DBT group

So I go to DBT therapy group and it doesn’t seem to be I don’t know working or flowing well. I need advice is this normal for this to happen to DBT group or therapy group in general.
So what happened was I was at group therapy. I go to group therapy and individual therapy because that is part of the program for this type of therapy. Group therapy is 2 hours long 😣 too.
Anyway what happened was I was explaining some thing and this one girl who has eating disorder jumped in and went on and on about her situation. Then once she was done well she was still going around circles , it ended and then someone else had there turn.
Then I asked the therapist what this word meant since he said the word and then he said to everyone “translator please”
I felt so ashamed because I didn’t knew what the word meant. I told my partner and my mum they thought that therapist was mean and uncalled for.
Gosh after that one the therapist ask for a example from us that he could help us on. So I mentioned what do you do say for example I said my mum is always looking on her phone and when you try to talk to her, she ignores you so you have to call her name. Then he said how phones are design to be addictive and how there was this article he read. I was thinking 🤔 oh yeah I read article about that too.
Then suddenly the girl beside me just jumped in my conversation and said “well, my step mum told my sister and I we stop using our phones because we are addicted to them. I will use my phone because someone will reply to me and I’m anxious so I have to fiddle with something “ after that happened she said to me “sorry I jumped in” I’m feeling pisst and this other girl in the group had her turn.

I hated group DBT when I took in 2012. We had these men in the group that would prey upon all the women who was there no it was a forever commute for 4hours. I never had individual therapy either. I always had to ask for all the words that were challenging to be understood to be simplified by the therapists of the group. Because if I was having trouble with them then more then likely others were too. But I was like yourself cut down the first time I did so, I was instructed by my mental health team to talk with the therapists one on one explaining my needs to them. It was horrendous at first I wrote it all down and gave it to them and they then made example of me in the group. I went back to my mental health team and told them what happened. They phoned the group leaders and basically tore strips off of them and gave me the choice to go back or to quit. I decided to quit it was like 3 sessions left and I didn’t like being treated this way anymore. My sister convinced me to go back for one more session to see if it was any different and drove me there and drove me home. I didn’t have a better session I excused myself for the bathroom gathering all my things and taking them with me and kept on walking out the door. They targeted me every chance they could I felt like I was being dismembered as I sat there. if I wanted to have that I would have stayed home with my mom@ her house.

My psychiatrist was a little disappointed but after explaining it to her, she understood. My mental health team decided to not press the facts of the DBT ever again. My new psychiatrist has pressed the issue of DBT which doesn’t make me feel any better about trying it again. After that one bad experience I don’t want to try it again. I am not going to go to the next meeting of DBT I found out it’s like 3 days a week of 2hours each time that’s over kill and I don’t want to do that I would have no life. I told my psychiatrist the last time I saw her that I wasn’t going it’s my life not hers and she could shove it up where the sun don’t shine. Lol.

Yes what the therapist did to u was wrong and yes what the girl interrupted you was showing her maturity.

I actually had a good experience with DBT group & individual therapy, but I found it was a lot of work, as to get the most of it, I really had to work on using the skills between groups, and keep track of it all on my skills and emotions charts.

I now have a really good workbook on DBT skills that I find helpful to refer back to whenever I'm feeling stuck.

It was a bit of a game changer for me really.

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DBT is really helping me, I'm a few weeks away from graduating the program. I make better decisions now. I don't just respond emotionally. I think first. I love dbt. I'm going to miss the people. But the skills have really benefited me.