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Aug 31, 2018 at 02:20 PM
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I have a “friend” who I think may have histrionic personality disorder
 I’ve tried and tried to help him. I’ve “failed” (Not anyone here)“C’mon babe” “I just want to see you smile”  How do I, politely, exit, from this “friendship” or from certain other cluster B “friendships” In my life, many have enjoyed hurting me And more have enjoyed using me I do not enjoy either hurting or using people  I’m at a loss Do I really always have to be polite  (Not about anyone on pc) __________________ 
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Aug 31, 2018 at 02:30 PM
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Maybe slowly back off from seeing him? Like go from seeing him once a day (for example) to once every two days, then every few days, then once a week, etc, you get the idea
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Aug 31, 2018 at 06:32 PM
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Nowadays I'm pretty-much completely reclusive. But in the past, the few times I had anything resembling a friend, when I was done with them I just lopped them off the way one would prune unwanted branches from a tree.
 So I don't know as I am anyone to comment knowledgeably on this subject.  However here are links to 5 articles, from PsychCentral's archives, on the subject of ending friendships & surviving a friendship break-up: Knowing When to Say Goodbye: How to Break Up With a Friend Ending A Friendship | Relationship Corner 8 Steps to Closure When a Friendship Ends Surviving a Friendship Break Up Video: When a Friendship Ends 
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Aug 31, 2018 at 06:55 PM
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I would suggest to give yourself some space from the person and let things fade out. Then there are no bad feelings. I have personally regretted when there were bad feelings at the end of any relationship.
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Sep 01, 2018 at 12:17 AM
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I am all about blunt honesty. I would straight up tell them what the problem is, cut contact and move forward. I am also the type who rips off bandaids. I just like to get it done.
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