurting out whatever because a response is expected from the other person.

I don't text much except to my husband and daughter. I know they have other things going on.

I sometimes take the absence personally but realize my reaction isn't helping me. It doesn't matter if they answer or not, because all I'm doing myself mad or upset.

I massively sympathise. I have a lot of trouble with the topic of people not getting back to me, because I feel like I'm losing them. Its like sand running through my fingers out of my hand. I'm so scared of ending up alone because I spent so much of my life being on my own with no friends (I was homeschooled and didn't go out). This fear is gripping me very badly at the moment.
The weird part is that just a few weeks ago I was feeling completely "myself" and rational, and would say something light-hearted like "oh they must just be busy, they'll text soon " with all of the tranquility in the world. Today for example, I was supposed to hear from a friend about meeting up and it got to 3pm (different timezone here) and still no word from her. I had sent her a little nudge in the morning as well and she had been online but hadn't answered. It felt so uncomfortable to be obsessing over it. I knew what I was thinking was irrational but I couldn't stop feeling rejected. I felt rejected and I figured that she wouldn't want to spend time with someone who's feeling depressed and constantly negative. I went through phases of crying and anger.

My point here is that I feel you, and I know what this feels like. I don't know the answer just yet, as I'm still waiting to go to my doctor this Monday to finally get diagnosed. As soon as I find anything out I'll let you know.
Meditation/mindfulness (yes I know its hard to do!) did eventually help me to feel more stable in my emotions and rational in my thinking. I hope this helps.

Big sympathetic hug from Spain.
Ashley x